Topic: How the hell do you deal with a passive agressive????
Member # 32214
| Posted: 1:02 AM, September 13th (Friday), 2013|
We have been doing great. Obviously a lot of connection and love between us. But EVERYTIME I try to talk about the affair, or anything related to it, it ends up in a fight and him feeling sorry for himself. How does a normal person deal with this?? It is driving me crazy.
Me - BS
Him - FWS
DD - December 14, 2010
Married 43 years 1/14/2011
Affair lasted 7+ years
Affair had been over for 2 years before I found out. OW sent me a letter.
Posts: 1276 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Kansas
Member # 21281
| Posted: 5:22 AM, September 13th (Friday), 2013|
Is he in counselling for the passive aggressive? If not then what is he doing to fix himself? Self help books?
It's hard work for a passive aggressive to fix themselves, takes many years to learn how to change themselves,
Posts: 371 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 39803
| Posted: 7:19 AM, September 13th (Friday), 2013|
It does sound like he needs some communication and relationship skills. It can't be swept under the rug, or the chances of his repeating are too high.
me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is more like a mental break than a relationship.
I edit, therefore I am.
Posts: 1739 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
Member # 37107
| Posted: 7:29 AM, September 13th (Friday), 2013|
I hear you, I'm dealing with a passive aggressive too... it's so frustrating and exhausting!
Together 29 yrs, M 25 years
2 daughters 24yo(married with a brand new little daughter) & 19yo
D-Day 18 Aug 2012
6mth EA lead to 4mth PA with CO-W. I found out 8 1/2 yrs later
Posts: 908 | Registered: Oct 2012
Member # 39001
| Posted: 8:56 AM, September 13th (Friday), 2013|
I'm dealing with this too. Makes me want to shoot blood out of my eyes!
FYI, there is a thread about PA in the I Can Relate forum.
BS - 57
SAWH - 60 multiple encounters with prostitutes and other sex workers
Married 37 years
Dday - 2/19/13 - found the emails
He promised me Heaven then put me thru hell
Posts: 635 | Registered: Apr 2013
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