Something I learned in this process. Open up my mouth and share.
The fact that I wasn't sharing and the reasons why I wasn't sharing are on the list of many, many circumstances that made my A a possibility for me. Nowadays, I sometimes feel like my Husband gets a little more information on some topics than he maybe bargained for, but he just smiles and soaks it all in. He loves me. The consequences of telling the truth are that one becomes trustworthy... not all that other shit I worried about.
Me: luckiest FWW ever
Him: strong and loving BS
A: 58 days
Married 19 yrs, shooting for 40+