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mchercheur posted 9/13/2013 13:18 PM

I love this thread so much that I came back to reread it again today.

(((Karmita))) I hope you are hanging in there. We are all living vicariously thru you.

idkam posted 9/13/2013 13:44 PM

Omg!! I love this post.. Thank you so much for inviting us into ur world... I know you are hurting but honey that will pass and you will be so much stronger than before, although that party you through showed hou are one helluva woman...

I agree with the person who said you should be a party planner for BS's..... I almost choked on my salad reading your post.....

Loved it....

Hang in there and take care of yourself...

Hrtbrken1 posted 9/13/2013 14:04 PM

SUPER SLOW APPLAUSE

In the history of awesome, you are the awesomest.

momwith2boys posted 9/13/2013 16:17 PM

Wow that is awesome! I would have loved to seen his face when he walked in! Ow was a friend to me too. I wish I had the balls that u have!!
So has he contacted u yet? Is he trying to win u back?

CatchyUsername posted 9/13/2013 20:27 PM

Karmita - WOW - amazing!! It was like you took every fantasy I ever had and made it REAL! I often say to WH that he is SO SO SO lucky I found out the way I did and not 3 days earlier because (i say) I would have done something very similar. I am in awe!

That said - try to be OK with wallowing in a sad place. You ran a HUGE marathon and now you need to rest and recover. Give yourself permission. You certainly earned it. You need to mourn in order for this to get processed and packaged away.

(((HUGS)))

Karmita posted 9/15/2013 12:53 PM

A-hole is how I refer to my soon to be ex-husband showed up at my sister's house this morning. He wanted to talk to me. WTF is there to talk about....I don't want to see his face or hear his voice. Shouldn't he be thrilled he and HAUREN are free to be together now that I'm gone.

trytoforgive posted 9/19/2013 14:33 PM

Hey Karmita,

Just checking on you...

WeepingBuddhist posted 9/19/2013 15:02 PM

Wishing you well on the next part of your journey!

mchercheur posted 9/19/2013 15:07 PM

Shouldn't he be thrilled he and HAUREN are free to be together now that I'm gone.

Now that his A has been outed, the thrill is gone, & it may fall apart.

Be prepared now for a lot of minimizing, gas lighting, & rug sweeping. It seems that it was a deal breaker for you anyway, so just let your lawyer communicate with his lawyer.

heartbroken7110 posted 9/19/2013 15:53 PM

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Karmita posted 9/19/2013 17:19 PM

I went back to work this week. Also saw my lawyer and will be filing for divorce. I am done.
A letter has been sent to my husband that all contact will be conducted through my lawyer. We don't have much to split up. I took half of our savings when I left.

Going to stay with my sister until I find an apartment. All my stuff is crammed in her garage. I feel like a refugee.

I'm doing ok...I've developed a potty mouth though. I'm still so mad, but I prefer that to feeling so sad.

3kids30years posted 9/19/2013 18:48 PM

Karmita!

I admire you so very, very much! If I only had the nerve! But after 30 years and 3 kids, I opted to attempt to R.

But I also developed a potty mouth - told WH to deal with it, or get the F*ck out. (see I told you!)

thisissogross posted 9/19/2013 19:12 PM

Back when I joined there was much discussion about how this junk can turn anybody into a batshit crazy pottymouth. I believe that was in at least one member's tag line as a matter of fact. It can be all one word 'batshit-crazy-pottymouth' I always thought that did sum it up nicely.

Anyway, I am sorry for all you're dealing with. Your sister sounds awesome and so do you. I engineered a dday blowup also (nowhere near as rad as yours) and I know what you mean about not feeling anything but devastation. Everybody's told you right though. It took a while, but boy did I eventually get my laugh and feeling of overwhelming badassness. You've handled a very difficult situation with aplomb approaching glamour, glamour I tell you, and soon enough you will feel that and be so proud of yourself.

Really sorry you're feeling displaced. Here's hoping you find somewhere wonderful to settle into soon. And in the meantime, at least you've found a place where your pottymouth is well understood and accepted.

[This message edited by thisissogross at 7:18 PM, September 19th (Thursday)]

mchercheur posted 9/19/2013 20:22 PM

dear (((Karmita)))
we are all so proud of you.
you are an inspiration to us all.
Hang in there sweetheart. You will be ok. & you will always be able to hold your head up high.

dead_inside posted 9/19/2013 20:32 PM

My god but that is epic.

refuz2bavictim posted 9/20/2013 03:42 AM

I'm still so mad, but I prefer that to feeling so sad.

Yes. The anger feels much more empowering than the sadness.

The high of having some control for once, may have worn off, and you may fee like a refugee, but the self control with which you pulled off the "surprise", will serve you well.

Hang in there.

I wish I had half the creativity and self control you did. I don't think Karma could have done the job nearly as well.

homewrecked2011 posted 9/20/2013 04:16 AM

"This is how we move it"!

DO NOT TALK TO WH NOR OW -- It eats them alive! Trust me on this! OW was my friend and I have NEVER said a word to her once I had him served. It is the ONE thing I have power over --

The funniest thing is that you woke him up from "the fog" in an epic way, and you are gone just when he comes back to reality.

Honestly, thank God that you are gone before you had children together. On this site is a forum -- I can relate - and one of the threads is for betrayed husbands. When I read of their honesty, I realize there are really decent men out there and I am so proud of myself for suprising WH with divorce papers.

Epic!

sleepless34 posted 9/20/2013 11:33 AM

Love love love love it.

I could never have pulled it off, because I wouldn't have been able to pretend all was fine once I knew.....you have awesome self control. This is so good, best story ever. You win! BAHAHAHAHAHA

SurelyNOT posted 9/27/2013 13:42 PM

This is such a WONDERFUL post. I really hope you are taking care of yourself, don't forget to look after #1. Your revenge was just priceless, oh to have been a fly on the wall witnessing his and her responses
I hope everything goes well on your journey, it's a bit of an uphill battle, BUT you are so capable, and so very worth it, onwards and upwards.
Thanks for making me smile, you are a pure tonic - don't ever lose your sense of humour

cl131716 posted 9/27/2013 13:46 PM

Wow! You are my hero! Really I wish I had the guts to do something like this.