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User Topic: Stuck in neutral
Doubts
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Default  Posted: 2:41 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Has anyone gotten to the point where they don't know what the next step is? I can't seem to find what out what I should be doing, so I am doing nothing. WH can't (won't) remember details of A. Not sure of my feelings or what to do next. I tried 180. No talking at all. I don't want to give up because he wants to R. How long does this phase last? We are going to MC and I am not getting better in some ways, but I am not crying as often.

Posts: 35 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: CA
EasyDoesIt
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Default  Posted: 2:43 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have you considered doing something for yourself outside of the marriage like a yoga class? Planting a flower bed? Refinishing an old piece of furniture? Scrapbook? Just something to take you out of neutral. I think that it's important to realize you are a separate being who needs to be tended to.


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Posts: 3655 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: Georgia
StruckNumb
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Default  Posted: 3:00 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sigh, I'm going through the same and my IC just recommended doing something outside of trying to save this marriage. Some class in something I like, yoga, yes, gardening, something just for yourself. If you can find the energy for it because this is pretty much hell on earth.


me-BW-51
f?WH - 49
m27 yrs, T 28, no kids
OW-WH's former CW, friends + 20yr
DDay-11/16/12, LT EA, 4y? PA, manymany
EA with FFriends over the years
Attempting R
Is there an end to blindness in sight?

Posts: 76 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: N.California
Doubts
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Default  Posted: 7:01 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have tried a few projects (Scrapbooking,crocheting,quilting), but they end up unfinished in my sewing room. I then feel guilty for losing interest in them. I need to suck it up somehow and move forward.

Posts: 35 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: CA
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