(((Karmita))) I hope you are hanging in there. We are all living vicariously thru you.

I agree with the person who said you should be a party planner for BS's..... I almost choked on my salad reading your post.....

Loved it....

Hang in there and take care of yourself...

In the history of awesome, you are the awesomest.

That said - try to be OK with wallowing in a sad place. You ran a HUGE marathon and now you need to rest and recover. Give yourself permission. You certainly earned it. You need to mourn in order for this to get processed and packaged away.

(((HUGS)))

Just checking on you...

Shouldn't he be thrilled he and HAUREN are free to be together now that I'm gone.

Now that his A has been outed, the thrill is gone, & it may fall apart.

Be prepared now for a lot of minimizing, gas lighting, & rug sweeping. It seems that it was a deal breaker for you anyway, so just let your lawyer communicate with his lawyer.

Going to stay with my sister until I find an apartment. All my stuff is crammed in her garage. I feel like a refugee.

I'm doing ok...I've developed a potty mouth though. I'm still so mad, but I prefer that to feeling so sad.

I admire you so very, very much! If I only had the nerve! But after 30 years and 3 kids, I opted to attempt to R.

But I also developed a potty mouth - told WH to deal with it, or get the F*ck out. (see I told you!)

Anyway, I am sorry for all you're dealing with. Your sister sounds awesome and so do you. I engineered a dday blowup also (nowhere near as rad as yours) and I know what you mean about not feeling anything but devastation. Everybody's told you right though. It took a while, but boy did I eventually get my laugh and feeling of overwhelming badassness. You've handled a very difficult situation with aplomb approaching glamour, glamour I tell you, and soon enough you will feel that and be so proud of yourself.

Really sorry you're feeling displaced. Here's hoping you find somewhere wonderful to settle into soon. And in the meantime, at least you've found a place where your pottymouth is well understood and accepted.

[This message edited by thisissogross at 7:18 PM, September 19th (Thursday)]

I'm still so mad, but I prefer that to feeling so sad.

Yes. The anger feels much more empowering than the sadness.

The high of having some control for once, may have worn off, and you may fee like a refugee, but the self control with which you pulled off the "surprise", will serve you well.

Hang in there.

I wish I had half the creativity and self control you did. I don't think Karma could have done the job nearly as well.

DO NOT TALK TO WH NOR OW -- It eats them alive! Trust me on this! OW was my friend and I have NEVER said a word to her once I had him served. It is the ONE thing I have power over --

The funniest thing is that you woke him up from "the fog" in an epic way, and you are gone just when he comes back to reality.

Honestly, thank God that you are gone before you had children together. On this site is a forum -- I can relate - and one of the threads is for betrayed husbands. When I read of their honesty, I realize there are really decent men out there and I am so proud of myself for suprising WH with divorce papers.

Epic!

I could never have pulled it off, because I wouldn't have been able to pretend all was fine once I knew.....you have awesome self control. This is so good, best story ever. You win! BAHAHAHAHAHA