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User Topic: WS, who are they?
Lovedyoumore
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Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To follow up on the post about AP coming from all walks of life, even from a Christian music band, let's start the poll on WS and their life professions. Include how they met if AP, you wish.

Mr. Lovedyoumore: sales executive for a large national company. Had involvement sitting on several non profit boards.

They met when OW quit her ministry job to volunteer at one of the nonprofits because she saw him talking about it on TV. They had one incidental meeting months earlier at a fundraiser.


Me 52
WH 52
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R

I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.


Posts: 1201 | Registered: May 2012 | From: South
Phoenix9572
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Default  Posted: 11:34 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mr. Fragile Ego: financial advisor for large national bank. Sits on one non profit board and has foundation for education.
Personal philosophy from Zig Ziglar - If you are not where you want to be in life, then you haven't helped enough people in theirs.

Not really one AP just ONS on business trips and then moved on to hook-up web-sites and call girls. Was probably having an EA with a client but I think that has fizzled.


Me - 40
WH - 42
Married 18 years
kids - 14, 12
DD - May 13, 2013
DD2 - Aug 4, 2013
DD3 - Aug 27, 2013
Status - Legally separated; really wanted R but don't think that is possible anymore

Posts: 103 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Southern Indiana
brknwmn
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Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH is a gymnastics coach who met the most recent PA was a mom that he met at one of the meets while he was out of town.

Meet season starts in January and needless to say I'm freaking out...just realized that this was probably my trigger in shutting him out this past sunday


Me: 26 BS Him: 29 WH
Together since Dec 2005
officially done 10-30-13

Never be ashamed of a scar. It simply means you were stronger than whatever tried to hurt you.


Posts: 78 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: United States
Tred
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Default  Posted: 11:42 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SAHM who was bored apparently.


Married: 16 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 3305 | Registered: Dec 2011
HereWeGo62
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Default  Posted: 11:43 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Culinary worker


If there is reincarnation I hope OM comes back as a low water flush truck stop toilet!

Posts: 304 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Tx
dameia
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Default  Posted: 11:43 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

During the time of the A's he was a member of the military, and then a computer security specialist.


Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

"People who live in a glass house have to answer the door" -Karl Pilkington


Posts: 994 | Registered: Jul 2012
shatteredheart7
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DH works in the lab at a well known Chemical Plant.

He met skanky whore at the bowling alley. They had bowled in the same league for about 10 yrs before the A. When the A started he had switched to her team, with her mom. He quit bowling after a couple months on her team. He says now he quit bowling because she was stalkerish... really dumbass... and you kept going back?


Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!

Posts: 240 | Registered: Jul 2013
Cheatedon23
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Default  Posted: 11:51 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WS is a manager at a plumbing supply company. The AP is the office manager. She still works at the company, but in a different building about an hour away. They have to correspond daily for business. This of course makes the triggers happen regularly.


Me: BS 49
Him: WH 50
D - 25; S - 21; S - 18
Married 29 years, together 32
D-Day 1 - April 1, 2012
D-Day 2 - October 5, 2012
Currently trying to R

Posts: 72 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Georgia
Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

X worked in software QA. OW was his cousin --she and her kids were staying with us after the death of her husband.

He is now a chronically unemployed deadbeat loser who is mooching off OW. Boy did she win a prize or what?


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

Posts: 17285 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: A better place :)
SecondHelping
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Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SAHM who was bored apparently.

This ^^^^^^^^^. Volunteered for several charities too.


D-Day 1: Feb 1990 (2 yrs into M, Kissing and a hickey)
D-Day 2: 3 Sep 2012 (3 month EA/3 week PA)
BS 49- Me, fWW 43- Her (Amibroken)
OP- Deputy Chief of Police from the town next to us! (Age 37)
Married 25 Years, Together 28
3 Kids (17, 14, 11)

Posts: 468 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Delmarva
knolls
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Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mr Wonderful is a Museum Mrg. Skank is a housekeeper in said museum. And yes he is her boss. She is in a union. Cause I wanted her ass fired. Her husband also works there. Oh I hate that place. I call it Peyton Place.


I am stronger than the storm.
I take every experience in my life, no matter how horrendous it was, as a learning experience

Posts: 47 | Registered: May 2013
StepAside
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He held a few positions at various companies, but wasn't where he 'felt' (entitlement?) he should be...but that was everyone else's fault -generally it had to do with materials and supply management. He was a frustrated child, he 'acted out' by posting profiles on various dating sites, FB apps, and phone hook up sites. The results are now part of my history.

To find some good in all of the turmoil, I have to give him props for pursuing his college education, receiving his degree, being on the presidents list, moving up through the ranks of a community service group, committing a year of EMDR therapy to figure out his FOO issue, and working hard to receive his various professional certifications and to be a recognized and approved instructor in them. For all intents and purposes, he is a rock star in his field. Good for him, right? I wish there was that commitment and effort focused on our marriage.


Me 47yrs, douche midlife crises poster boy- 49yrs
DitchPig -45yrs Shrek in drag.
Last Dday April 12/10-Divorcing
We live in a world where the fear of illusion is real

Posts: 1502 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: The Cheese Stands Alone
tryingmybest2011
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Default  Posted: 12:19 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH was a SAHD during first affair - not because he desperately wanted to, but because he was finishing university, and I had to go back to work so we could eat.

He was a shift supervisor for the second two - they were guards. One on his team, and one not.


BS: me - 36
WH: him - 36
DD: 7
DD: 5 mos

Married over 9 years, together for 18.

DD#1: 12/12/10 - LTA of 3 years, 2 mos.
DD#2: 02/02/11 - 2 EA/PA with coworkers, a month after the LTA was ended (by OW).

In limbo.


Posts: 317 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Ontario Canada
mixedintherut
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Default  Posted: 12:43 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Truck driver. He wasn't even over the road for 8 months before he started his EA. Somehow, I feel like I should have known better, given our history and the industry.


DD 1: PA 12/4/09 He spent 2.5 years with OW1
R: 8/31/2012
DD 2: EA 8/16/13
BS: 26
WH: 25
1 young daughter.
Terribly disgusted. He refuses to give up his "friend". Headed towards D.

Posts: 136 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: kentucky
LivingALie
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mr EveryoneThinksHe’sAcatch – Professional field, holds a masters degree– is always there for everyone and goes out of his way to do for others. Your typical nice-guy who your parents want you to marry and all your girlfriends envy.

OW – his secretary.


Me: BS
H had LTA with co-worker
Both mid-50s
Two sons - grown and on their own
DD - April 2010
Please note registration date is not correct. See my profile for details
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 1244 | Registered: Nov 2007
BeyondBreaking
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

XWF: college student, worked at blockbuster.

He met OW in one of his classes.

DD's Dad: used to work at a bank. After he and I broke up, he got fired and now he works part time at a cleaning company.

He met OW 6 years before he and I met. He and OW dated for 4 years, and broke up 2 years before he and I met.

He had other OW's- some of whom were also ex's of his, and some of whom he met on dating websites.

WH: he is an auto mechanic. He is an assistant manager at his shop.

He found his OW's on craigslist.


I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.

"Love means never having to say you're sorry."


Posts: 811 | Registered: Jan 2013
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

XWH: musician who also does music-related computer work but is currently working on a grad degree in another field.

He met the AP on Ashley Madison. 'Nuff said.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3403 | Registered: Oct 2011
BelleStar
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

XWBF owns his own auto repair garage. Finds his damsels in distress at work.
He gives them a break on the bill and they give him all the attention his NPD could ever think of...hood of the car, back seats and lets not forget the bathroom floor of the garage (barf)

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