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Tripletrouble (original poster member #39169) posted at 2:39 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Personally I had 3 devastating things happen to me in less than 2 weeks, the 3rd of which was DDay.
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 2:47 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
I was at IC and I remember telling the therapist that I felt guilty because I felt lighter, almost relieved after d-day. She said it was because I was working on living authentically for the first time in a long time. So, when I joined I thought, I am Authenticnow.
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 3:01 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Simple... JRC are my initials.
1963 is a significant year, not for me as I wasn't born for 5 more years, but for FWSO.
If I could change it, I think I'd use 1968 instead.
But since we R'd, I'm ok with using it.
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
girlsbird ( member #30877) posted at 3:04 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
We own 3 Firebirds. Mine is referred to as the girlsbird.
D-Day 10/28/10..almost admission 7/10 Reconciled. I was the betrayed
BrokenRoad ( member #15334) posted at 3:08 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Country music fan.
Rascall Flatts sings a song about "God blessed the broken road That led me straight to you..."
Which seemed to illustrate the broken way I made my way back to WH5.
{Him}FBH - 51 (WifeHad5){Me} FWW - 52 2 kids: 16 & 21 Reconciled :)*Learning is a gift. Even when pain is your teacher.*
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 3:10 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
It is my nickname for one of my furbabies.
Of our 5 pets, Gabe is the "character", more often in trouble than not, but absolutely adorable, loyal, and quite simply- mine. 
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 3:33 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
I have an online shopping addiction 
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
BrokenRoad ( member #15334) posted at 3:35 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
I just thought you were really really tall. 
{Him}FBH - 51 (WifeHad5){Me} FWW - 52 2 kids: 16 & 21 Reconciled :)*Learning is a gift. Even when pain is your teacher.*
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 3:43 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Nope, 5'8"!
It really is after amazon.com... sadly. I had a username that I used to use for EVERYTHING and then I used it on a forum where I eventually became a moderator, and realized how completely un-anonymous it is to use the same username for stuff. So when I signed up for SI, I was like, "MUST CHOOSE SOMETHING NO ONE WILL EVER THINK OF" but also panicking to join, so I glanced around my computer screen and spotted my Amazon shortcut. True story.
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
kickboxer ( member #39858) posted at 3:46 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
I had just started taking kickboxing classes about 4 months before DD.
We were on vacation when I found out about his EA and I could barely sleep at all that 1st night. I got up around 4:30 am to go for a run in search of the fitness center, and ended up kickboxing the crap out of a palm tree along the way.
Poor tree.
BW - 42 (Me)
WH - 39 (2 ONS, 6m EA)
Married 15 years, 3 children
DD: 7/13/13
Status: Rugsweeping, I guess.
lingerdog ( member #24459) posted at 3:58 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Nickname one of my friends gave me in jr high, he's the only one that ever really called be that, but it's been my online handle ever since my first aol account and I tried that after several declines in what I wanted for my user name. My luck it said it was available...
What lies behind us & what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
Oliver Wendell Holmes -Stolen from Uni's page
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 4:26 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Guess...
If I could pick a new one, it would be WhereAmINow? 
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
h0peless ( member #36697) posted at 4:32 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
It's how I was feeling at the time. Still do sometimes... 
TattoodChinaDoll ( member #34602) posted at 4:39 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Tattood because I have a lot of tattoos (over 60 hours). Yes, I know it's tattooed. But many times there is a limit on the length of usernames and I've gotten used to the ood since I first had to use it.
China doll because I'm half Chinese.
Me: 35
WH: 37 TimeToManUp
Married: 14 years, together 19 years
3 daughters: 12, 8, 6, and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011
This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.
StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 5:18 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
I Couldn't Sleep. Msybe 2 Hours A Night For Weeks. Went To The Dr And Told Her About A Snd Needed Something To Help Me Sleep That Wasn't Addictive. Just A Few Pills To Get Real Rest For Once.
She Gave Me Trazadone. I Should've Checked The Info First.
Took It. Woke Up Anyway W The Craziest Urge To Kill Myself...Yeah The Trazadone.
Loaded My 45 W The Hollowpoints.
One Of My Cats Jumped On The Nightstsnd Snd Knocked My Bible Over. Coincidence, Maybe, But It Openef To The Lords Prayer.
Read It A Few Times. Took The Bullets Out. Cleared My Weapon. Gave It To My BrotheR Who Is Living W Me. The Next Morning I Dumped The Pills In The Toilet And Informed My Dr.
Still Livin And Breathin Today.
No Pills, No Anti Depressants, Nothing Cuz That Shit Scared The Hell Out Of Me.
joiNed Si A Few Weeks Later.
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 6:13 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Because <fingers crossed> I'm gonnabe done with school in 2016. Idk, kinda random.....
t/j
Rascall Flatts sings a song about "God blessed the broken road That led me straight to you..."
This is one of my most favorite country songs ever. Bea-u-ti-ful. Now that I've been reminded of it, I'm off to YouTube it for a *fix*.....
eta: Found a *live* performance that's as awesome as the recording:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u5rPEzu7R-w
[This message edited by gonnabe2016 at 12:37 AM, September 9th (Monday)]
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 6:17 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
I was at a loss for words when I first joined this site. The misspelling is intentional. I got the spelling from an Iron Maiden song called "Losfer Words (Big 'Orra)".
I also like the anonymity. No one in real life knows me to be an Iron Maiden fan, and it's not a user name that I use anywhere else. Also, if you google my SI name, all you'll get is a bunch of Iron Maiden links!
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 7:29 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Willie is my dog. I was attempting to be anonymous, since I have no children.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 7:37 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Because, even though I felt like I was dying inside, I was determined that I would rise out of this emotional and financial disaster with a better life...I am an eternal optimist 
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
Harriet ( member #34543) posted at 8:38 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Harriet Tubman left behind her husband for FREEDOM! She's my hero.
D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12
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