The hard question you need to start asking yourself is Why does he need to be the one to tell you to move on?
I know that he shouldn't. It's not his choice. I've learned through IC in the past (before my relationship with him) that I try and fix everything.
My parents had a really bad marriage. My father cheated on my mother multiple times (even having a child with his OW) he also physically abused her. So very early on I learned to take care of everyone but myself.
I helped my mother cover her black eyes with concealer and held my little brother and sister in my arms covering their ears so that they wouldn't hear the screaming...I know now that I've carried all of this trauma with me into my adult life and unfortunately my marriage.
Right after he came clean about the most recent DDay he told me that he was sexually abused as a child. (I fully believe him. I know this also happened to his brother.) But it's the timing that makes me wonder if he let me know about it then bcuz he knows me...he knows my instinct is to fix it...keep everyone safe
but by keeping everyone else safe I've gotten some really bad scars... Me: 26 BS Him: 29 WH
Together since Dec 2005
officially done 10-30-13
Never be ashamed of a scar. It simply means you were stronger than whatever tried to hurt you.