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User Topic: Update on he doesn't know that I know
MrsRussia
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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, July 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG! I want to be just like you when I grow up!


Me 38
WH 38
Together 17 years, married 13 years
4 year old Daughter
Divorcing

Posts: 32 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: DFW
plainpain
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Default  Posted: 5:14 PM, July 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just found this thread. :) I want to say thank you for sharing your story. I chose to R with my WH, and I don't regret that, but I still have revenge fantasies and sometimes dream of a DDay "do-over". THIS is amazing. Congratulations. :)


Me: Believer; 40s
Him: Liar; 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
OW:21
In successful R, but still in just plain pain.

Posts: 807 | Registered: Jul 2013
thecosmogirl
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Member # 39707
Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, July 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I remember this post! I never laughed so hard!

Congrats to you Karmita for staying strong and living YOUR life!!


Me: BS
Him: doesn't matter anymore...or does it...

Being very, very careful

D-day 14 June 2013


I'm smart, good looking and gosh darn it, people like me!


Posts: 161 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: trying to figure it out
Myname
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Member # 23138
Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, July 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know how I missed this post until now. I was literally yelling and cheering you on as I read this. LOL

I'm so glad to hear that you are doing so well.

You're the best!!!!

Oh and note to self.... Don't mess with Karmita.

[This message edited by Myname at 6:55 PM, July 6th (Sunday)]


DD: 1-14-09 EA/PA OM #1
TT: 5-11&12-09
DD#2: 5-18-09 EA OM #2
5-31-09: Told me she hasn't loved me.
No kids
Me BH: 38
12-08-10: S

Posts: 3013 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Inside your computer.
wishicouldredo
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Default  Posted: 1:37 AM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lol I love this. I wish I could've done something like this (just another shoulda!) instead of sitting stunned and paralyzed. He still would have gas lighted until the cows came home anyway. I'll live vicariously through you - brilliant!


"I'm not where I need to be, but thank God I'm not where I used to be."

"Feelings are just visitors, let them come and go." - Mooji


Posts: 40 | Registered: Jun 2014
Karmita
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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Thank you to all of the kind words from those who have taken the time to respond.

In sharing my experiences, it's about hope and courage and that as hard as life can be, we can get to a better place. It's not easy, and very hard to give ourselves what we give to someone else.

We all have the ability be our own hero.

Hugs


Posts: 74 | Registered: Aug 2013
TrulyReconciled
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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't believe that I never saw this, but it's an absolute SI classic in the best "SNAGGED" tradition


"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."

Posts: 21103 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Hell and back, way back :o)
LifeIsBroken
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Default  Posted: 9:47 PM, August 16th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Karmita, Girl, YOU know how to throw a party ! Not sure how on earth I missed reading all this when it started last fall but am glad I read it tonight. My anger didn't come until later. It would have been more advantageous for me if it had come immediately at D-Day. You ROCK !

Hope your new house is coming along; have fun with the renovation and with making it YOURS.


BW: 59
XH: 60
Married 34 yrs, LIBerated: 2/17/11
MOW: 50 (she said she wanted a sugar daddy; xh said, "I'M HIM!")
Actions ALWAYS have consequences. Too bad cheaters don't consider the consequences BEFORE they create so much damage.

Posts: 489 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Missouri & Massachusetts
Karmita
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Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, August 18th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Hi everyone

I've settled in my new house. It's more of a fixer upper than I realized, but I love it. I'm saving, and it's a must that I get a new furnace before winter. I'm renting out the basement and that is helping with the mortgage payments.

I'm having my friends and family over for a BBQ on Labour Day. Should have the painting done by then.

Bigs hugs to everyone here at SI :


Posts: 74 | Registered: Aug 2013
BtraydWife
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Default  Posted: 9:03 AM, August 18th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So glad to hear things are going well for you. That house is your own and a symbol of new starts. Congrats for knowing you deserved better and for the strength to move on when he couldn't give you what you deserved.


Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010
TT for 6 months
Unremorseful for 3.5 years

Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson

Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.


Posts: 1757 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States
brokenheartinga
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Default  Posted: 10:44 AM, August 18th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just read this topic all the way through.
Karmita you are so admired by me. I wish I had
been like you back in 2009 when I had my Dday.
You just made my day. I always said that I would
be like that if I ever had a cheating husband but
I gave in and I am still in recovery since early 2010. Now I am not so sure that is what I want.
The pain just doesn't go away. just gets a little
duller with time.
If your ever in ga. We should hang out! I like
your attitude. Maybe you could teach me a few things about being a B**ch when the need arises.
LOL. Good Luck to you!


***Go with your gut***

Posts: 13 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Ga
hopefulmother
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Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, August 18th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are fantastic! I wish I came across the OW. She was a fake red head who was a coworker of my fWH. I would have loved to order her a red headed slut cocktail from my H and me. Congratulations on your new house.


Me-BW 39
WH-39
D-day 9-4-12
Major TT 8-14
Friends for 20yrs dating since 2000
Married 9yrs with 2 toddlers
My wedding band is a symbol of hope, forgiveness, love, and grace.

Posts: 933 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: PA
blindsided81
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Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, August 18th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

New here and I just saw this.

Have to say, "Damn! Woman you are awesome!!!!"

I am so glad things are going well for you. You give the rest of us hope!


Me, BW 51
WH, 47
OW, ttw (trailer trash whore)
DD, 7/21/14
Separated, divorcing his ass as soon as I possibly can!!

Posts: 106 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: North Carolina
Cordelia
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Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, August 18th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So impressed!


Me 54, WS 49
17 yrs tog, no children.
DD 4/14 - OW wrote to me

Posts: 119 | Registered: May 2014
Lalagirl
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, September 9th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Karmita,

You started this thread a year ago today. I remember reading your first post and being in absolute awe of your strength and resolve. And you have paid your strength forward to so many on SI. In summary...you rock!

I think I speak for many when I say thank you...and hope you are doing well. Would love an update to see how you are doing!

Hugs!

Lala


Me - 49; FWH - 51
Married 30 years 9/2/13
2 grown daughters-30 & 27
5yo GS & 20 mo. GD & GB #4 due 8/15(DD30) and 2.5 yo GD(DD27). D-day #1 - 1/06; D-day #2 - 3/07
Reconciled! Construction Complete.

Posts: 5058 | Registered: May 2007
Karmita
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Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, September 12th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Thanks Lalagirl for your lovely post.

Geez, I didn't realize it has been over over a year since i started this thread. It's weird, it feels like this past year has been the longest year of my life. So much has happened.

It feels good to be able to taste good again, to wake up in the morning and feel alive.

I still wear my bitch boots, it took me awhile to get used to walking in them..( and I haven't twisted my ankles, not even once).

Life is tough, and nothing good comes easy. I'm in debt, have a fixer upper house..... But, I've never been happier.

Cheater are soul snatchers, but I got mine back.

Hugs to all those who fight to get their soul back.


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