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Happy  Posted: 7:25 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Got an email from X today following up on progress of settlement, first contact in 2 weeks. Email popped up, no usual stab of pain, it was more like an absence of emotion.

Im claiming progress. NC really is the way forward. I think I see indifference on the horizon

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Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Progress is nice.

Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 10 and 13
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!

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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a visual image of lots of little strings of web attached to me coming from him. It is time consuming but one by one they are easy to break - trying to break them all at once is very difficult.

Every moment you maintain NC is like you're busting down one of those strings. Eventually the web collapses.

I used to think consequences would be my retribution. Turns out it is indifference.

Don't be surprised if you go through some peaks and troughs. I was quite surprised because I thought I was 'done' with that horrid stuff once I went through it once. We seem to go through all of the stages of grief in random order and multiple times.

I am now 18m from DD and I barely recognise the broken, abused, numb person I became during that toxic M nor the angry, humiliated, indignant, hurting, injured person I was in the months afterwards.

I found NC so difficult in the early days - now it is as easy as breathing. I'm still reaching for complete indifference. I don't know that that is 100% possible when I have to share kids with this lower muppet but I'm pretty happy with 99%.

Sending all of the love and strength I can muster to Phoenix1 and her family.
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Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay, Hurts!

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