Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying
Welcome

Forums

Guidelines

Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library

Media

Contact Us
lies
cover
In Association with Amazon.com
Support
Infidelity -
-
like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
[Register]
Newest Member: darkchyld (45368)

Divorce/Separation Post Reply     Print Topic    
User Topic: Read. This. Crap.
tesla
♀ Member
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

2 years ago, I would have read that crap and rugswept whatever the issue was...and we would be off again on our codependent bullshit.

Now, no way.

If he gave me my fucking dog back maybe I'd start thinking of him as close to resembling a fucking human being.

I lost all respect for him the day he broke into my house.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4687 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
FirstLoveGone
♀ Member
Member # 25957
Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your response back to him was more than he deserved.

You are one classy lady!


Posts: 1274 | Registered: Oct 2009
SBB
♀ Member
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 9:07 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Better than he deserved

^^THIS. So much better. You are a good and decent woman.

I also agree with TG about "(please don't sue me)".

No more responses.

There are no fish in this pond. This pond has no water. Fuck off.

I would love to say this wouldn't be a mind-fuck for me but I would be lying. Just reading that felt like a punch in the gut. I almost threw up. I'm so sorry you had to read it.

((((Tesla)))) I much prefer it when they being invisible. Next best thing is when they are being fucksticks.

Be the dad that my kids deserve. That's the only thing I want from you - that is the only thing that would help me stop dripping with regret about choosing so poorly for them.

Fuck.That.Guy. Fuck him right to hell. Fucker.

[This message edited by StrongButBroken at 9:32 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)]


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Grace and Flowers
♀ Member
Member # 34431
Default  Posted: 10:03 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. They really follow the WS Handbook all the way down, don't they? I heard all of those EXACT words from XWH (minus the "don't sue me" whining) in the last year or so. Before I stopped responding completely, I would generally text back and say something like "When you learn how to stop lying, maybe we can talk"....knowing, of course, that he will never stop because he actually believes the bullshit he spouts (you're a wonderful woman, etc).

You nailed it. Great response. Much nicer than I would have wanted to be. And I wish he'd give that damn dog back. He probably doesn't even remember "stealing" Mosely.

You have amazed me with your strength, Tes. Way to go, sister!


I'm Happy, not Sad!

Posts: 1176 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: US
IrishLass518
♀ Member
Member # 34373
Default  Posted: 10:19 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Unbe-freakng-lievable. I was personally TICKED for you as I read this. He says he loves you and hopes you can reconcile in the same breath as he says please don't make me pay you? While he talks about life with StripperWhore and OC? Wait, did he mention StriperWhore? No, he didn't. He talked about taking Teslet ALONE and that he wants you two to be friendly but no talk of StripperWhore. Hmmm, methinks something could be amiss in rainbow/sparkle/fart land


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1778 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
FaithFool
♀ Member
Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a pathetic diseased windbag.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17559 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
ChoosingHope
♀ Member
Member # 33606
Default  Posted: 10:34 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh, he's HOPELESS.

I could barely stand to read it. It's too familiar to me, and it reeks of my own old co-dependent marriage to a SA NPD.

Your reply was perfect. A little too nice for me, but I think you're further ahead in your healing and your new life than I am!

Thanks for posting it.


Posts: 1702 | Registered: Oct 2011
Iamhappytoday
♀ Member
Member # 39051
Default  Posted: 10:42 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have class. Period.

I hope you are high-fiving yourself right now.

(And I love the interpretation by TA74.)

[This message edited by Iamhappytoday at 10:43 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)]


BW 39
WH 34
2DD's 15 months at start
Together 10 years, M 9
OW 22 CW, 2kids by 2 men & youngest less than 1 when affair started.
Dday 1 8/16/12 "just texting"
TT, gaslighting, denial; was always PA; he left me for her.

Posts: 135 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Free!!!
tesla
♀ Member
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 10:56 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He doesn't get how drastically his infidelity changed me. He has no idea what he is dealing with anymore. So he tries the same bullshit because it always worked before. Always. It makes me sick to think I would always roll over and then feel utterly hopeless that nothing in our relationship would change. The two years leading up to D-Day, I cried every night. Every. Fucking. Night.

He's right, I will never forgive him. My heart is hardened toward him. And I can live with that. But I can still deal with him on a professional level to raise our son.

But this bullshit text isn't about that. It's about his need for validation. It's about his need to appear as a generous, benevolent provider. Hard to keep telling yourself that you are generous and benevolent when your ex-wife is taking you to court to pay money you owe. It's also about his fantasy that somehow the universe will bring us back together and I will accept and raise OC. Fuck that noise, I am not that doormat anymore.



"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4687 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Nature_Girl
♀ Member
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 11:23 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I tried to read it. I really did try. I couldn't finish it, though.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9829 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
SBB
♀ Member
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 12:46 AM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The two years leading up to D-Day, I cried every night. Every. Fucking. Night.

Me too, friend. Me too.

We've been through the hard stuff - we're still dealing with our shit but the worst of it is thankfully behind us.

For them? The worst is all around them. They are living in the eye of the storm even if they are too stupid to realise it.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
debbysbaby
♀ Member
Member # 32962
Default  Posted: 12:53 AM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is ALL so familiar. Lets remember that just as recently as July I had my court date with my ex poopsmear who just might be exshats twin, and I actually got a nice fat judgment against him. Of course, I'm still waiting on that to get paid, but the judge gave him until the end of November to do that. In my case, the situation has been dragging along like this with underpaid support for years and I would always hear the same "I'm not doing anything wrong and you will owe me money if you pursue this and I can help you out if this is about the money" blah blah blah bullshit.

It was in large part to reading here on SI that I had to strength to not engage in the communication and stay strong through very stressful court proceedings and the months/weeks/days leading up to that so that I could get what I was owed and not roll over like you speak of.

Stupid fucker. May he catch the rash from hell and his dick fall off. FTG


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

Posts: 880 | Registered: Aug 2011
HurtsButImOK
♀ Member
Member # 38865
Default  Posted: 1:57 AM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Perfect response Tesla, you nailed it. What an amazing, strong and classy gal you are.

Teslet is very blessed to have you as a momma.

FTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTG
FTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTG
FTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTG
FTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTG
FTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTG
FTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTG
FTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTG

ETA to unbreak screen and add

"Love it when a WS gets a hold of a thesaurus. " <<that comment made me

[This message edited by HurtsButImOK at 2:00 AM, September 12th (Thursday)]


Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou


Posts: 752 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
woundedby2
♀ Member
Member # 18522
Default  Posted: 2:12 AM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here is what I read, "I, I, I, I, me, me, Please don't sue me, I, I, I, me, me, me..."

Your reply really was perfect. I mean, since a hot poker up his ass wasn't really an option. FTG is right.


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7824 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
BrokenDaisy
♀ Member
Member # 37063
Default  Posted: 3:54 AM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't post much and can't really add to the thread but still wanted to throw my voice in here. I have been following your story Tesla (i also have a young son and our ddays are close to each other) I think you handled that perfectly. You are so strong!! Good for you for not falling for his crap anymore. That mail was all about himself and nothing about you or Teslet.

As for forgiving. Forgiveness is overrated in my opinion. Some things can be moved past but never forgiven...


Me BxW, him SA NPD WxH
1 wonderful toddler - sole legal custody to me and supervised visitation to xwh.
DDay 01/2012
10/2013 Finally Divorced!!

Posts: 266 | Registered: Oct 2012
Jrazz
♀ Guide
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That was the most bipolar piece of craziness I have read.

"I love you. I'm sorry and I take responsibility for everything. I want us to get along. Also, if you sue me I'm going to countersue your ass off."


Question - does his head ratchet around in circles when he talks?


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17860 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
StillLivin
♀ Member
Member # 40229
Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Uhgggg, I concur FTG.
Amazing, simply amazing the depth of selfishness in some people.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2335 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
gonnabe2016
♀ Member
Member # 34823
Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a daughter now that I cherish, Teslet's little sister and I have irrevocably changed the course of our lives. I know you will not forgive me, but it is my deepest desire that we can somehow find a way to reconcile for Teslet's sake.

Does he mean reconcile as in real R or as in 'be friends?'????

I read it to mean real R.....and it just made me think of a hamster wheel. R now with Tesla for the sake of Teslet, and then next week R with stripperwhore for OC's sake, and then the next week.....I'm sure you get the picture.....

I hate dealing w/ this kind of crap. You moved on, bozo. Keep walkin'.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8088 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
ajsmom
♀ Member
Member # 17460
Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That was a TEXT?

His widdle thumbs must be bleeding.

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


Posts: 21072 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
tesla
♀ Member
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yup. That was a text. He works midnights. I received it at 7am...must have been a slow shift.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4687 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Topic Posts: 50
Pages: 1 · 2 · 3

Return to Forum: Divorce/Separation Post Reply to this Topic
adultry
Go to :
madness  
© 2002 - 2014 SurvivingInfidelity.com. All Rights Reserved.