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User Topic: I want the anger back!!! :/
PrincessPeach06
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Default  Posted: 7:13 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sad!!!! :(. I have no questions, don't even care what happened and am not angry at all - just so incredibly depressed and sad that it did! And of course there is nothing I can do about it. :(. I feel like all my memories are tainted in that they are mostly before Dday and all I ever was and wanted to be was a mom and wife - loved and respected not sh$t on like this. Ugh!!!!

At least the anger made me at least feel strong somehow. I just feel like a limp noodle now. lol

[This message edited by PrincessPeach06 at 7:13 AM, September 11th (Wednesday)]


Me (BS): 35
Him (fWS): 36
Married 16 years 6 kids ages 15-6
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013

Finally this is R 8/14/13

"Forgiving is a journey; the deeper the wound, the longer the journey".


Posts: 299 | Registered: Jun 2013
kiki1
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Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Princess))))

ugh, I dont know which is the better feeling--anger or sadness.

I feel as if most of the time, sadness is the one i feel the most of. I wish (i hate the word wish) we didnt have to feel either, but could just be happy.

You'll get there. Let that sadness go. Focus on doing things that bring you happiness.

Its a horrible ride we are on and we have to choose to not let the sadness overwhelm us. It could be so easy to do that. i struggle with it many days.

Your still a strong person, whether your feeling anger or sadness. That's one good thing out of this whole mess is i know now that i will survive it. I am strong enough to do that.

hugs Princess,,,,,,


Posts: 634 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: new york
brokensmile322
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Default  Posted: 8:03 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Peach,

I just wanted to say that I understand you, but I do think anger is also an emotion that hides a deeper feeling.

In this case, hurt and maybe some fear. I have always seen anger as an emotion that is a reaction to a deeper, more vulnerable feeling.

Sometimes staying in the anger let's us not focus on the feeling we have underneath.

It is uncomfortable. I really think this is a normal process for all of us. You have moved beyond the anger stage and you are just hurting. You have to go through that emotion, process it and deal with it.

I would say that this is a positive for you although it doesn't feel like it. Just my 2 cents.

Hugs!


Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl

"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."


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