Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying
Welcome

Forums

Guidelines

Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library

Media

Contact Us
lies
cover
In Association with Amazon.com
Support
Infidelity -
-
like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
[Register]
Newest Member: tryingtolove (44683)

General Post Reply     Print Topic    
User Topic: How did you pick your user name?
Used Again
♂ Member
Member # 16567
Default  Posted: 8:43 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My wife had several affairs and I stayed to care for my children; didn't know about SI until last couple of affairs. She USED me to take care of everything else while she was screwing her boyfriends. Hence, usedagain was chosen since I had been her back-up plan for her affairs.


My wife has friends in low places.

Posts: 325 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: Coastal Georgia
hurtingfool
♂ Member
Member # 42196
Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm just a fool in pain. Came pretty easy.


Me: BS 31
Her: WS 29
10 years of marriage
12 years together
3 kids
DDay:January 16, 2014

Posts: 129 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NW US
Chefj9
♀ Member
Member # 38604
Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am a Chef and it's my nickname combined.


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 470 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
LostSamurai
♂ Member
Member # 41347
Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lost - because wasn't sure which way was up when everything came out.

Samurai - I study martial arts and always wanted to live by a code of honor.


I am now nothing by a mere Ronin.

Posts: 1036 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Maryland
sideblinded
♀ Member
Member # 41475
Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Blindsided: "to take somebody unawares suddenly, with detrimental results to that person."

I think blindsided may have already been taken, hence the transposition of the word. At any rate, it fits so I wear it.


Me: BS, 56
Him: WH, 51, possible SA.
3 kids, 19, 17, 15
M 21 yrs.

Posts: 59 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Midwest
OnAnIsland
♀ Member
Member # 34319
Default  Posted: 9:41 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

on an island
is how i felt when i found out about the affair- alone- alone- alone- stranded

we had moved away from family and friends about a year before the affair began- so the isolation again felt apt


D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013

Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou


Posts: 1478 | Registered: Dec 2011
solus sto
♀ Member
Member # 30989
Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine is Latin for "I stand alone."

It works.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8541 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
WarpSpeed
♂ Member
Member # 32051
Default  Posted: 11:34 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

2010

Jan 29 came home from a business trip to an empty closet and a note on the bed. ILYBNILWY

Mar 3 she filed

May 4 divorce final

July 13 she tells me about A and we decide to R

Aug 15 we remarry

It all just seemed an unbelivably fast trip in six and a half months


Me: BS (51)
Her: fWW (50)
Married 26 years
Two sons in college
Empty closet and note on bed Jan 2010, She filed for D Mar 2010, D final May 2010, Actually had D-Day and found out why it all happened July 2010. Remarried on 23rd Anniv Aug 2010

Posts: 1489 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Dallas
gahurts
♂ Member
Member # 33699
Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just getting caught up on these. I love the creativity at a time when our worlds are coming to an end.

Purplejacket4 - I always thought your username was because you wore purple scrubs. I always pictured you making rounds in a purple lab coat.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3394 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
MissMouseMo
♀ Member
Member # 38562
Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Because I feel shy and scared (mousy) and from the Midwest.


It is the gut-wrenching, down-to-your-soul honesty that helps so much. ~paraphrased from CancunCrushed
"I edit, therefore I am." -BionicGal

Posts: 263 | Registered: Feb 2013
Patsfan09
♀ Member
Member # 25965
Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Patriots fan, former season tix holder
1st DDay was in 2009


WH-43
BW-44
T-18y M-15y
2 children (dd-13, ds-12)
1 EA/PA 5/2009-10/2012 (with multiple ddays)
Final dday 4/10/14
*went from EA to PA while we were in MC for over a year.

Divorcing his broken @ss


Posts: 99 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: USA
jackie89
♀ Member
Member # 38271
Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine is so dumb compared to all the creative names here.

I think I read one single post, and was soo happy I found a forum that I could relate to, that I signed up right away without looking at the usernames. So I always liked the name jackie, 89- year I got married!!


Separated/divorcing

"The Secret of Change is to focus all your energy - not on fighting the old, but on building the new" ~~Lori Greiner FB post~~


Posts: 468 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
scaredyKat
♀ Member
Member # 25560
Default  Posted: 9:45 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Meet a friend. I was a children's librarian.

I just like cats better. And K seemed to fit. Yes, I'm aware there isn't usually an "e" after the r.

[This message edited by scaredyKat at 9:47 PM, February 2nd (Sunday)]


Me-BS-60
HIM-SAFWH-63
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

Posts: 3426 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
deena
♀ Member
Member # 27275
Default  Posted: 12:54 AM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Deena spelled backwards is "a need" with out the space

I had many needs when I joined SI.

[This message edited by deena at 12:55 AM, February 3rd (Monday)]


Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's
better to leave them broken than to hurt
yourself putting it back together.


Posts: 2881 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Canada
FracturedSoul
♀ New Member
Member # 41792
Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It describes how I feel...fractured...but fractures do heal if given enough time and attention...regular wound cleaning etc


BS-33
FWH-33
Dating since 1997. Married since 2004.
DDay: 09/12/2012
4 OW from 2006-2012. Discovered all @ once.

Posts: 41 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: South Africa
NoGoodUsername
♂ Member
Member # 40181
Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I promised my BW that I would get on SI. At the time, I was a complete mess and couldn't come up with a good username. I refused to delay getting on until I could come up with one, thus, NoGoodUsername. She got that account and password too.

Is anyone else finding this thread triggery/therapeutic?


Me: WH
Her: BW
Dday 7/11/13
"May you be protected from hearts that are not humble, tongues that are not wise and eyes that have forgotten how to cry."

Posts: 236 | Registered: Aug 2013
forkinthehead
♀ New Member
Member # 42267
Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Due to his stupidity...made me want to stick a fork in my head. Seriously, why be in a relationship and cheat? Now I would settle to stick the fork in his head.


Just when you think it's safe to go into the water. Life steps in and takes a big bite. Let me rephrase that to a HUGE bite out of ones ass.

Posts: 33 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: northeast
lordhasaplan?
♂ Member
Member # 30079
Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was recently baptized when I learned of my W affair. All I could think of was, Lord has a plan? Not so sure.....


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

Posts: 1888 | Registered: Nov 2010
nothing2save
♂ Member
Member # 35483
Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I joined I really felt like there was nothing to save, meaning the marriage. Turns out I was right.


BS (me) 45
WS (her) 45
Married 17 yrs, Together 24 yrs
2 kids (S 14, D 10)
DDay 1/29/12 (OM #1)
DDay #2 11/19/12 (OM #2)
Divorced 04/14
Two EA/PA confirmed. MANY others suspected. Much like her, the actual total doesn't matter.

Posts: 60 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: To Be Determined
outtanowhere
♀ Member
Member # 39001
Default  Posted: 11:24 AM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Suckerpunched was already taken. There were no words I could think of that would describe my pain and complete bewilderment.


BS - 57
SAWH - 60 multiple encounters with prostitutes and other sex workers
Married 37 years
Dday - 2/19/13 - found the emails
He promised me Heaven then put me thru hell

Posts: 714 | Registered: Apr 2013
Topic Posts: 259
Pages: 1 · 2 · 3 · 4 · 5 · 6 · 7 · 8 · 9 · 10 · 11 · 12 · 13

Return to Forum: General Post Reply to this Topic
adultry
Go to :
madness  
© 2002 - 2014 SurvivingInfidelity.com. All Rights Reserved.