Oh and the whole u are my soul mate crap.

Have you seen my signature?

I'm your dirty little secret...not even your friends know

I read it and felt sick because I knew she was talking about MY husband...I just didn't know how dirty their secret really was at that time...I wish there was a word awful enough to describe her but I haven't found one yet.

Grrrr!!! When I hear that one, it makes my blood boil!!!

I really hate hiding and secretes. In my experience it is always best to be open and as straightforward as possible.

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" I don't need any advice from you" when I told her to find a nice single man if she was lonely.

"If you didn't take what you have for granted he wouldn't be spending time with me". I laughed my ass off, my WH was so far from being taken for granted he couldn't even define the phrase if you asked him! He sure knows what it means since I went 180!

"You are always responsible for how you act, no matter how you feel. Remember that."

Of course, when I confronted her all she could do was tell me how bad she felt at the time, how insecure she was, and all she was trying to do was to feel better about herself.

OW to XH: can I come over when V is at work so we can fuck in your bed?

See first statement.

When my WH didn't let the AP use my YMCA pass to exercise: "Oh well, they'll know I'm not an old woman". The 25 year old AP said this to the 70 year old "f---buddy" sitting across the table from her. Unbelievable.

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In an email to me
"I have no excuse to offer other than I was weak"

If you really loved him you would let him have friends
:

1. "I've never been so compatible with anyone!You are amazing and my true soul mate!!" (She put hearts at the bottom of the exclamation marks)
2. "If you leave her now or if you leave her next year, you're still going to hurt her." (Thanks Mother Teresa)
3. "Come to the haven I've created for us" (small run-down,low-income housing unit in a bad part of town with her 3 kids, 2 dogs).
4. "I've made a move to start my new life...it's time you did the same." (She left her H for mine).
5. "You deserve to be happy" (of course that meant he could only be happy with her).

She signed her full name including a middle initial and dated it. It was not signed "with love" or "yours forever" just her name and date.

I recently found out that STBX has declared bankruptcy. I guess happiness with his soul mate at the haven is expensive!

"You do not need to fear that I will ever pose a threat to your devotion to Courageouscat. I will celebrate and protect that in partnership with you"

"...the joy of a bond with you that feels uniquely pure. And I believe I will be able to give it to you in such a way that it enhances your life... and Courageouscat's."

"Please try to let my feelings for you be only a blessing that offers warmth and comfort and the joy of being known. It is all I ask."

"Whatever feelings I have for you should never be a burden to you... I can enjoy loving... it is a positive emotion. This was NOT supposed to cause a problem, but if it has, please let me know... I will learn... I never want to make you uncomfortable!"

"...there is a limbic resonance that makes me desire an intimacy (emotional, intellectual, and physical) with you that is completely inappropriate and off-limits. I want you to be assured that I completely and entirely respect your marriage, your family, and your relationship with Courageouscat. I will do nothing to jeopardize that."

This post was probably a t/j but it felt good to put it out there. I'll still wrestle with thinking I overreacted to WH's EA.

"The sweetest thought is to know that those who might not like you now will have no other choice but to love you when (if) they get to heaven. So it's all good. :)"

Our recovery is going well. Husband is loving, remorseful, helpful, transparent. She is still delusional.

Of course she posts all the posts about soulmates and no regrets. Another favorite to repeatedly post is “It matters not who you love, where you love, why you love, when you love or how you love, it matters only that you love” It justifies everything for her. I guess it applies to adultery and child-molestation, so long as they are done with "love."

These are repeatedly posted in hundreds of religious quotes. Her version of Christianity is a big Get Out of Jail Free Card.

In another email missive that I again intercepted, she stated, "Chicky could never begin to comprehend what we share". I responded to that with three words: "F*cking delusional bitch."

"I don't want to get in the middle of your relationship." -And yet, look what your fat whore ass did?

"Your problems have nothing to do with me." -Really, because YOUR continued presence is causing the biggest problem

"He never loved you like he did me." -I find this to be funny because when DD's dad dated her (they dated for 4 years and then broke up 2years before he and I met), he didn't take her out, didnt bring her to his family's house, and when she wanted a baby, he refused. He had me meet his family right off the bat, and got me pregnant pretty quick too. He took me out all the time, and he said I love you first. Took him a year and a half to say it to that piece of trash when they were dating. And...he cheated on her too.

"I know how to make him happy." -If this is true, do you mind explaining why he dumped you as a girlfriend, ignored you for two years, and only called you when he was stressed out about money? If this is so true, why is it that he was fucking multiple OW's on the side AND begging for sex every night from me as well?

She and my WH were fond of the "I didn't want to one day regret not making my feelings for you clear or leaving words left unsaid."