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User Topic: Complete panic, meltdown... Still shaking
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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't help saying, though: you are an amazing human being.

Sisoon, thank you for this. It's one of the nicest things I have ever read/heard. Made me cry. Of course, I've cried the majority of the last 2 days anyway. But still.

Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

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Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am in tears. ((((big, big hugs))))

It is a special thing to grieve openly in the presence of people who love and accept you. Thanks for sharing such a intimate moment.

Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I've also thought giving a child up for adoption was the most selfless love a human could show another human.

I'm sure you did the right thing at the right time.

I admire your strength and courage.

Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

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looking forward
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Default  Posted: 9:07 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Those who pray, I sure could use some that my daughter will soon decide she'd like to know me.

HFSSC, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Here is a photo of a banner at my church which has truly helped me with healing from a life-altering event almost 45 years ago.
~ lf

[This message edited by looking forward at 9:07 PM, September 13th (Friday)]

Memory and hope; one looks backward, and the other forward; one is of today, the other of tomorrow.
"Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain." (Joseph Campbell)

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Default  Posted: 10:06 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You were brave enough to carry your daughter to term.

I was not. I don't even know the gender of the pregnancy I gave up at 9 weeks gestation.

BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.

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Default  Posted: 11:06 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You are an awesome human being. You put your child before yourself. Even when it broke your heart into a million pieces.

Hang in there sweetie. Be gentle with yourself.

If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5

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Default  Posted: 11:21 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been invited to speak at a fund raiser for the crisis pregnancy center where I had my pg test

You didn't mention the topic that you're speaking about but I just wanted to say that I admire the courage and strength it will take to be a speaker at this event.
(....and that your pictures were very endearing and touching.)

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

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Default  Posted: 11:40 AM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I totally understand. I had my daughter when I was 15 and my father took her away from me and put her up for adoption. I spent the next 18 years looking for her and finally met her.

At first, she was too young to want a relationship with me and that broke my heart. So I waited and as she got older she reached out to me more.

She is now 45 and we've become fairly close. She doesn't call me Mom, but I am Grandy to my two teenage granddaughters. I know that my daughter loves me and it's more than I ever dreamed of.

I never had another child and am so very grateful for what I have with her. I hope that as your daughter gets older, particularly when she has her own children and understands the sacrifice you made, that she will reach out to you.

I will hold you in my heart and I am here if you ever need to talk.

Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.

It takes all kinds of kinds....Miranda Lambert

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