Topic: How did you pick your user name?
Member # 39193
| Posted: 1:20 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014|
I love to travel and my parents don't. One time my mom said to me, "I don't know where you got that gypsy blood! You're always flying off somewhere." So I became gypsybird. '87 was my high school grad year.
I've used this name for a lot of different things. If my XWH were to poke around on SI, he would recognize me immediately. When I first joined, that never occurred to me. Then for a little while I worried, now I couldn't care less.
Me: Looking forward to the future
Him: Left behind in the past
Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. ~ JK Rowling
Posts: 659 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
Member # 41580
| Posted: 1:58 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014|
I chose undertherug because that is where I swept everything.
Posts: 58 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: United States
Member # 37437
| Posted: 2:36 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014|
nickname one of my marine buddies gave me years ago.
Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates
Posts: 1018 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Midwest
Member # 41205
| Posted: 2:47 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014|
Melian is a character from Silmarillion by JRR Tolkien. 40 is my age.
Together 7 years, married 17 years
DD1:8/12/2013 -OW1-PA 1.5 months in 2009
DD2:8/17/2013 - OW2-EA Spring 2013- He tried to hit on her but she denied.
"You can't fix a broken man, but he can break you"
Posts: 152 | Registered: Nov 2013
Member # 41340
| Posted: 2:54 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014|
Dystopia is an imaginary place where people are unhappy and not treated fairly. I just felt like I had entered my own dystopia- but it wasn't imaginary. Now- I'm on the road to my own life back, my own happiness, my own new beginning, and my own better place. But for SI- I will always be myowndystopia and work to keep myself out of that dark dreary place!
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)
"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Posts: 408 | Registered: Nov 2013
Member # 41218
| Posted: 4:23 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014|
I didn't want to reuse a user name so I made one up on the spot, more or less on impulse.
WH's LTA lasted nearly three years. In fact, OW would constantly refer to that fact in her emails and voicemails -- I guess it was a point of pride for her? WH didn't like it and in fact gets nitpicky when I refer to his three year A since it was officially two years and ten months!
And I felt like a fool when I first registered. I got played, big time. I kept second guessing myself for not acting on my suspicions and for believing WH's lies.
Except in my darkest moments I've moved on from the self blame.
Me - BW 36
Him - WH 41
Together 12 years, married 7
3 year LTA with former coworker
He says he wants to R... can I live with what he's done?
Posts: 148 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: United States
Member # 11053
| Posted: 4:25 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014|
I knew that I would work very hard to forgive my H even if we didn't reconcile but I vowed to myself that I would NEVER FORGET especially if we did reconcile. My H's 8 year LTA to me was an indicator that he had deep-seated issues. Anyone who could lie and cheat and live a double life for that long was someone who I believed I would be crazy to trust fully ever again. I could not let myself ever forget what he was capable of and to this day, I hold onto my memory of his years of deceit as a means of self protection.
D-day - 12/23/05 LTA - 8 years.
"Love's a matter of trust and I just want to believe in us." M McBride
Posts: 1901 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: A tunnel where I'm beginning to see the light
Member # 40184
| Posted: 6:11 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014|
The day I registered I was so damn upset that I could not stop sobbing. I just layed on my bed hysterical and crying these big sobbing tears. I was so overly emotional. Emotional woman just didn't sound right so.....hence the name emotionalgirl.
1st D day: Saturday July 20,2013
2nd D day....when the s**t really hit the fan and the truth came out.Saturday August 3,2013
3rd D day: Friday August 16, 2013...NC sent Friday Aug 30 4th D day NOV 11
Married 25 years....finally in R
Posts: 369 | Registered: Aug 2013
Member # 32554
| Posted: 6:48 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014|
I wanted it to NOT reflect anything about my ex or the pain he gave me. I wanted it to be about ME. ME ME ME. At the time I didn't know who I was anymore. I was dead. I was a ghost. I dimly recalled a piece of myself from years gone by, and remembered that it gave me pleasure. And thus I named myself.
Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
Posts: 9238 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Member # 18622
| Posted: 8:36 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014|
Mine is what my fWH sometimes calls me. He has no idea this board exists and has no reason to look for it or me. But if he did, he would know immediately and that's fine as I have nothing to hide.
Half of the truth is a WHOLE lie.
Posts: 521 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: Somewhere Over The Rainbow
Member # 41631
| Posted: 9:03 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014|
Because I say YES to keeping my PANTS on and being loyal. I was tired of crying when I signed up and the thought of my username made me smile. Not exactly sure why...it felt powerful at the time, like a big statement.
Married 11years together 13 years
"I don't love you anymore" 17/11/2013
DD 9 DS 7
Posts: 254 | Registered: Dec 2013
Member # 3903
| Posted: 9:09 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014|
I am a major old-timer. The Phoenix in the Harry Potter book rose out of the ashes. It was before the movie. It turned out to be true!
There is life on the other side of hell.
Posts: 1584 | Registered: Mar 2004
Member # 38303
| Posted: 10:30 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014|
On DDAY I came across a picture of OMs dick while I was looking through my wife's phone as she slept beside me... It felt like being punched in the face.
"The thing that always seems to be shocking to wayward wives is the simple fact that the man you choose to reconcile with is not the same man you cheated on." - a friend.
Posts: 1911 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Illinois
Member # 39362
| Posted: 10:45 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014|
I wanted a username that felt hopeful and positive, even though I was devastated. On some level I wanted to believe that this too would pass.
Right after dday, I kept saying that I was in the biggest storm of my life. A friend off handedly said "there's always a rainbow after every storm" and so I chose my username.
There is always a rainbow after every storm.
Posts: 388 | Registered: May 2013 | From: California
Member # 32810
| Posted: 2:36 AM, February 10th (Monday), 2014|
I have an online shopping problem.
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Posts: 13554 | Registered: Jul 2011
Member # 41139
| Posted: 8:05 AM, February 10th (Monday), 2014|
I feel like the life (I thought) I had has been abandoned. At first not by me and now it seems like it's long gone.
Children (1yr) (1 due Mar '14)
DD#1 - 9/28/13 DD#2 11/24/13
Posts: 84 | Registered: Oct 2013
Member # 42192
| Posted: 8:08 AM, February 10th (Monday), 2014|
Mine is self explanatory, I was sad...
On any given day you have the power to say "my story is not going to end like this"
Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014
Posts: 533 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Land down under
Member # 42399
| Posted: 5:19 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014|
After DDay I started to physically twitch. My hands shake now. Sometimes my eye twitches. I shake my foot. My teeth chatter at odd times..
"My heart was broken and my head was just barely inhabitable. " - Anne Lamont
Posts: 128 | Registered: Feb 2014
Member # 39703
| Posted: 7:01 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014|
I turned 50, and my husband blew off my birthday. Two weeks later, I went in for a checkup, and was diagnosed with hpv. Nice 50th birthday present, eh?
[This message edited by hpv50 at 7:07 PM, February 10th (Monday)]
Me: BS - 50; Him: WH - 51, vulnerable NPD
married 19 years, maybe 20th soon?
DD1 4/22/13 (hpv diagnosis)
DD2 5/9/13 (gaslighting begins)
DD3 6/30/13 (admits EA)
DD4 7/7/13 admits "trying to date other women" for 3 years
Posts: 129 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 23360
| Posted: 11:58 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014|
The A had become a monster in my life. I was afraid it would destroy me... Us... 6 yrs later my name has proved true.
Me BH 49 her FWW 49
Dday June 2, 08
Married 22 yrs at time of A
Posts: 197 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Canada
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