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Karmita posted 9/9/2013 22:53 PM

In my previous thread I was asking for suggestions as to giving my husband his birthday party surprise. I made sure to invite the OW who's been pretending to be my friend.

Husband's surprise birthday party was something he'll never forget

The OW is his work colleague and someone who befriended me. Last week I asked her to go shopping with me to help with picking out his gift from me.

To the OW's surprise I took her to a porn shop. I bought a super sized butt plug explaining that my husband loved me giving him anal. I bought body oil explaining he loved to give me massages. I even made sure to walk awkwardly saying I was sore from the previous evening of being ridden like a mare by my stallion.

I enjoyed reading their exchanges after my shopping trip with OW, whom I like to refer to as Hauren.

The birthday surprise party was this past Saturday. My sister's boyfriend, who was in on my surprise took hubby golfing and drinking the entire day as I was at home getting my stuff into a moving van.

I was packed and gone by the time hubby returned home to balloons on and a surprise banner on our door.

Inside the nearly empty apartment I had scattered sheets and sheets of evidence I had printed off.

I had a card for him that sad f**k you and my lawyer will be in touch.

I'm staying with my sister. I've been crying most of the time, not for him but for me.

I loved that jackass, but I'm going to love me more.

PurpleRose posted 9/9/2013 22:59 PM



You rock. Best EFF YOU departure I've seen in a long time.

Hope you are ok and taking care of yourself. Hugs..

Offhispedestal posted 9/9/2013 23:05 PM

You sound like this was definitely a deal breaker for you. I dont know how you managed to keep this to yourself for months. What happened after he showed up?? (((Hugs to you)))

summerain posted 9/9/2013 23:08 PM

wow, handled like a pro

Must Survive posted 9/9/2013 23:10 PM


I bow to the master.

And I am green with envy.

Must Survive posted 9/9/2013 23:10 PM


I bow to the master.

And I am green with envy.

summerain posted 9/9/2013 23:12 PM

p.s has he tried to contact you?

Titanium posted 9/9/2013 23:21 PM


Love a gutsy courageous made my YEAR!!!!!

"I am woman hear me roar"

Take really good care of deserve it.

(((((Hugs )))))

TrustGone posted 9/9/2013 23:22 PM

Wow!!! The best post I have read in awhile. You go girl!!! I guess he knows now. I wished I had remained as strong as you, but I was blindsided by a call from OW, otherwise I would like to think I could have handled it the same way. Let us know his reaction. (((HUGS)))

Karmita posted 9/9/2013 23:28 PM

Thanks everyone but I don't feel like a rock star.

These past few months have taken it's toll on me. I don't know how cheaters do it with living a double life. Pretending to be normal while I was nauseous as I collected evidence has been excruciating.

If it had not been for my sister who'd been through two d-days until she finally kicked her husband to curb
and was my teacher and my rock and allowed me handle being betrayed and my moment of fuck you to hubby.

As to hubby, he's been burning my cell phone with texts and voice mail.
I haven't spoken to him since Saturday morning.

allusions posted 9/9/2013 23:33 PM

Wait a minute! What happened to the butt plug? Did you attach the F you note to it?

PurpleRose posted 9/9/2013 23:36 PM

hopefully she shoved it up the OW's ass.

Oh, whoops. Did I just type that out loud?

Karmita posted 9/9/2013 23:38 PM

Oh yeah...about the butt plug and massage oil I had it wrapped in box for Hauren. Oh and I added some real shit to go with it.

TrustGone posted 9/9/2013 23:40 PM


As an after thought to my post. I can only imagine the pain that you have been going through with knowing this and keeping it inside for so long. I am so sorry.

Lucky posted 9/9/2013 23:43 PM

This one might become a classic...

TxsT posted 9/10/2013 00:03 AM

Oh my this is magical.....I could actually see it while you were describing it!!!!! Glad you got to have the last laugh. Too many of us take so long to truly laugh again with gusto!


millienotboo posted 9/10/2013 00:06 AM

Love it!

momentintime posted 9/10/2013 00:44 AM

Karmita I hope you are keeping it together. I am sure you are in tremendous pain. I don't know if this was a dealbreaker for you, but understand the turmoil will continue for quite some time. Regardless if you file or if you do try to R.

I am sure you shocked the hell out of him. He deserved it. Take care of you. No matter what you decide to do in the future, we are all here to support you either way.

Get a good night's sleep if you can. Let your heart slow down from the rapid race it has been doing. Breathe and give yourself time to think about what you want your future to look like. You did good, but I am sure it hasn't been easy now that you have blown the A wide open.

trebleclef posted 9/10/2013 00:57 AM

WOW! You are one amazingly together chickie! I totally understand the special hell of "knowing" while still having to pretend you don't - BTDT. I can't imagine how you managed to keep your cool - out with the OW! I would have been a shaking mess. BIG HUGS - this is the hard part.

RidingHealingRd posted 9/10/2013 01:21 AM

I admire your ability to "play along" as you collected evidence ~ Good God that must require huge self control.

As for that birthday surprise...THE BEST!

You should become a Party Planner for BS.

That aside, I know you are hurting and I am sorry for your pain. You are obviously a strong woman with a wonderful support system. You will get through this. {{{Karmita}}}

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