My first reaction is that he sounds kind of like a bully who wants to deflect attention away from himself.
These are tactics that Perv uses to get me to try to be a doormat.
He may also be holding onto a grievance about the protection order and its causing him to be a jerk besides the rest.
If he doesn't like the consequence of child exchange, he should have reconsidered his actions that led to having to do it that way.
Good for you for not speaking to him. It's not easy but sends its own message. I hope there won't be problems with him trying to get your friend involved.
I am called the same thing when I can't agree or when Perv doesn't follow the decree. It's not me, it's the law and that's what he wanted!
Your WH sounds a little similar in the joy of drama/finger pointing that Perv has when he causes it.Ashland 13
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess