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User Topic: How did you pick your user name?
gypsybird87
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Member # 39193
Default  Posted: 1:20 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love to travel and my parents don't. One time my mom said to me, "I don't know where you got that gypsy blood! You're always flying off somewhere." So I became gypsybird. '87 was my high school grad year.

I've used this name for a lot of different things. If my XWH were to poke around on SI, he would recognize me immediately. When I first joined, that never occurred to me. Then for a little while I worried, now I couldn't care less.

*waves*
Hi XWH!


Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin


Posts: 912 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
undertherug
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Member # 41580
Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I chose undertherug because that is where I swept everything.

Posts: 66 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: United States
RyeBread
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Member # 37437
Default  Posted: 2:36 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

nickname one of my marine buddies gave me years ago.


Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

Posts: 1030 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Midwest
Melian40
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Member # 41205
Default  Posted: 2:47 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Melian is a character from Silmarillion by JRR Tolkien. 40 is my age.


BW-me:40
BH-him:41
DD-age 9
Together 7 years, married 17 years
DD1:8/12/2013 -OW1-PA 1.5 months in 2009
DD2:8/17/2013 - OW2-EA Spring 2013- He tried to hit on her but she denied.

"You can't fix a broken man, but he can break you"


Posts: 208 | Registered: Nov 2013
myowndystopia
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Member # 41340
Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dystopia is an imaginary place where people are unhappy and not treated fairly. I just felt like I had entered my own dystopia- but it wasn't imaginary. Now- I'm on the road to my own life back, my own happiness, my own new beginning, and my own better place. But for SI- I will always be myowndystopia and work to keep myself out of that dark dreary place!


Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Adele


Posts: 408 | Registered: Nov 2013
TheThreeYearFool
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Member # 41218
Default  Posted: 4:23 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't want to reuse a user name so I made one up on the spot, more or less on impulse.

WH's LTA lasted nearly three years. In fact, OW would constantly refer to that fact in her emails and voicemails -- I guess it was a point of pride for her? WH didn't like it and in fact gets nitpicky when I refer to his three year A since it was officially two years and ten months!

And I felt like a fool when I first registered. I got played, big time. I kept second guessing myself for not acting on my suspicions and for believing WH's lies.

Except in my darkest moments I've moved on from the self blame.


Me - BW 36
Him - WH 41
Together 12 years, married 7
3 year LTA with former coworker
DDay 10/29/13
He says he wants to R... can I live with what he's done?

Posts: 164 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: United States
forgivenotforget
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Member # 11053
Default  Posted: 4:25 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I knew that I would work very hard to forgive my H even if we didn't reconcile but I vowed to myself that I would NEVER FORGET especially if we did reconcile. My H's 8 year LTA to me was an indicator that he had deep-seated issues. Anyone who could lie and cheat and live a double life for that long was someone who I believed I would be crazy to trust fully ever again. I could not let myself ever forget what he was capable of and to this day, I hold onto my memory of his years of deceit as a means of self protection.


D-day - 12/23/05 LTA - 8 years.
"Love's a matter of trust and I just want to believe in us." M McBride

Posts: 1901 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: A tunnel where I'm beginning to see the light
emotionalgirl
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Member # 40184
Default  Posted: 6:11 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The day I registered I was so damn upset that I could not stop sobbing. I just layed on my bed hysterical and crying these big sobbing tears. I was so overly emotional. Emotional woman just didn't sound right so.....hence the name emotionalgirl.


1st D day: Saturday July 20,2013
2nd D day....when the s**t really hit the fan and the truth came out.Saturday August 3,2013
3rd D day: Friday August 16, 2013...NC sent Friday Aug 30 4th D day NOV 11
Me: BS
Him: WH
Married 25 years....finally in R

Posts: 373 | Registered: Aug 2013
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wanted it to NOT reflect anything about my ex or the pain he gave me. I wanted it to be about ME. ME ME ME. At the time I didn't know who I was anymore. I was dead. I was a ghost. I dimly recalled a piece of myself from years gone by, and remembered that it gave me pleasure. And thus I named myself.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9812 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Chicky
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Member # 18622
Default  Posted: 8:36 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine is what my fWH sometimes calls me. He has no idea this board exists and has no reason to look for it or me. But if he did, he would know immediately and that's fine as I have nothing to hide.


Half of the truth is a WHOLE lie.

Posts: 556 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: Somewhere Over The Rainbow
yestopants
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Member # 41631
Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Because I say YES to keeping my PANTS on and being loyal. I was tired of crying when I signed up and the thought of my username made me smile. Not exactly sure why...it felt powerful at the time, like a big statement.


Me: 35
STBXWH: 38
2 amazing kids DS DD
almost Divorced!

Posts: 283 | Registered: Dec 2013
risingfromashes
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Member # 3903
Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am a major old-timer. The Phoenix in the Harry Potter book rose out of the ashes. It was before the movie. It turned out to be true!


There is life on the other side of hell.

Posts: 1664 | Registered: Mar 2004
Ascendant
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Member # 38303
Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

On DDAY I came across a picture of OMs dick while I was looking through my wife's phone as she slept beside me... It felt like being punched in the face.


I keep my mind on my future/and my eyes on the sky/I don't really smile much/If you were there you'd know why.

Posts: 2164 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: City in the Midwest/Best In The Whole Wide World
Rainbows
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Member # 39362
Default  Posted: 10:45 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wanted a username that felt hopeful and positive, even though I was devastated. On some level I wanted to believe that this too would pass.

Right after dday, I kept saying that I was in the biggest storm of my life. A friend off handedly said "there's always a rainbow after every storm" and so I chose my username.


There is always a rainbow after every storm.

Posts: 411 | Registered: May 2013 | From: California
Amazonia
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Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 2:36 AM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have an online shopping problem.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13787 | Registered: Jul 2011
alifeforesaken
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Member # 41139
Default  Posted: 8:05 AM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel like the life (I thought) I had has been abandoned. At first not by me and now it seems like it's long gone.


BW (31)
WH (32)
Children (1yr) (1 due Mar '14)
DD#1 - 9/28/13 DD#2 11/24/13

Posts: 84 | Registered: Oct 2013
Sadmumma
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Member # 42192
Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lol Amazonia....

Mine is self explanatory, I was sad...


On any given day you have the power to say "my story is not going to end like this"
Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014

Posts: 536 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Land down under
twitching
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Member # 42399
Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After DDay I started to physically twitch. My hands shake now. Sometimes my eye twitches. I shake my foot. My teeth chatter at odd times..


"My heart was broken and my head was just barely inhabitable. " - Anne Lamont

Posts: 128 | Registered: Feb 2014
hpv50
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Member # 39703
Default  Posted: 7:01 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I turned 50, and my husband blew off my birthday. Two weeks later, I went in for a checkup, and was diagnosed with hpv. Nice 50th birthday present, eh?

[This message edited by hpv50 at 7:07 PM, February 10th (Monday)]


Me: BS - 50; Him: WH - 51, vulnerable NPD
married 19 years, maybe 20th soon?
DD1 4/22/13 (hpv diagnosis)
DD2 5/9/13 (gaslighting begins)
DD3 6/30/13 (admits EA)
DD4 7/7/13 admits "trying to date other women" for 3 years

Posts: 172 | Registered: Jun 2013
Monsterslayer
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Member # 23360
Default  Posted: 11:58 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The A had become a monster in my life. I was afraid it would destroy me... Us... 6 yrs later my name has proved true.


Me BH 49 her FWW 49
Dday June 2, 08
Married 22 yrs at time of A

Posts: 197 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Canada
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