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User Topic: Ridiculous M Issues - Spooning
ReunitePangea
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Default  Posted: 12:24 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was reading JFO where I read someone listed that their BS didn't make lasagna delicious as a M issue. As much as I love excellent lasagna, I thought it would be fun to list ridiculous M issues that have been brought to your attention.

In my case, one of my M issues that has been brought to my attention multiple times is that I put the spoons in the dishwasher wrong on occasion. Spoons are to go in the dishwasher with the scooping part down and the handle up. Also, no more than 2 spoons per compartment should be loaded. These rules of course are to insure that all spoons are properly clean after the dishwashing cycle.

Of course when I was putting the spoons in the dishwasher incorrectly after worked all day, shopped for the groceries, cooked the meal, got the kids a bath and put them to bed, my WW was likely being spooned by her OM. Hmmmm....I guess cleanliness of spoons is different depending on the type of spoon involved.

What are your ridiculous M issues you are guilty of?


BS - Me 38
WS - Wife 39
D-Day - Oct 12
Married 10 years
OM1 - 12-year LTA
OM2 - 9 month A turned into open relationship with couple for another 1 1/2 years

Posts: 485 | Registered: Nov 2012
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 12:38 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FWH told MC that I was a control freak. MC asked for FWH to give a specific instance of how I am controlling. FWH had to think for at least 5 minutes and finally came up with "Milkshake doesn't let me have the tv remote control." Thats it. He couldn't come up with any other time I was "controlling".

ETA: Happy ending! I totally owned by habit of controlling tv remote. We now happily share. I watch his NASCAR races (boring, am I wrong to want a crash for some excitement?) and listen to those good ole boys on hunting shows that whisper whilst in the woods. (it is like fingernails on a slateboard to me) But, wait, he still doesn't watch my vampire, werewolf or zombie shows. Hhhhmmmm! Okay, he watches all my Discovery ID shows and DWTS with me. We're good!

[This message edited by SisterMilkshake at 1:06 PM, September 13th (Friday)]


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9712 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Jennifer99
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Default  Posted: 12:41 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I got some nasty yesterday for not putting the shopping list in order of the path through the store - forget that I was filling it out while driving in the car somewhere else to hand off and quickly because someone else who had NO where to be didn't bother to do it.

I just said "really?" and laughed and laughed and laughed.


Posts: 556 | Registered: Jun 2013
putonahappyface
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pangea, I had to chuckle over your spoon rules. I must confess to being a bit ocd when it comes to the dishwasher. I can only surmise that I latch onto it as one of the few areas in my life that I can keep orderly & organized. My H is hopeless when it comes to loading it efficiently, but I welcome his help too much to fuss over this. I just thank him, wait until he walks off & rearrange as needed. Everybody wins :) There you go...what I've learned over 25 years of marriage.


BS (me) - 50; SAWH- 51 (hurtherbadly)
Married 26 yrs
2 DS - 21&17
Dday 6/4/2010. 2 EA/PA
11/15/12 update: discovered porn addiction
4 years out: M is strong; FWH is a new man :)


Posts: 720 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Bluegrass
dameia
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The problems were, before DDay, I was too good for him.

Now, I'm not loving enough, I don't initiate sex enough, I'm standoffish, yada, yada, yada. You would think that discovering your H has spent your ENTIRE M lying to you might explain some of those behaviors, but according to him...no. According to him those are all in the past and he'll never act that way again. So we're all good, right?


Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

Trust is like paper. Once it's crumpled it can never be perfect again.


Posts: 1156 | Registered: Jul 2012
lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't talk enough when we were in the car.


Choices, Chances, Changes.....You must make a Choice to take a Chance or your life will never Change.

Posts: 13772 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
stunnedin12
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Default  Posted: 2:36 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't talk enough when we were in the car

I got that one too!

Of course I had also been told I could only talk during a commercial!! (radio and tv). We just went around and around about this again on Wednesday. I told him that after YEARS of being told to wait for a commercial that he can d*mn well wait for me to decide to speak to him again!

I was also told:

I express appreciation without realizing I am saying, 'thank you' and I need to remember that words have meaning - THAT one went over real well!

A personal kitchen favorite is that I don't "clean as you go". He still can't grasp the reality that while I am making a meal I am also doing laundry, homeschooling children, etc. I'll clean that kitchen when I get around to it and it's always clean after dinner.

I guess I should have told him about some of MY pet peeves so he wouldn't have had to go have an affair with chickie so I would have a marriage issue with him!


ME - Betrayed Spouse
Him - Wayward spouse
Not sure, but trying I guess.

Posts: 471 | Registered: Jan 2013
LearningToRun
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I let an outdoor plant die in the record freeze.
Showed i lacked "responsibility" and was not reconciliation material.

Thank goodness that plant died, my life is way better.

[This message edited by LearningToRun at 2:47 PM, September 13th (Friday)]


Posts: 268 | Registered: Feb 2011
idkam
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Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I use to love watching Law&Order, i would sat and watch the marathon all friggin day... The ex would say " you need to careful what you feed your mind" the Bible says this and that about shows like that... WTFu:;k Eva.. L&O didnt make me want to have an affair.. on the other hand looking at the swim suit issue online flirting with every cutie that you saw,and watching women pop their arse on music videos made you seek another so maybe you should have been more careful what you fed your
damn mind.... Asshole....


People come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime..
Divorced

Posts: 1798 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Texas
Pentup
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Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My favorite I have shared before. I did not always dry the BACK of my (then) long hair.

I know. I am a horrible person.
I am a horrible person who now takes allllllllll the time I need to dry the back of my now shorter hair. Lottttttssssss of time.


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6587 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
Jennifer99
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Default  Posted: 2:59 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG the hair one made me remember this one - I don't always tie my shoes so I am lazy.

Putting my shoes on to walk to the car, ride in the car, then get out and take my shoes off to go in a family members house. I don't tie - I tuck the laces in. I have them tied if we go for a walk or something.


Posts: 556 | Registered: Jun 2013
SadFlower
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Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Apparently, my chief defect in my former marriage was that I put the dirty dishes on the wrong side of the kitchen when clearing the table. No wonder the poor man had to have an A.


Me: BW, age 66
Him: WH, age 64
Married 19 years
In R.

D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA


Posts: 400 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Connecticut
SBB
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Default  Posted: 4:23 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No wonder the poor man had to have an A.

I didn't cook or drive. That made me a shit wife, apparently.

I asked if OWUglyIndian cooked or drove.

Nope.

I hope someone comes in and shares the corn story?


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5579 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
summerain
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Default  Posted: 5:35 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Did not think it was good enough for him to watch five days of test match cricket whilst playing his stupid PC cricket game of the same test. Whilst him expecting me to sit on the couch and discuss player stats... ummm.... I don't watch the cricket and I had no idea what the stats were about.

Did not think it was a good idea to get foxtel SOLELY for the cricket. (the equivalent of cable, quite expensive for us only watching ONE CHANEL) F*** did he think that I would be happy with him watching the cricket pretty much 24/7 (test cricket between other nations)

Thought it was mean when I thought it was hilarious when the commentator had nothing to talk about but "back in the day when we had fruit baskets".... and promptly discussed how good the fruit baskets were for HALF AN HOUR. (Test matches are so fucking boring)

This year I'm getting us out of the house and I'll buy him a six pack and can go watch the godamn cricket with his friends. (he's so cute when they appreciate his "amazing knowledge" about the cricket).

Told him that I was sick of eating cheese on toast for dinner every night whilst the cricket was on and could we please eat earlier than 1 am? (was scared we would get overweight)

Hence, most of our issues revolve around the cricket. However he's very cute when he watches it and this year wants to start his own 're-enactment of the tests cricket team'. It seems bad when I write it out, but it's actually quite funny and maybe a little passive aggressive fighting. Except for the Foxtel, I put my foot down on that one.

Gotta love the dedication


OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.

Posts: 818 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Australia
HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wasn't fun anymore because I stopped drinking. (Um, I got sober because you and your family kept hassling me about blowing our life up every other year)

Oh, and I didn't support him. Because I didn't go to the county fair to cheer him on in a freaking DEMOLITION DERBY. After having a horrible stomach virus for 5 days. So sorry I didn't feel like going to sit on metal bleachers and use porta potties surrounded by hundreds of drunk rednecks so I could watch you intentionally wreck a car and get injuries that weren't covered by insurance because you were being a freaking idiot!


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2748 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
heartache101
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Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My husband said she had a terrible husband (OW). Blah blah I said really! What the hell are you!
Did I go crying to another man. My husband dont give me attention? He is never around I feel so lonely! Hell no! Why because I am not a cheater!

Then his therapist said that I am the queen up on a pedestal!
I told her he can take his pedestal and stick it up his ass! I didnt ask for it. I thought she woukd stroke. Omg I forgot all about that one!

Oh and on the second one I kid you not! She reminded him of a younger me!


There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

Posts: 3188 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana
TheRealDeal
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Default  Posted: 7:02 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope someone comes in and shares the corn story?

StrongButBroken, not sure if this is the corn story you were looking for but...

We had gotten into a stupid tiff. It was over Corn on the Cob. Yes, seriously, corn on the cob.
Apparently, after 18 YEARS he didn't like corn on the cob. He went on and on how it was a waste of energy to heat up the water and didn't like eating it off the cob. So guess what, I said okay (not very nicely)and we had corn out of the can that night.

That stupid tiff - over CORN ON THE FREAKIN' COB - is the reason he gave me. He said that it pushed him over the edge and that afterwards he went and slept with OW for the first time.

He of course now denies ever saying any of that but I wrote it down in my journal. Verbatim. because it was just the dumbest thing I had ever heard. He said it on July 1, 2013 around 4pm in the afternoon.

Don't try and gaslight me buddy, I write it all down.


Me: 45, him: 54
together 18 years
DDay1 March 2013, Dday2 April 27, 2013, Dday3 June 1, 2013
We are in R and trying to make it
Never lose yourself trying to hang onto someone who doesn't care about losing you.

Posts: 249 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Northeast
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TheRealDeal ~ I am so sorry, but that is freakin' hilarious, but so sad that it is true. Not that the corn made him do it, but that he actually said that.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9712 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
EasyDoesIt
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Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good grief, I don't even know where to start.

Dust bothered him. He didn't want me vacuuming during the day because it aggravated his allergies, and he didn't want me to do it in the evenings because it bothered the kids when they were watching TV.

Dishes. He didn't want me doing dishes before he went to bed because the noise disturbed him when he was watching TV, and he didn't want me doing them AFTER he went to bed because it kept him awake. However, he also didn't want to wake up to dirty dishes. He would actually describe me doing dishes to his friends as "She's SLAMMING dishes again. just to bother me." HELLOOOO, McFly!!! If you SLAM glass dishes they BREAK.


Anything less than full disclosure and total transparency is pure bullshit. WARNING! No emotional pollution allowed.

Posts: 3692 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: Georgia
TheRealDeal
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thanks SMS - just ridiculous isn't it? I mean seriously...corn on the cob? and that he actually said it all out loud.

He's come up with some real doozies as many WS tend to do. I've posted a few of his words-of-wisdom on a different thread. http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=505071

I wish I was making it all up, or at the very least, as he recently said, "one day we'll look back on this and laugh" I find that highly unlikely to happen

edited for typo

[This message edited by TheRealDeal at 8:14 PM, September 13th (Friday)]


Me: 45, him: 54
together 18 years
DDay1 March 2013, Dday2 April 27, 2013, Dday3 June 1, 2013
We are in R and trying to make it
Never lose yourself trying to hang onto someone who doesn't care about losing you.

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