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Thinking back to some of the many phrases OW liked to use (while talking to me before I knew what was going on and also said to WH), and wondering if they're common to the OW mentality. Please chime in!

"If it feels good I just go for it."

"I have no regrets in my life."

"You deserve this."

"You don't deserve that."

"We deserve this."

So is that what it all breaks down to? This incredible sense of entitlement and complete lack or responsibility for ones actions? I just wonder now, if all the times I've heard people use these statements if they're OWs?! Also, do OM's typically have that same kind of mentality? Any other popular OW's catchphrases?

"You need a change" said by MOW to WS when he was complaining to her about us not getting along.

Of course he needed a change. He needed to leave his dedicated wife, the home of his children, so he can have *you*. The woman that would sleep with a sack if it gave her attention.

Her absolute favorite: 'If you're not taking care of your man at home, someone else will'.

She got this from her IC:

"Find your happy."

I just wonder now, if all the times I've heard people use these statements if they're OWs?!

Not everyone who uses those phrases are OW or have "entitlement" issues.

It really depends on the conversations that people are having at the time when the phrases you listed are used.

I could say "You deserve it" to a friend who had just told me that she worked crazy hours for two weeks and made herself an appointment for four hour spa session. That's not entitlement to me.

But that's just one example. There are plenty of times where I can see those phrases being used and considered "entitlement." It really depends on the people and the current convesations/situation.

I hope some of this helps.

OW used to have a pinterest board all full of lovely catchphrases about never regretting, and doing what makes you happy, living with passion, focusing on your needs, not judging others unless you yourself are perfect etc. So self centered and with no remorse what so ever.

Just saw this.

"You need a change" said by MOW to WS when he was complaining to her about us not getting along.

Besides being completely wrong on so many levels. She shouldn't be allowed to speak to other human beings when all that will come out of her mouth is shit.

[This message edited by simplydevastated at 2:01 PM, September 13th (Friday)]

She posted this on her FB wall:

Good girls are just bad girls that never get caught.

And then she commented on her own posting and said, "And the smartest"

I would love to punch that bitch in the face.

I'm still trying to figure this one out. A few days after D-day and NC, she put up a new cover picture on her facebook account (the only public part that I can still see). It said "What Susie says about Sally says more about Susie than about Sally"

Was she implying that by calling her a bitch and a whore for sleeping with my husband and ruining a 25 year friendship I was somehow the whore. I accept the bitch title however, and if I ever come in contact with her again, she will see the extent of my bitchiness.

OW used to have a pinterest board all full of lovely catchphrases about never regretting, and doing what makes you happy, living with passion, focusing on your needs, not judging others unless you yourself are perfect etc. So self centered and with no remorse what so ever.

OW's BF that was also an OW had exact same sh*t on her pinterest page.

OW was also way into new agey "the universe is talking to me" BS. She used it to justify EVERYTHING she did. She even started seeing a therapist but wouldn't go to one unless he/she believed in "twin flames" (some ultra new age soul mate garbage) so that this "therapist" could tell her everything she wanted to hear - that she should doggedly pursue WH because they were one soul that was meant to be together.

I don't know if this is considered a "catchphrase" or not - but one thing that OW said - which really just infuriated me was "they had a different level of love"

I'm with you OldCow - I want to punch her in the face every time I think about it.

WH erased all the texts and emails before I ever got to read them except for a couple OW sent on D-day after WH told her "she found out" She said similar things about our love being true and pure and how he needed to get out of that prison he was living in and be free (mind you, she is married with 3 kids).

Punching her in the mouth would have been too good for her. I do get a bit of joy out of the fact that WH has been in NC since that day and he has no interest in ever contacting her again. He shut her down so her "true and pure love" really was just a fuck-buddy relationship on WHs side.

Yes they both deserve happiness. Funny, I thought he was happy with me.

Oh and the whole u are my soul mate crap.

"Your marriage was damaged before I entered the picture."

"It's simple two people wanted it to happen."

"If your husband really loved you he would never have done this to you."

"You are a miserable and worthless person."

"I do not regret any of my actions."

"All you do is obsess about me all day long."

[This message edited by crazyblindsided at 2:34 PM, September 13th (Friday)]

"I never made any promises (meaning wedding vows) to your wife."

"If you love something/one, set it free. If it comes back it's yours."

"God grant me the serenity to accept things."

All from FWS's last FB who "loved" him.

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"I don't want to be a homewrecker"

"We can still be friends, we'll just stop the other stuff"

The slut OW texted my husband once (while he was still in fog/hiding things) -

"its ridiculous that we cant talk to each other, you know your wife is going to be checking the phone logs"

i would also like to punch the bitch in the face...course she would be just as ugly.

I could go on for DAYS about this one. But my favorite was probably "It is what it is but it'll become what you make it." She used that one a lot when she was trying to talk him into leaving me and abandoning his family. The 'it is what it is' part really chaffed my ass, because it implied they had absolutely no responsibility in making it that way in the first place.

I DON'T ASK FOR NOTIN FROM NO ONE AND NEVER HAVE. I HAVE GIVEN,GIVEN ,GIVEN AND NEVER ASKED YOU FOR A F'N THING OTHER THEN TO BE A FRIEND. A SHOULDER TO CRY ON (RARELY) IF THAT'S ASKING TOO MUCH THEN YOU CAN GO STRAIGHT TO HELL AND OBVIOUSLY AREN'T PERSON I WANT IN MY LIFE. SO, TO SAY IT AIN'T BEEN NICE KNOWING YOU IS PUTTING IT MIDLEY!

This is a direct quote from OW's FB page. Caps and spelling all its! The catch phrase in this is: I HAVE GIVEN,GIVEN ,GIVEN

Yes, the AP's are always so magnanimous.

"Listen to your inner voice, it will not lead you astray"

"I wouldn't let someone put out my fire"

"Its a case of unmet needs."

"Spelljean doesn't appreciate your core being."