Topic: Needing support and prayers and good mojo
Member # 37190
| Posted: 6:58 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013|
I filed last week, WH is still living here though, working on a plan for him to leave. My kids know nothing. We had to get through the weekend since it was my one DD's Bday. Today or tomorrow we will start the process. We will tell them about the affairs and I will move into my daughters room. Once he has a solid plan as to when he will move - we will then tell them about the divorce.
I do not want to do this. I do not want my girls, who adore him, to have their hearts broken. To know he isn't the man I always said he was. To know just how easily he threw us away for some cheap thrills.
If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck - it's not a fluffy pink unicorn squirting liquid rainbows, complete with pots of gold out of it's ass.
Posts: 739 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Nowhere pretty
Member # 14866
| Posted: 7:21 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013|
This will be tough on all. Sending prayers to you and your DD's
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
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Posts: 49758 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
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Member # 34714
| Posted: 7:42 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013|
Sending you hugs and prayers !!
" The only thing I have in common with OW is our birthday "
Posts: 43 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Europe
Member # 14003
| Posted: 8:16 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013|
Sending prayers and mojo!
Posts: 13356 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
Member # 39885
| Posted: 9:22 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013|
Love, strength and prayers to you.
D Day: 6/13/13
Moving on. Every Single Day.
Posts: 490 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 39217
| Posted: 1:02 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013|
I am so sorry that you are going through all of this. Sending prayers & good thoughts!!!!!
Married 11 yrs
D-Day: 4/9/13 he cheated in '08 & now + trickle truth & tons of lies 6/27 Found more, swears I really do have the whole truth now.
2/2/14 found out more...it seems the TT never ends.
Trying to R
Posts: 71 | Registered: May 2013
Member # 38378
| Posted: 1:13 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013|
Prayers and peace to you.
So many changes.
But an end in sight.
FWIW to share, I didn't want our divorce, but it was me that ended up filing because his passive self would have just let us flounder in the breeze of it all. A ways out, 9 months, the grief is still here but the pain is different-it's steady and getting duller, rather than the heady, anxiety ridden days of worry over another discovery or what type of mood will he be in, now? What will we fight over today? That's all gone now and I can choose to shut him off like a light switch if I happen to hear from him, which is rare.
Anyway...also, our daughter is like yours, he was her KISA and still is in some ways, but kids are smart. I think sometimes a kid is smarter or stronger than given credit for and she tells me sometimes the good things about now and the bad things about now.
I never wanted her to finish growing up without a father in our home, but she even notices that there is more peace and sanity and she said she is starting to feel a little safer with my trying to keep to routine.
I wish you well and a speedy road to peace and just wanted to share some of our experience because there is a light at the end of the tunnel. It's gradual and not always recognizable that positive change is happening, but is there.
And I share your sentiments about being thrown away.
The only thing that stays the same, is change. -M. Etheridge
Posts: 1965 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
Member # 38928
| Posted: 1:27 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013|
I never wanted her to finish growing up without a father in our home, but she even notices that there is more peace and sanity
^^^this^^^ As tough as this is to go through, your kids are likely already trying to figure out what is going on, and they are creating their own scenarios in their minds. By telling them you will actually be helping them to understand what they already know intuitively.
This is so hard, and no parent wants to break their children's hearts, but when he is out of the house there will be a noticeable decrease in tension overall. They will feel it, and appreciate it. Constantly having to walk on eggshells is not good or healthy for anyone.
Talk to them as soon as possible once you move into your daughter's room because their imaginations about what is really going on will really ramp up and stress them.
Sending strength and mojo to get through this!
BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs, started 1994? - never stopped
Kids - 22, 20, 17
M Dissolved 2013!!!
This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man, ~ Shakespeare
Posts: 828 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
Member # 36134
| Posted: 4:15 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013|
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
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Posts: 4027 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
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