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User Topic: OW catchphrases?
AmberDust
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Default  Posted: 3:57 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(Our OW is holding out hope to get back with my H and has no remorse whatsoever.)

-Cause she won't love you like I love you.
-It's ok to start a new family. Your kids won't mind !
- I regret nothing I have done.
-Pure love has no regret and must not be denied.
(ed. for anonimity)

[This message edited by AmberDust at 7:04 AM, November 14th (Thursday)]


Posts: 103 | Registered: Apr 2013
sullymeishadomi
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Default  Posted: 5:33 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This last Feb, after almost 6 yrs of whoring, this is her response to me calling her a ho:

"I'm not a whore" and "I believe everything (wh name) says".

Both comments make me laugh as they are completely ridiculous and make her appear just that.

[This message edited by sullymeishadomi at 5:33 PM, October 18th (Friday)]


People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not

Posts: 8210 | Registered: Sep 2007
MissMovingOn
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Default  Posted: 5:51 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW used to have a pinterest board all full of lovely catchphrases about never regretting, and doing what makes you happy, living with passion, focusing on your needs, not judging others unless you yourself are perfect etc. So self centered and with no remorse what so ever.

The latest OW has this too.


Me: BS, 34
Him: (SA/NPD)WH, 31
Multiple ddays since 2010 (Latest January 15th 2013) - not counting anymore!
Left me for 20 yr old COW. Moving on!

Posts: 353 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: West Coast Canada
topperoff22
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Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes! I never talked to the bitch but all over her FB and Google + is and was that type of stuff. Very selfish, entitled and bitter stuff. Also, "I am a bitch and I know it." or "I'm fat and beautiful so kiss my ass.."

It's all a cover up for what a sad and pathetic person she really knows she is. I can't stand her but at the same time I look at her with pity from what a pathetic person she is.

I never realized others had a similar experience to mine with the OW.


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
topperoff22
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Default  Posted: 6:29 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(Our OW is holding out hope to get back with my H and has no remorse whatsoever.)
-Cause she won't love you like I love you.
-It's ok to start a new family. Your kids won't mind !
-Fortunately I regret nothing I have done.
-Our enemy is not one person or country or belief system. It is our unwillingness to feel the sorrow of others.
-Pure love has no regret.
-With love, there are no rules. The heart decides and what it decides is all that really matters.
-True love must not be denied.
-I would not die without having something with you...
-I prefer a life with mistakes to a heart with doubt.
-If you want someone to trust you, be honest.
-You owe it to yourself to love again.

Yep! Similar crap in my situation!


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
topperoff22
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Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oooh . . . I'll play. OW posted on her Facebook -
Be the kind of person you'd be proud to have your children emulate.

Seriously can't make that up!

LOL! What a shithead! The OW says that shit too in my case!


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
sunshine226
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Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

great thread

how about:

"Im a christian"
"WH has never given me any reason not to trust him"
"I dont want to be known as a homewrecker"

I could go on and on and on, lol


Me-BS (44)
Him-WS (47)
DDay 1/1/2012, common law for 22 1/2 years when he began A in September 2011
Status: moving on without him

Posts: 234 | Registered: Mar 2013
tryin2havefaith
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Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"She had you for X years, and now it is my turn."

"I'm so much better for you."

"I completely understand you and she doesn't"

"We are so much alike"

I could go on and on with the manipulative psychopathic dribble OW spewed at FWH. I got to read alk the email and texts. Thank goodness the fog cleared and he sees it for what it was


In R and Tryin 2 Have Faith
ME- BS 35
HIM- WS 38

DDay 1/2011
4 - 6 months of TT'ing
NC-7/2011


Posts: 200 | Registered: Oct 2012
struggling16
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Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"I'm a taker, not a giver."

Posts: 679 | Registered: Aug 2011
BW2639
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Default  Posted: 9:41 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"We can end this anytime either of us wants out"....yeah right. Then he stalks her


married 21 yr
Reconciling

Posts: 165 | Registered: Feb 2012
Runninggirl
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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can I get a:

I feel like I have finally MET MY.....
*******SOULMATE*********


Shock has worn off. Now the 'fun' begins.
After several years of solid R, (F)MOW
CHECKS IN in to say Hi~ H CHECKS OUT briefly and "forgets to tell me" because IT HADN'T gotten
physical this time. 4 months out again same MOW

Posts: 2852 | Registered: Mar 2006 | From: The Valley
surviving1963
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Default  Posted: 11:34 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"I live in the present"
"I am not some kind of home-wrecker."
"When I met (WH)it was like....I finally found you."
"You didn't provide him with a safe and comfortable home."
"I have LOTS of guy friends."
"What if you were to forgive and just move on."
"You don't know him."
"I love and appreciate him... he is a good person."
"The only way I will stop seeing (WH) is if he requests it."
"I see and hear dead people."

....and many, many more mind-numbingly stupid comments to me - his wife!


Me: 50
WH: almost 50 pro cake-eater, NPD, SA
Married 32 years
D-Days 3-4-12, 8-19-12 (EA, probably PA)porn,ashleymadison, etc, etc
4 sons, 3 daughters
7 grandkids
Divorcing - finally

Posts: 96 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Utah
surviving1963
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Default  Posted: 11:36 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One more that I forgot:

"Isn't if wonderful that he can love more than one."

What?????!!!!!


Me: 50
WH: almost 50 pro cake-eater, NPD, SA
Married 32 years
D-Days 3-4-12, 8-19-12 (EA, probably PA)porn,ashleymadison, etc, etc
4 sons, 3 daughters
7 grandkids
Divorcing - finally

Posts: 96 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Utah
BeautifulEmpty
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Default  Posted: 2:11 AM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't remember specifics but last OW was a 'practicing Buddhist' who was all about love, truth, peace...full of 'living with no regrets', universal love, crunchy green mother type notions but nothing that really goes with any of that.
She met me...quintessential green mother by nature and by nurture. I also live with very little material goods....hard, hard work, lots of study and experimentation.
She wanted my life so she tried to very literally take it but it was all a lie.
She was constantly pontificating on her own peace and love virtues but intentionally sabotaging my life and my kids life...not by default as usually happens but directly lying to them and trying to cause splitting.
I'm in quite the mood tonight and can't shut up. It's been a hard week.
I just had a conversation with my daughter about the concept of "living with no regrets".
I told her that it sounds good on the surface but in truth, the only time it's really acceptable is once you are an old lady who has done her absolute best with all that life has thrown at her. You've made mistakes and learned from them and not repeated them...especially the ones that involve other people. THEN, you can finish your life with no regrets. Perhaps also anyone who has always striven to be real, caring, truthful, open human beings who actually honor others instead of false namaste at every corner.
Anyone else, well...it just means you can do awful things to others without remorse and that is wrong.
OW was also so fond of using the word "valid" in such a way that it showed she had no idea what the word means...constantly saying that her or someone else's feelings were "valid"... It sounds good but it really isn't because she constantly used it to justify her heinous behavior. My husband picked up using it and I hate it now. Every feeling we have is not valid. Valid means true.
Anyhow...OW are delusional train wrecks. This certainly appears to be a valid statement without need for further validation.
They are selfish, hurting and needy usually but it's interesting how all they ever focus on is their hurts and their needs...never how fucking selfish they are.


Me: 42 BS
Him: 38 ws
Ow: 44 head case, no obs
5 DD's: 21, 18, 17, 15, 10
Last D-day: August 2012 with lots of very blurry lines.

Posts: 229 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Washington State
summerain
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Default  Posted: 4:04 AM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Main OW


we can be secret friends!

be the change you want to be in the world

eta: I am NOT A SLUT!
I'm a good person!

She forgave you 'wh' so she needs to forgive me too!

I am a nice person

I don't understand why people hate me?


I am a strong independent woman who _____

I am a feminist!

OW 1

Women are underrated

I am so ugly look here's a picture (insert ugly picture here which she thinks makes her look actually attractive)

I am a feminist!

I think I will succeed where other women haven't

I am so dumb!

I wish I was _____

DO you think I can?

This person doesn't like me!

common themes between the two evidently

[This message edited by lauren123 at 4:05 AM, October 19th (Saturday)]


OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.

Posts: 817 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Australia
SecondHelping
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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't see all the emails, but his FB page has "Life is Good" posted on it.

Fucker!


D-Day 1: Feb 1990 (2 yrs into M, Kissing and a hickey)
D-Day 2: 3 Sep 2012 (3 month EA/3 week PA)
BS 49- Me, fWW 43- Her (Amibroken)
OP- Deputy Chief of Police from the town next to us! (Age 37)
Married 25 Years, Together 28
3 Kids (17, 14, 11)

Posts: 469 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Delmarva
Reality
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Default  Posted: 9:19 AM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Once the OW(s) knew the situation, they cut off WH. No bunny boilers, no fighting to stay in his life, and for the most part completely on my side when they learned that, no, WH was indeed NOT a well off single guy.

But during revealing it all to them initially and they weren't sure who was pulling their chain - me or WH - and I asked them to stop returning contact when he approached them (which I knew would still happen), I got a re-mix from the three of:

"WH is our friend. If he's unhappy, we'll continue to be friends to him!"

"WH can come off as creepy, but he can be a lot of fun to hang out with. I don't want to cut him off based on some strange miscommunication he has with you."

"Sometimes people just have to blow off steam, you know?"

"Are you sure we're talking about the same guy? He's with us all the time! There's no way he has time for a wife and kids."

It boggled me. It took three days to get them to understand the whole true story. If I was talking to someone and found out that person was married, had kids, and was a big manipulative liar, I'd never stick around to debate it for three days. In the end, they lectured WH and maintained complete NC, but seriously?!

[This message edited by Reality at 9:25 AM, October 19th (Saturday)]


Posts: 289 | Registered: Apr 2013
niaveone
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Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Around the time they were getting hot and heavy in the texting, but hadn't had a full blown PA yet...she started posting this crap:

"If you don't chase your dreams, you'll never have it. If you don't step forward, you'll always be in the same place"

"Sometimes the girl that was always there for everyone else needs someone to be there for her"


Then while having the affair she would post stupid shit like this:

"You're in my inappropriate thoughts"

"I'm dreaming of you"

"Love doesn't need to be perfect, it just needs to be true"

"Trust is like a piece of paper, once it's crumpled, it can never be perfect"


"If you could use one word to describe yourself, what would it be?" And my WS actually answered "Grateful" ?? Seriously? You are SO acting grateful for all you have!


And then when the word got out that they were having an affair and her marriage broke up she started posting crap like:

"People are always going to talk about you, might as well give them something to talk about"

"watching the movie Gossip on TV. It's true. If something isn't juicy enough, people just add lies to it"

"Lord, I know you wouldn't give me more than I can handle, but can you please stop now?" (Like the Lord had anything to do with her extra-marital games she played)

Then she'd post this stuff when they got back together and the affair went underground:

"Don't tell me who I am. Because unless I write it all down and give it to you, you have no idea" (What?)

"A lot of the problems in the world would disappear if we all talked to each other instead of about each other"

"rumors are spread by haters and believed by idiots"

"Santa, I've been good for the last week or so. Let's focus on that"

"I'm sweet, cute, dedicated, and a good girl. Aw, quit laughing!"

Then after DDay#2, all those stupid posts stopped.

Some of the stuff she said to WS during affair after she left her husband and WS was still with me:

"Sounds like you need a change"

"when you leave her, we can finally be together for real"

"I don't blame niaveone for getting an STD test"

"My family will love you" (I'm sure they will love the guy you brought into the marriage and killed the kids' family)

The kicker was when I caught them red handed and she looked at me and said "You guys obviously have problems!"

No shit. Really?


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married: 16 years
2 children
2 DDays

Posts: 187 | Registered: Aug 2013
meplusfour
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Default  Posted: 2:28 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"I'm a good person"
"I'm a devout Catholic. God's word is important to me."
"Why did you tell meplusfour the entire truth? I would have lied for you (WH) and we could still text each other."


BW (me)42
WH 44
3 daughters, 1 son
Married 10 years, together 13
DDay 3/14/2013, four year PA
In R
"Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to the way they used to be."

Posts: 327 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Canada
sudra
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Default  Posted: 8:15 AM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This thread is just too good to let it die yet.

OW2 posted this on February 14, 2010:
Women are apples on trees; the best ones near the top. Men donít want to reach for the good ones; they are afraid of falling and donít want hurt. Instead, they get apples from the ground that arenít good but easy. The apples at the top think something is wrong, when in reality they are amazing. They must wait for the right man to come along, the one whoís brave enough to climb all the way to the top because they value quality.

This was the day that my husband drove 350 miles to have sex with her in a Hampton Inn. She was married and had to tell her husband she was going to Walmart. It was the first Valentine's day in 20 years I had not spent with my husband and the first time he did not get me a gift. And I'm guessing she fancied that she was the apple at the top of the tree. She apparently does not understand the concept of irony.


Me (BW) (54), Him(SAWH) (57)
Married 21 years, 1 son (18), 1 stepdaughter (26)
DDay #1 January 2004
DDay #2 7-27-2010 7 month EA/PA (became "engaged" to OW before he told me he wanted a divorce)
Working on R

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