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User Topic: Anti-versary tomorrow...walking my girls to school!
sisoon
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Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 9:21 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yup - a great way to spend an antiversary.


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10384 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
catlover50
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Member # 37154
Default  Posted: 4:39 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well done! Glad everything went well and hope today continues to be a good day as well.



Dday -9/24/2012
Reconciling

Posts: 1763 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
cantaccept
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Member # 37451
Default  Posted: 4:47 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just woke up and had to check on you first thing.

So happy for you!


"So often times it happens, that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key"

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh boots5050
attempted R, it was all a lie

Divor


Posts: 1428 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut
Crumbled324
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Member # 33902
Default  Posted: 5:03 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Way to go Blakesteele! Nice to see you take back the day!

I've adopted something simillar with regards to my daughter and the antiversary date.

Incredible how much something like this helps.

[This message edited by Crumbled324 at 5:04 AM, September 11th (Wednesday)]


BH: 46
fWW: 45
Beautiful 8 year old daughter
Married 22 years, Together 28 - High School Sweethearts
Reconciling

Posts: 87 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Michigan
OnAnIsland
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Member # 34319
Default  Posted: 6:46 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great job, Blake. Thanks for sharing.


D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013

Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou


Posts: 1479 | Registered: Dec 2011
brokensmile322
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Member # 35758
Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Finally found some time to respond...

Ahhh, Blake. What a difference a year makes!

I remember your first posts here last year. You have come a long way, my friend.

You have grown so much from the man who showed up here a year ago. I remember your story as you 'knew' it at the onset and how the subsequent months changed your truth. I read your struggle, your search for answers and have felt your strong desire to fix your marriage. I have enjoyed reading your posts and pondering your very thoughtful approach to dealing with this nightmare. You have helped me a long the way as well.

It might sound corny, but I am proud of you today. Good for you for taking back something that should never have been taken away.

My MC recently stated that dday will be forever a date that is remembered. He said that we can choose how to remember it. We can honor it in a way and I think you have. You have honored it by taking it back, making it yours, and with pride to boot! So very happy for you!


Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl

"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."


Posts: 1547 | Registered: Jun 2012
ItsaClimb
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Member # 37107
Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so glad it went well for you Blake! {hugs}


BS 46
Together 29 yrs, M 25 years
2 daughters 24yo(married with a brand new little daughter) & 19yo
D-Day 18 Aug 2012
6mth EA lead to 4mth PA with CO-W. I found out 8 1/2 yrs later

Posts: 1023 | Registered: Oct 2012
SadFlower
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Default  Posted: 10:00 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Blakesteele, I was so cheered to read your posts. I'm glad you were ready to walk past the OM with your head held high...but that, in the end, you were not put to the test. You now know that you will pass with flying colors if OM ever does show up again.

Hugs to you and your precious girls.


Me: BW, age 66
Him: WH, age 64
Married 19 years
In R.

D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA


Posts: 408 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Connecticut
learningtofeel
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Member # 39543
Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was in a conference all day yesterday and couldn't check SI. But thought about you in the morning and wondered how it was going. I'm so glad to hear it went well. I can't wait to tell my fWS, who was also rooting for you. It is wonderful to feel we can get there too, eventually.


M 1989
3 young adult kids
D-Day 4.13.13
WS (him): 7 OW over 15 years
BS (me): had no clue

Posts: 101 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: United States
blakesteele
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Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I thank you all...goosebumps and tears as I read the wonderful outpouring of support from my regulars, new members, and even a fWs!!!

I may not have any idea where my marriage is going, but I do have a clear vision of where blakesteele is going....and I had misplaced that.

It feels good. Dang sadness and pain is still a part of me today....but hope and faith is alive and growing in me. Thanks to ya'll who have taken the time to "weed" and "fertilize" this growth in me.

Peace to us all.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 4034 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
tired girl
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Member # 28053
Default  Posted: 11:57 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Blake,

This is such an awesome way to take the day back. Good for you!


Me45 Him 45 Hardlessons DS 25,23,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt

Posts: 5079 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: az
blakesteele
♂ Member
Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 6:59 AM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((tired girl)))


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 4034 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
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