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User Topic: He's so dumb it's funny
newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A little background first. I filed D from the Gnat back in early April. Since that time, he has not once inquired about the status of the divorce process. He has no attorney, but I do. It has been like pulling teeth getting him to turn in the necessary paperwork to keep the divorcing moving along. The last thing we needed from his for him to complete the court ordered parenting class. I told him this numerous times over the past 3 months and asked when he was going to complete it. I usually got no response, or I'll do it next week, etc.

In early August, my attorney notified me that the court was moving to dismiss our case since we'd had no action on it for awhile (due to Gnat not doing the parenting class). I informed him at that time that he needed to get this done, so they didn't dismiss our case. He then went and did an on-line version of the class, which is not accepted in our county. Both myself and my attorney told him this in advance, but he did it anyway. FINALLY, about 2 weeks ago, Gnat completed the class. My attorney then had to wait for the courts to post that he had indeed completed class before submitting the final paperwork for a judge to sign off on the divorce.

So this is the text conversation this morning:

Gnat - I just looked up our case on-line and it says that the court is motioning to dismiss our case! You need to call your attorney now!

Me - Yes, I told you this back in early August. This is why I urged you to complete the parenting class. Now, that it's done, it can move forward. I spoke to my attorney on Friday and she said everything would go to the judge this week and it would take 1-2 weeks to be completed.

Gnat - That's bullshit! Nobody told me that I had to complete this class for the divorce to be final. You need to call your attorney and tell her it needs to be finalized this week!

Me - Really? You mean the the part about needing to complete the class in the divorce decree, parenting agreement and the separate letter my attorney sent where she BOLDED this information for you wasn't clear? Stop playing the victim role. The only hold up in this divorce has been you and your negligence to complete the items asked of you.


Is this the stupidest man on earth or what? I used to be his mommy through our marriage. I had to hand hold him through every important process since he can never figure this stuff out himself. I'm still sort of hand holding him through this divorce just so it will get done. I'm so happy I don't have to play mommy to him anymore. Hello Kitty will now have to take over my duties. Have fun with him, Hello Kitty.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

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StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 5:10 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

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newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, and I can only imagine why he's suddenly so interested in the D being final. Like I said, he's never asked once before in 5 months. I'm guessing that Hello Kitty is putting the pressure on big time. She wants a ring and a baby, badly.

I can't wait to see the noose tighten around his neck when he's saddled with a new wife and baby. Just what he never wanted.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

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Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It has been like pulling teeth getting him to turn in the necessary paperwork to keep the divorcing moving along.

Had the same problem with POS, and it killed me to bite my tongue with snide remarks every time I had to prompt him to get something done. Incidentally, the parenting class was one of our holdups as well, and we couldn't even file without a certificate for both of us. For me it was a matter of sitting at the court house and watching a 20 minute video. For him, because he is out of state, he had to do the 4-5 hour online course, and pay a fee to do it. THAT made me chuckle in its own right, but what should have taken him one afternoon ended up dragging out for several months until I threatened I would go to an attorney the next day and file for fault if he didn't get it in the mail.

Like you, I had to be his mommy and secretary throughout the M. As if three kids weren't enough he became my fourth! I am SO glad I am not responsible for it any more!

Don't you love it when they spout off with such blatantly stupid comments??


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 5:56 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't wait to see the noose tighten around his neck when he's saddled with a new wife and baby. Just what he never wanted.
Exactly!!


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


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