At the appointment with my famiky docotr, What else can I tell her to test for while she's already doing that? I was thinking of saying " can you test for any infections at all too?" I don't want to mention stds to her, but I don't want a vaginal exam at the walk in clinic with the other doctor.. So whatever gets checked vaginaly, I'd like my family doctor to do, without knowing I'm worried about stds.
Hope this isn't confusing. TIA :)
I would like to echo Deanna. I know it is scary and maybe you feel horribly humiliated. But to risk your own life by not being clear with your health professional? Honey, don't do it to yourself. Great healing can be found by sharing this pain. You might could use a real life hug, too.
I promise the doctors have heard it all. Get all your testing done in ONE place, and get everything available. If they do not do a pelvic check, take a swab, and take your blood and urine, then they have not done every test available for females. Getting it all done in one place will ensure they get every test you need. Then you will have to go back and do it again in six months to ensure you are clean.
Your life may be at stake. I know for the duration of the appointment, it will be very hard. But it will pass, and you will feel a tremendous relief when it is all over. Please do right by yourself, and take care of YOU.
You simply cannot risk your health by trying to get a series of tests done haphazardly. Your WH has already been criminally negligent by putting your health into risk. Do Not Do That To Yourself.
Ever one of us here has had to do the same thing that you're doing. Hell, if you're in SO CA, I'll go in with you to the testing. One of the hardest damned phone calls I ever made, and I cried in my doctor's office the entire time. But you know something? For better or worse, it was not even a blip on their radar. They get these requests ALL of the time. That's truly sad.
And if your OB/GYN is worth their money, the minute you ask for anything other than your pap, s/he is going to know what your saying. And test you for the entire panel. And schedule your follow-on tests which you MUST go to. And that's why its best to tell your personal OB/Gyn. So they make sure to get you scheduled for the follow-on tests and they can follow your results personally. (((hugs))) It's hard damned hard, I know. We all know. But this is your health we're talking about. Were it your daughter, you would make damned sure that everything was done the way it needs to be done. Give yourself the same love.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous
In retrospect, telling my physician was the BEST thing that I did. I urge you to get past the embarrassment and tell your own physician, you might be surprised at the results!
Take care of YOU first. You are worth it.
Dr said my blood pressure was high. He cannot treat me accurately with out knowing the whole picture. Told him I was not surprised and explained why. He recommended the testing and asked just enough questions to make sure my mental state was not in jeopardy. It was not an easy talk, but so glad I did.
I had tp return for testing again this summer after my first post- divorce dating relationship ended (you can read details in my other posts). I was embarrased but I knew my health meant more than embarrasment. Back to the doc. I asked flat out for everything, and again was handle with kindness and compassion. I am happy to report all came back clean again.
In my opinion your regular doc should be professional about it all. I am sure there are worse situations out there than ours and even though its a huge deal for us to ask for STD tests, for the doctor its just another day at the office.
"And this above all else, to thine own self be true"
Don't be embarrassed she is a professional and has heard much worse.
My FWH and I have been going to a husband/wife family practice for many years.
After d-day I was an emotional wreck and went in to get checked for STDs.
I told my doctor (the wife)all about the LTA.
I sat there crying in the examining room and you know what? she got tears in her eyes too.
It's been over 6 yrs since d-day and I still see the same doctor.
She continues to be extremely kind and sympathetic to me-and always asks about my marriage.
My FWH went for a STD test right after d-day also and the other doctor who happens to be her husband!
after d-day there were a number of infidelity problems that both my husband and I suffered from- insomnia,stress, anxiety, depression etc.
It was good to go to doctors that already knew our history.