Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying
Welcome

Forums

Guidelines

Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library

Media

Contact Us
lies
cover
In Association with Amazon.com
Support
Infidelity -
-
Find a Local Couselor
like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
[Register]
Newest Member: waugh (44311)

General Post Reply     Print Topic    
User Topic: OW catchphrases?
painfulpast
♀ Member
Member # 41038
Default  Posted: 8:34 AM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LMAO! Some of these are priceless!!

My OW said these gems:

(to my WH on a FB chat) Every single guy I've ever been with has cheated on me.

(to me after I told her BS what she and my WH were up to) I just wish (OBS) didn't have to get hurt like that.

(On FB) So, what is love to you? (followed by a lot of things my H told me he did to her (annoyed her, hung up, etc) saying these were not love)

(on FB) constantly saying how 'God is Good' and posting Christian phrases.

And my favorite:

(to me) seems like I'm always doing for others, and no one is doing for me. Gee, wonder why???

BTW, after my H, she had two other As, and then her BS threw her out. She was living with him, with her two daughters (not his) and not working, or doing anything other than cheating on him when he wasn't around. Right, but no one does for you. Uh-huh.


It's so easy to believe someone when they're telling you exactly what you want to hear.....

Posts: 1750 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
Holly-Isis
♀ Member
Member # 13447
Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

seems like I'm always doing for others

And

after my H, she had two other As

Are you sure she didn't post "I'm always doing others"?


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

❣I hope my issues don't discourage ur healing. I've buried a lot & my WH hasn't done his part in R❣


Posts: 10999 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: Limbo
Dyinghere
♀ Member
Member # 41313
Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She said to my husband: I work really hard at being happy. I can help you be happy too.




Posts: 132 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: the inside of my head
Offhispedestal
♀ Member
Member # 32528
Default  Posted: 10:57 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The absolute worst thing MOW said to my H.
" God has failed us!!"
She texted him that when he moved back home and went NC.


HOW crazy does a person have to be to blame God because their affair ended??!

Also a few others:


"I always get what I want"

" we are soul mates, this is fate"


ME-44
WH-45
Married 24


2Beautiful daughters
DD 6/26/10 (he broke down & confessed)
DD#2 3/14/11 H in OW's car
TT 7/1/11 (NC broken, through emails)

In R


Posts: 629 | Registered: Jun 2011
Drowninginitall
♀ Member
Member # 40968
Default  Posted: 8:01 AM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Let's see...
"I will win. Not immediately, but definately" (before DD)
"Caring about someone else's happiness is true love" (during DD)
"Unless it's true passionate everlasting love it's not worth it. There are too many mediocre things in life and love shouldn't be one of them" (after DD I think)
"It all looks good to the rest of the world.. You don't want to hear the truth, because you don't want your illusions to be destroyed." (After DD and the day after our anniversary). Her mom made a comment about don't worry, the truth always comes out. Bitch, you had your chance to tell the truth and you took the cowardly way.
You tell me...WTF do these things mean and who are they about if not my H. She has no boyfriend. She used to post a lot about God etc....my how the years and her "love" for my H have changed her.


Posts: 103 | Registered: Oct 2013
Drowninginitall
♀ Member
Member # 40968
Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have to add that after one night when she drove to H work and I caught her leaving (he was starting NC and she still called and came by and he met her) she gave him the name of a song to listen to. D(umbass)H looked it up and the lyrics on YouTube. It was called 'Stay' by Miley Cyrus. I saw that he looked it up on his google history and confronted him. He tried to lie at first and then tried to explain why he would ever even look it up after he told her NC etc. here are some of the lovely words...
Well, it's good to hear your voice
I hope you're doing fine
And if you ever wonder,
I'm lonely here at night
I'm lost here in this moment and time keeps slipping by
And if I could have just one wish
I'd have you by my side

Oh, oh I miss you
Oh, oh I need you

And I love you more than I did before
And if today I don't see your face
Nothing's changed, no one can take your place
It gets harder everyday

Say you love me more than you did before
And I'm sorry it's this way
But I'm coming home, I'll be coming home
And if you ask me I will stay, I will stay

Well, I try to live without you
The tears fall from my eyes
I'm alone and I feel empty
God, I'm torn apart inside

I look up at the stars
Hoping you're doing the same
And somehow I feel closer and I can hear you say

Oh, oh I miss you
Oh, oh I need you

I love you more than I did before
And if today I don't see your face
Nothing's changed, no one can take your place
It gets harder everyday

Say you love me more than you did before
And I'm sorry that it's this way
But I'm coming home, I'll be coming home
And if you ask me I will stay, I will stay
Always stay

I never wanna lose you
And if I had to I would choose you
So stay, please always stay
You're the one that I hold onto
'Cause my heart would stop without you


Posts: 103 | Registered: Oct 2013
ninebark
♀ Member
Member # 24534
Default  Posted: 9:36 AM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My personal fav, which STBEX said she would often say

"If you think that you can make things work with your wife, then you should try."

Yes you are the best person to give marriage counselling.....did you say that before or after you had sex with him and broke up the marriage.


BS (me) 40
WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.

Posts: 630 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Canada
heforgotme
♀ Member
Member # 38391
Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"We didn't mean to" (Still trying to figure out how a penis makes its way into a vagina by ACCIDENT - lol)

And my personal favorite idiocy:

"Remember, Mr.Hfm LOVES you!"

Omg.


D-Day 11/15/12
5 month PA
Married 20 years, 3 kids
All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy.
- Scott Alexander
It was the day I thought I'd never get through - Daughtry

Posts: 1065 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: FL
OnAnIsland
♀ Member
Member # 34319
Default  Posted: 9:47 AM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know much about it but I dig it.


D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013

Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou


Posts: 1477 | Registered: Dec 2011
womaninflux
♀ Member
Member # 39667
Default  Posted: 9:51 AM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm somehow comforted to realize, from reading all of these, that people in affairs really are in their own world, thinking of only themselves. They are just caught up in the fantasy they have created.

Something else that OW said: When I recently asked my SAWH why he lost so many wedding rings (I only noticed one time during the 2 + year affair but now I know it was several thousands of dollars worth of wedding rings) which he said he took off to "lift weights."

His response was that OW thought "it was a sign of disrespect that he wears his wedding ring while out with her. She did not want to be seen in public with a married man." Well, here's a hint: don't date a married man and you won't have that problem.


BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"

Posts: 855 | Registered: Jun 2013
plainpain
♀ Member
Member # 40139
Default  Posted: 11:17 AM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His response was that OW thought "it was a sign of disrespect that he wears his wedding ring while out with her. She did not want to be seen in public with a married man." Well, here's a hint: don't date a married man and you won't have that problem.

^^ That is unbelievable.

I think the general sense of entitlement, going after what you want, having no regrets.. that's a big one. NO REGRETS. I JUST AM WHO I AM. IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT, TOO BAD. WHEN YOU'RE PERFECT YOU CAN JUDGE ME.

Also, 'If you were truly happy and in love with your wife, you would never have been tempted by another woman.' No, that's correct. Not even if you were in the middle of the darkest time of your life, and she came around day after day after day, throwing her bare bum at you.. no, you would nevvvver be tempted at all. It's all because THE WIFE did not do HER JOB. Umm hmmm.

They are completely delusional.


Me: Believer; 40s
Him: Liar; 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
OW:21
In successful R, but still in just plain pain.

Posts: 774 | Registered: Jul 2013
HeartInADustpan
♀ Member
Member # 38341
Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'll never forget this one...

"I didn't encourage him to cheat. I encouraged him to find true love."

And after that jewel, she went on to say she encourages me to do the same.


Just call me Heart. :)
Reconciling
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything" ~Mark Twain

Posts: 379 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: St. Louis
TheThreeYearFool
♀ Member
Member # 41218
Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"I don't just do the safe thing." Presumably arguing that WH not leaving me for her was the "safe thing" for him to do.

Well, no duh you don't do the safe thing. Nothing's safe about having another man sleeping over at your house when your BH is out of town. (That's how OBH found out -- a neighbor spotted my unmistakable WH and his unmistakable car there overnight and told him.)

Also clearly not the safe thing: having sex with a married man with no condom and no birth control. Particularly when that man makes no secret of the fact that he hates kids.

So not safe: vandalizing the BW's car.

Least safe: "Falling in love" with a proven liar.


Me - BW 36
Him - WH 41
Together 12 years, married 7
3 year LTA with former coworker
DDay 10/29/13
He says he wants to R... can I live with what he's done?

Posts: 150 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: United States
Ambergray
♀ Member
Member # 40778
Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Only you can make you happy.

Meaning divorce your wife for me and you'll be happy.


Me-38
WH-38
Dday June 2013

"What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you. Ralph Waldo Emerson


Posts: 85 | Registered: Sep 2013
Spelljean
♀ Member
Member # 35624
Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, the OW and OP catchphrases are comical. Suddenly they all become philosophers, self-help gurus, inspirationalists, or Ghandi...follow your inner voice. It is what you make it. Unless its passionate its not worth it, only you can make you happy...

The one thing these thoughts all have in common is they are silly rationalizations, require zero logic or common sense and are open to a hundred different interpretations. Manipulation tools!


WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

Posts: 903 | Registered: May 2012 | From: California
LA44
♀ Member
Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just want closure.


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2112 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
IrishLass518
♀ Member
Member # 34373
Default  Posted: 3:01 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

True quotes from the OWifetress.

"We didn't mean to fall in love." They apparently only meant to sleep around behind their spouses backs.

"What she calls an affair is actually a committed relationship." hmmm

"The truth won't set you free, forgiveness does." Meaning, you don't have to tell the truth you just have to seek forgiveness.


Me: 45 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 22, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1677 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
cl131716
♀ Member
Member # 40699
Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well since only "sexting" occurred I got "you need to lighten up", "it was nothing", and "you must be insecure".


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
jadedheart
♀ Member
Member # 32046
Default  Posted: 7:43 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

two weeks before DDay they met up to argue about the state of their "relationship"...

Troll, "You slept with her didn't you." her=me who didn't have a damn clue yet

FWH, "Yes I did. She's my wife!"

Troll, "You are cheating on me with her!! How could you?" WTF???

Even FWH was speechless after that one.


Me 45
FWH 47
DS11, DD18, DS21(they know nothing about A)
Married 23 years together 25
Dday 09/24/2010
"You can't control how others behave, you can only control your reaction."

Posts: 980 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Indiana
BW2639
♂ Member
Member # 34875
Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My fWW and the OM always said to themselves , ( as if to justify their actions)..." Either one of us can stop and walk away at any time". I suppose if one of them would have only done it, the A wouldn't have lasted 3.5 years.


married 21 yr
Reconciling

Posts: 172 | Registered: Feb 2012
Topic Posts: 106
Pages: 1 · 2 · 3 · 4 · 5 · 6

Return to Forum: General Post Reply to this Topic
adultry
Go to :
madness  
© 2002 - 2014 SurvivingInfidelity.com. All Rights Reserved.