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User Topic: OW catchphrases?
kickboxer
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Default  Posted: 2:36 AM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"We all have needs."

From WH to random FB "friend" he had no business being friends with.

Meanwhile, he ignored my needs for years.


BW - 42 (Me)
WH - 39 (2 ONS, 6m EA)
Married 13 years, 3 children
DD: 7/13/13
Status: Rugsweeping, I guess.

Posts: 248 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Somewhere Out There
StruckNumb
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Member # 38973
Default  Posted: 6:28 AM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just learned this in a MC session when I asked WH what his skank ever said about me....said to my WH while they were on a date:

"you know, your wife is very lucky to have you as a husband."

Yeah, I'm very "lucky" to have wedded a cheater! Yeah, more like "unlucky"


me-BW-51
f?WH - 49
m27 yrs, T 28, no kids
OW-WH's former CW, friends + 20yr
DDay-11/16/12, LT EA, 4y? PA, manymany
EA with FFriends over the years
Attempting R
Is there an end to blindness in sight?

Posts: 77 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: N.California
sudra
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Default  Posted: 8:04 AM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW used to have a pinterest board all full of lovely catchphrases about never regretting, and doing what makes you happy, living with passion, focusing on your needs, not judging others unless you yourself are perfect etc. So self centered and with no remorse what so ever.

Sounds exactly like our OW's facebook page.

Life isn’t about worrying.
That’s a waste of time. And
Life isn’t about being perfect.
It will never happen.
Life is about finding yourself
And finding people who accept that person.


“A conscience is what hurt when all your other parts feel so good.” - Couldn't believe she actually posted this one.

“To be your friend was all I ever wanted, to be your love… is all I ever dreamed.”

“Life is short, break rules, forgive quickly, kiss slowly, love truly, laugh uncontrollably, and never regret anything that made you smile.”** The asterisks she always put on posts related to my WH.

“A soulmate is someone who has the locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks… with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes our life come to life.” Richard Bach*

“Risk more than others think is safe. Care more than others think is wise.* Dream more than others think is practical. Expect more than others think is possible.”

“A special friend changes your life by being a part of it, makes you laugh until you can’t stop, convinces you an unlocked door is waiting for you to open. Your forever friend gets you through hard times, sad times, and confused times. If you walk away, they will follow you, guide you, cheer you on, hold your hand and say everything is okay. You feel happy and complete. You have a forever friend, and forever had no end.***

“It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations.”

Your forever friend is one who messages you and says, “I’m thinking about you,” calls you and says, “let’s get together,” hugs you and says, “It’s all okay,” says NOTHING and you know they are always there even though you haven’t spoken to or seen them in days – you know they were there and always have been. You never miss a beat and you never lose a forever friend.*

“With courage in your heart and with God by your side take a stand. Begin to design the life you want to live as best you can. In some of my darkest, most painful and frightening hours, I have prayed, not for the answers to my prayers but for my God to help me find strength, confidence, and courage to persevere and do what I must do.”

And this one, just as he was set to leave me:

“It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself, if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. If you can be alone with yourself and truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.”

Thanks for this thread. I had no idea they all did this!

And of course she told him that he wouldn't be cheating if he been "happy" with me.

[This message edited by sudra at 8:09 AM, September 15th (Sunday)]


Me (BW) (55), Him(SAWH) (58)
Married 22 years, 1 son (19), 1 stepdaughter (27)
DDay #1 January 2004
DDay #2 7-27-2010 7 month EA/PA (became "engaged" to OW before he told me he wanted a divorce)
Working on R

Posts: 1495 | Registered: Nov 2010
Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't have anything new to add, except...

Why do they all say the same stuff, even OM?


I keep my mind on my future/and my eyes on the sky/I don't really smile much/If you were there you'd know why.

Posts: 2164 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: City in the Midwest/Best In The Whole Wide World
womaninflux
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Default  Posted: 8:20 AM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't personally know the OW in my case but I do know that she said:

"I don't want to be a home wrecker."

"I don't want to hear anything about your wife or home life."

"You are lesser because you are married and live in the suburbs." (to my husband...she would say this. He said she looked down on him for this...LOL what idiots)

"We should probably take a break." (when I finally figured out what was going on...NO I'm sorry...the jig is up! You should END IT!!!!)

"I can't believe I wasted 2.5 years on you." (when SAWH finally broke it off)


BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"

Posts: 910 | Registered: Jun 2013
Kelany
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"He told me you were having marriage problems"

"you've been married for so long, it's okay you don't need a condom"


BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12

Former 80s Icon wishful thinking


Posts: 2031 | Registered: Feb 2012
Markay81
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Default  Posted: 8:33 AM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I shook my head the whole time reading this. I mean what the f@#& do they all get together have coffee and think this shit up. Is there a book they all read?
My OW said " My H cheats on me and hits me. Im looking for a real man for my kids and I".


Ugh! Sometimes reality sucks.
BS (me) 31
WH (him) 33
OW - married Bar Whore Rig Rat
Married 14 years
3 amazing kids
DDay-3/03/2013 TT.The whole truth came out(hopefully) 06/09/2013
Currently on the roller coaster of R.

Posts: 48 | Registered: May 2013
lostintally5581
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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The ow like to say that to wh "you my pussy is better than your wifes" and it funny cause he couldn't stay hard for her....guess it really want better. And likes to post about me on fb about how i must think I'm something special....how the universes does not revolve around me.....how i should let her keep him since she stole him.....Bitch please....if he was stolen than how come he is still here with me 9 months after d day?


There better not be a "next time"

Posts: 88 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: a mere speck in a much bigger picture
naivewife
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh and how can I forget the one that makes me wish firing squads were still in vogue and I led one:

"Kids are so resilient."
(On why WH should be destroying his home life to be f*cking her and eventually abandon his children.)

WH told me this line with tears in his eyes.


D-day #1 - 1/23/13
false R, then...
D-day #2 - 3/26/13
I will come for the benefit of the sick, remaining free of all intentional injustice, of all mischief and in particular of sexual relations with both female and male persons. - Hippocratic Oath

Posts: 342 | Registered: Feb 2013
Amber13
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW used to call me paranoid. Grrrrr.

Posts: 63 | Registered: Aug 2013
herongirl
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Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW's answer when I sent FB message confronting her, "It's like if you don't take care of your cat, he'll go to the neighbor's house to get better food & care, I was just making him happy". She then promptly msg'd him, "herongirl is angry at me"...You think?? His response to her? "Fuck off". She also posted lots of religious statuses (she's muslim). Maybe she was hoping to be his second wife....(not legal but tolerated in their country, although WS isn't even muslim)


Me- BS
D-day 1/21/13
Trying to reconcile

I can't make you happy, unless I am (Ziggy Marley-True to Myself)


Posts: 30 | Registered: Aug 2013
Lovedyoumore
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Default  Posted: 5:51 PM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Git 'er done.


Me 52
WH 52
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R

I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.


Posts: 1526 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Southern, bless your heart
myperfectlife
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Default  Posted: 8:20 PM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After coming in to my 17 year marriage, the OW had the nerve to say to me:
"I just want my life back."
Oh, I'm sorry you will never get those 3 months back.
What about my 17 years?
CRAZY ASS B!TCH!!


I cannot be responsible for another's personal growth.
DDay#1 of a "cheatillion" 4/1/13
Divorce final 11/04/13

Posts: 452 | Registered: Jul 2013
womaninflux
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Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

facepunched - they say that because of their egos. They are so selfish...they think everyone around them has them on a pedestal...they are soooo special you know. They have to believe this, well, you know...because they are cheaters and liars and taking part in evil deeds. They all have screws loose.


BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"

Posts: 910 | Registered: Jun 2013
PositiveAttitude
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Default  Posted: 9:20 PM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oooh . . . I'll play. OW posted on her Facebook -

Be the kind of person you'd be proud to have your children emulate.

Seriously can't make that up!


Posts: 190 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From:
SeeThingsNow1
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

when he ended the talkfest of looooove - Well, its her fault, she ignored you!
no matter than I , myself was ignored lol and was his fault as well...nope, was aaaaaaaaaall me....

Posts: 126 | Registered: Jan 2013
crestfallen
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Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My H's OW used to say that it's ok because everyone does it.

The other line was, " what's wrong with you? Don't you just want to have a little fun, like a fun blow job?" ( that's how you talk to your CEO?)

And after H's gas lighting , she said dont worry about Crestfallen, she has no idea and you're paranoid! Ps....I was sooo not paranoid, I was on it!


BS-me-57
WH-57
Married 32 years
OW-Mr. Ed ish! Seriously!
DDAY- 2/21/09
TT until 1/10/10
Working on R and doing well!!

Posts: 179 | Registered: Mar 2010
Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't add xOw1, my friend, and I really should've. Hers are classic OW attitudes:

"I want the fairy tale. The happily ever after."

She didn't believe me when I told her M was work with peaks and valleys.

"I want what you have."

I didn't take her literally, I should've. I just tried to get her to understand that my tall, dark, handsome husband wasn't always the prince she thought she was.

My life would've been easier if I had let myself see the truth of him (and her) clearer too.

[This message edited by Holly-Isis at 10:31 AM, September 16th (Monday)]


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

Posts: 11223 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: Just a fool in limbo
ILINIA
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Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

From their google chats:

"Just so you know, you aren't the only one effing up your home life. I started dating a guy a month ago."

Hmm, 1 month verses 9 years and two kids.....


Entering R slowly and cautiously...

Posts: 491 | Registered: Jul 2013
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not necessarility an OW quote. But the next time she or WH says "I don't know why I/we did it" I'm gonna haul off an slap 'em. Then I'll say "I don't know why I did that."


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


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