To add insult to injury, he wasn't even upfront about what he did and waited until you were amongst friends to find out. So that you look like a psycho for bring triggered, and so that he couldn't get reamed for his selfish and disrespectful behavior right then and there. Disrespect. Exactly!!
He actually never told me he choose this player, I overheard him say it to our friend during the game. Those friends do not know about the affair and I couldn't say anything out loud other then "Really!"
I ended up texting him sitting right next to him asking why he would choose a player with the OW's name. He said, "The player was a good rookie rb and he knew the team he was playing for had lost their rb pre season, and this kid would be able to have play time. Then he told me, "he did not want her(meaning OW) or her name to control our lives." He knew it might bother me, just not this much. The fact that he knew it might bother me and still went for it says a lot to me.
Your WH must be willing to do whatever necessary to reassure you, no matter how trivial it may seem Thank you!! This is how I feel!
Not defending what he did at all, but you can perhaps take some comfort in this thought. For this football season, your husband is going to be paying extra attention associating OW's name with a (presumably) muscular young man who may also disappoint him greatly depending on what happens on game day. Hahaha! I like your take on this!! :)
Last night I talked with him a little more about it. He says to me, "I did not even have to tell you about it at all" First off jack ass you didn't, I overheard you! Second, yeah that is a very comforting comeback to my concern over it. Still not feeling great today, as I am seeing there is so much more behind this then just him picking her name. :(
He said he will trade the player. Great, please do!! Still the damage has been done. The way he seems to be pouting about it and not being comforting to the way I feel about it disturbs me.