It's not crazy at all Holly-Isis.
In my situation what I don't understand is why they are not together now that it is all out in the open especially as they were apparently in love?
As soon as I contacted her BG she texted xWS a NC text saying she was losing a good friend whom she had crossed lines with. And I don't think they have contacted each other since. She clearly dropped him like a hot potato once her GF found out.
Then a few months ago ex said he would be with her except he is respecting her wishes to make a go of things with her BGF. Yes, I hope he keeps hanging on to that! :)
Maybe it's because she is a lesbian and never really loved him and was just using him to boost her massive ego? And no doubt she is using another man in her new job as she likes men in power in her workplaces.
But, it does make me realise how quickly he can give up on me and our family if he is moving on from the OW. Even if we were together 8.5 years.
Good luck to them, they need it!