Topic: How did you pick your user name?
Member # 30434
| Posted: 6:13 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
Didn't want to give up, and just living was in consideration.
WW 47 FOO Issues
DDay 11/09 Coworker
High School Sweethearts
8 months TT
Sons 19 and 14
Recovery is building a pyramid of inference from which to climb and see clearer, and heavy usage of the reflexive loop.
Posts: 719 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Ches
Member # 31217
| Posted: 6:28 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
After D-day, I saw an image of a man trying to stand on marbles. Of course you can't stand on marbles and that was how I saw fWH at the time and how he really was. I didn't want to reinforce anymore weakness in myself so I choose standing on marble as a way to encourage strength in myself.
At one time he was a man standing on marbles. Now I am a woman standing on marble.....
We are done fighting with each other and decide to fight FOR each other.
Posts: 737 | Registered: Feb 2011
Member # 14993
| Posted: 6:38 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
I used the five digit passcode for MangleHeart's luggage...
Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.
Posts: 17093 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Further North than South
Member # 34353
| Posted: 7:42 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
I tried another name and couldn't get on the site, so I just put my initial, his and both my sons
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile
Posts: 1610 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
Member # 38763
| Posted: 9:13 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
So many mysteries come to light! Yay!
Mine is pretty simple. I'm beautiful and it's never mattered one bit. Inside...outside...two different men in marriage and I wasn't enough for either of them.
Now, I'm empty because it's really hard to stay human after 20+ years of almost constant fuckery.
Hopefully I won't always be this way.
Me: 42 BS
Him: 38 ws
Ow: 44 head case, no obs
5 DD's: 21, 18, 17, 15, 10
Last D-day: August 2012 with lots of very blurry lines.
Posts: 242 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Washington State
Member # 32660
| Posted: 10:37 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
I tried "betrayedforyears" but it was taken. So, I used the Italian translation. Ciao
Me- BS (63)
M- 42 yrs
dday#1 11/09, Dday #2 10/11 and many since
P.A.'s - too many to count
LTA's too many to count (one for 37 yrs)
escorts etc- way too many to count.
Broken heart- too many times to count.
R- Getting bet
Posts: 428 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
Member # 39911
| Posted: 12:13 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013|
The "broken" part is obvious. :( I have danced most of my life, - ballet, tap, theater, etc. I thought "broken dancer" was kind of a word play on "break dancer", although my old ass can't break dance at all! I just like the number 7.
Me: BS - 58
Him: WS - 56
Married 34 yrs
Latest DD - April 2013, PA
Posts: 186 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 35417
| Posted: 5:22 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013|
Its what I want to do.
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
Posts: 1879 | Registered: Apr 2012
Member # 41181
| Posted: 8:05 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
My youngest called me Boss Ass Bitch when I confronted STBX after my girls discovered his cheating. I was born in 61.
Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.
Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
Member # 1224
| Posted: 8:43 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
Shiloe is the name of my horse.
But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA with married ho-worker. Kicked him out, he filed
Posts: 586 | Registered: Mar 2003
Member # 41961
| Posted: 8:50 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
Because I am scared of WH, my future, and what will happen.... He has broken our marriage vows, and I'm finally broken down and giving up on him...
BS: Me 44 WH: 50 Kids: 13, 15, 17, 28 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for
Posts: 417 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Midwest
Member # 40170
| Posted: 8:52 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
I was hurt but not so much that I can't be repaired. Working on on it.
Me BS 32
DDay July 13'
3 young kids
Posts: 300 | Registered: Aug 2013
Member # 40022
| Posted: 9:16 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
I was just a few weeks out from Dday and was pretty sure I wanted to try to work on the marriage, but still feeling devastated.
Madhatters, M 31 yrs
FWW/BS 57-BS/FWH 56
Separated 5 mos in 07.His DDay,11/07.False R since 07. My DDay,7/5/13."Once you are real you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always.”
― Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit
Posts: 128 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: United States
Member # 41745
| Posted: 10:12 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
Greek mythology...the Phoenix a bird gets destroyed and dies by fire then rises from the ashes and is reborn/ renewed...seemed appropriate being that it feels like he really burned me to my death living through all this...but I'm hopeful I will rise from the ash restoring my former glory and beauty
"The grass is greener on the other side because of all the shit that is used to fertilize it"
Him: WH after 8 yrs M...wow to think he held my hand during labor twice
Me: thought I was a cool loving wife
D Day: 7 mos ago RIP soul
Posts: 212 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Dante's Inferno
Member # 38958
| Posted: 10:55 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
When I first found SI, I considered my family to consist of myself and my four children. I love them dearly and I kept going only for them.
3 daughters, 1 son
Married 10 years, together 13
DDay 3/14/2013, four year PA
"Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to the way they used to be."
Posts: 356 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Canada
Member # 37468
| Posted: 11:06 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
I used a random username generator because I didn't want the username to have any possible link to me.
Well.. I did cheat a bit. I selected the one I found the most amusing out of several.
Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).
D-Day was April 2012. Divorced Jul 2013. Moved ~1000 miles away (as the crow flies) Jul 2014.
Posts: 792 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Pacific Northwest
Member # 34262
| Posted: 11:28 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
It's a combo of my high school mascot and my college colors. The 4 was because Gmail already had purple jacket 1-3?!?
Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish
Posts: 2124 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
Member # 41568
| Posted: 12:54 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014|
Found SI within a Day or two of Dday and moving out.. Just how I felt...
Mostly not so lost and have found hope again...Yay..
Be careful who you trust. Even your shadow will abandon you when it's dark.....
Posts: 112 | Registered: Dec 2013
Member # 38973
| Posted: 1:06 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014|
I've had a lot of early childhood trauma and as a teen identified with the Pink Floyd song, "Comfortably Numb." outside of early abuse (by someone I had lived with then, not my parents), my dad was also a serial cheater. when mom would find out the world became like that song to me. Unreal. Surreal.
I thought I had left such type trauma way behind until I was struck numb again by encountering the email that proved my husband's affair. A very weird moment. It was like I was in the corner of the room watching my body read it.
[This message edited by StruckNumb at 1:18 AM, February 2nd (Sunday)]
f?WH - 49
m27 yrs, T 28, no kids
OW-WH's former CW, friends + 20yr
DDay-11/16/12, LT EA, 4y? PA, manymany
EA with FFriends over the years
Is there an end to blindness in sight?
Posts: 77 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: N.California
Member # 40937
| Posted: 4:01 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014|
I stress bake. My kids teachers and my neighbors get lots of treats.
BS me 39
WH him 40
Dd 7/1/13. TT 7/22/13
SAHM with 4 wonderful kids
Posts: 183 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Kansas City
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