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User Topic: Ridiculous M Issues - Spooning
doesitgetbetter
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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was a terrible mother for making my kids fold their own clothes. And I was a horrible wife for not washing my H's clothes that were on the floor in the corner of the room on his side of the bed... where I couldn't see them.


DDay - Dec '07
Me - BS
Him - FWS
Us - Committed
May 18, 2010 - I forgave him fully!
"Behold, I have refined thee, but not with silver; I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction." Isaiah 48:10

Posts: 3859 | Registered: Feb 2008
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 8:31 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Okay... this is totally true:

He told me that I was too upset when Borders closed.

Yep. That's a reason for cheating on me. I was bummed that my favorite chain bookstore closed, and I apparently shouldn't have expressed any emotions or feelings about it. You know, because I cried every night, talked about it incessantly, said we couldn't have sex because I was too sad about Borders...

Yeah, you just can't make this kind of lunacy up.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3604 | Registered: Oct 2011
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 8:36 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, and I almost forgot-- I watched too much TV. You know how much I watched?

Six hours a WEEK.

I had a few shows that I enjoyed winding down with in the evening after the kids went to bed. He hated that with a passion-- I was supposed to put the kids to bed, jump into my rubber suit, and play passion palace with him every night, not watch TV!

Sorry, XWH. The TV didn't try to awkwardly grope me and call it foreplay. It was the better companion to have in the evening.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3604 | Registered: Oct 2011
jb3199
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Default  Posted: 9:00 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our dog was peeing in the house.

Let me rephrase that: our pound dog that SHE went and chose from the pound, was peeing in the house.

As for loading silverware--EVERYBODY knows the handles face up. Duh.

[This message edited by jb3199 at 5:36 AM, September 14th (Saturday)]


BH-46
WW-44
2 boys-17 & 20(special needs)
Married 21yrs.(together 27yrs.)

All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary Puckett
D-Day: 9/18/09 D-Day#2: 2/19/10 The Marriage Killer: 6/6/11
Heading for D


Posts: 2052 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: northeast
LeopoldB
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Default  Posted: 9:11 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

All tableware faces up in the dishwasher basket except sharp knives which face down.

Come on, people. We are a society.


Posts: 203 | Registered: Sep 2013
emotionalgirl
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Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hmmm lets see...

I read too much...so shoot me I don't like to watch mindless drivel on tv!

I don't let him talk without interrupting ( only when I am hearing the story for the 50th time when he is drunk...how many times do I have to sit through it?)

But my favourite....
I didn't wash his favourite socks ( yes you read right my 48 year old WH has favourite socks and although he had 20 pairs in his drawer, his favourite weren't clean...oh the horror!)

[This message edited by emotionalgirl at 10:16 PM, September 13th (Friday)]


1st D day: Saturday July 20,2013
2nd D day....when the s**t really hit the fan and the truth came out.Saturday August 3,2013
3rd D day: Friday August 16, 2013...NC sent Friday Aug 30 4th D day NOV 11
Me: BS
Him: WH
Married 25 years....finally in R

Posts: 373 | Registered: Aug 2013
momoffive
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Default  Posted: 10:27 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SAWH tried to blame his affairs and other forms of acting out on:

"My wife took my hobbies away."

He has always hunted, fished, golfed, watched all of the football and nascar that he could. What had him upset was that the gym that he was going to to lift weights went out of business and we had 3 kids all playing baseball and softball on 3 separate teams and it caused him to not be able to play on a church softball team (OW3 kept the books).

I had nothing to do with the gym and softball but it was easier to blame me and use it to justify his affairs.


BW 44, SAWH 45(sorry1)
M24 yrs
DD 23,16,13 DS 21, 19
Dday1-7/3/09 EA OW4
Dday2-9/1/09 PA OW4
Dday3 3/14/10 Farmville sexting, OW3
Dday4 3/13/11 Secret texting, would be OW5-she said no
Dday5 8/2/11 PA 10 years ago OW1, kissing 4 years ago OW2

Posts: 1123 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Pennsylvania
h0peless
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Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our roof sprung a leak and I didn't fix it by the time it rained again two days later. (she was already in the affair at this point but this was the straw that broke the camel's back!)

[This message edited by h0peless at 11:31 PM, September 13th (Friday)]


Posts: 1679 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
SBB
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Default  Posted: 11:40 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TheRealDeal, YES - that's the one!!

Corn on the cob. Sheesh.

What kind of crazy person doesn't love corn on the cob??? I would have divorced him just for the corn blasphemy.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5558 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
courageouscat
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Default  Posted: 3:23 AM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It has been brought to my attention that I am an uncaring wife b/c I bought whole grain bread instead of soft white bread; if I cared about him, I would remember that he doesn't like whole wheat or whole grain bread. And add that to making brown rice instead of white....gasp!!! I am so mean!


ME - 50 something
WH - 50 something
Kids - 3 boys, Adult, Teen, Teen
Married - 26 years
Together - 29 years
EA 10/11 -12/11; 100% NC 1/18/11

Posts: 113 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Out in the big wide open
EasyDoesIt
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Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As for the silverware in the dishwasher thing....I see both sides.

Many people do not wash their hands after using the restroom. Plus, our hands are just gross and covered in bacteria. If you put the silverware in with the handles UP, then when you put the dishes away, you don't smear your germs on the portion of the utensil that goes in your mouth (learned that in Epidemiology).

If you put them in with the handles down, you must be sure to put them away by grasping them beneath the part of the utensil that goes in your mouth.

Not that I care one way or the other because I live alone!! YAY!!


Anything less than full disclosure and total transparency is pure bullshit. WARNING! No emotional pollution allowed.

Posts: 3692 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: Georgia
sohurtbyhim
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Default  Posted: 2:40 PM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When my WH gave me my laundry list of everything I did wrong in our marriage, one of his justifications for the A was that I MADE him eat peas.

Now whenever I bring that up to him, he doesn't "remember" ever saying it and can't believe he did. Just crazy.


Me - BS
Him - WH
Married 30 Years
D-Day #1 August 17, 2010
D-Day #2 October 19, 2010
D-Day #3 February 12, 2011

Posts: 296 | Registered: Aug 2011
confused615
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

During the time he was cheating on me,he got really pissy because I bought bacon. Which was odd,because it's not like bacon has never been brought into my house,ya know? Oh! And nuts. (lol) I made brownies and put pecans in them.

At the time,he told me he couldn't chew these things because his teeth were "all messed up." Again..odd..because his teeth were fine..and he was eating other things with no problem.

But I stopped buying bacon..and no more pecans in the brownies.

Then I got over that nonsense and continued buying and cooking both.

It was after dday,though. Because prior to dday,I was turning myself inside out to try and make him happy.

The other day we were at the store,and I jokingly asked if he wanted to get some bacon. He didn't get the joke..so I reminded him that there was a "no bacon" ban in the house a few years ago. And he gave me that classic answer...

"I don't remember that."

ETA: @SisterMilkshake...why the Hell are those men whispering..after they have just shot their deer?? Do they think the animals in the woods didn't hear that gunshot? Really??

[This message edited by confused615 at 3:35 PM, September 14th (Saturday)]


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,10
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


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