Things have been going well because the Owife and I have had zero contact, and I haven't really had to deal with anything other than having her stray into my line of vision on a couple of occasions.
However, now it seems as though she's going to play at being devoted stepmommy and be sure that I know. These are, perhaps, small and stupid things, but I have to vent them here so that I can move on and not stew about them all weekend. It helps when I write things down because it often forces me to acknowledge how whatever I'm fuming about really isn't a big deal.
So, she's done two things that make me feel like she's marking her territory and trying to bring to my attention that she's such a good stepmom:
I have kids on special diets. For health reasons, I often label certain containers or put their names on their sandwich bags so that I don't have to worry that someone got the wrong thing. I just write their names with a marker; it's nothing fancy.
Well, doesn't the Owife do the same thing (fine, no biggie), but doesn't she just have to draw little hearts around their names as well. Oh... right! Because you LOVE them! You love them so much that you thought nothing of screwing their father while he was married to their mother! Clearly, you put their needs and well-being first. Clearly. Those cutesy little hearts show what a caring, loving Ashley Madison-recruited stepmommy you are.
Then, today at drop off, XWH came out (like he usually does), and doesn't she finally make her grand appearance! She just had to come out on the porch and start chatting with my kids while I'm saying goodbye. Oh... right. Because you care so much about them that you can't stand one second more of waiting in the house and being away from them, even if it's the sensitive thing to do considering how your relationship came to be with them. I had to keep my Mona Lisa smile plastered on my face so that I maintained my dignity.
I know that these things seem like no big deal. Many of you have been dealing with far worse crap. It's just hard for me to watch as the wheels start in motion. A hopeful little part of me thought that maybe, just maybe, those two fools would have the brains not to compete with me. I'm not competing. Buy them what you want, pretend that you dote on them, draw hearts all over as much as you want. Not only will you not change how I think of you, but you will never change what my kids think about me. And it will never change what you've done, and the little children who are snowed by you right now will not stay little forever.
I've taught high school long enough to see how much things can change when kids become teenagers. At least if my kids become difficult in their teen years, I can parent with the full weight of my integrity and honesty. I am not a liar. I have told my kids about mistakes I've made in the past and owned up to them so that they don't make the same ones. What they see is what they get. Teenagers don't like liars and hypocrites, and they are pretty good at seeing right through them. Draw as many hearts as you like. They won't be fooled.
Thanks for reading this essay. I feel a lot better!
And yes, drawing hearts DOES show how much you love someone! Of course it does.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous
Just tonight, XH brought insta family to pick up DD. I stood on the porch ignoring OW who was in the car. Ignored her while she plastered this gigantic smile on her face while she greeted DD. Ignored douchbag smirk as he got back in the car to drive off with his whore and kids (DD, her daughter, and their new baby).
Their time to face the truth will come eventually. Their facade will crack in time.
Over the summer, I just couldn't understand why stripper whore had to ride along with ex-shat to pick up Teslet. It's an hour roundtrip drive...if I was an awesome stripper whore, I would have better things to do
I am told that she also posts lots of pics of Teslet on FB under the album name "My Family." Really?? Your Family?? FTSW.
But, judging by the text her boyfriend sent me earlier in the week, she might have to step up her territory marking game.
And what the hell is with the heart thing? Is she in middle school?
NW used to LOVE the fact that they got attention where ever they went with all(6 2-hers,4-mine) the kids. She would get asked are they all yours, her answer was "yes, they're all ours" . One day one of my twins told the person asking that she and her sisters were his, and the other 2 kids were hers. From that point on NW did not like that kid.
What is with the middle school behavior?
I can't help but think OW is so desperate that she's doing something so utterly juvenile. You know it; deep down, she must or why else would she act so stupidly?
And you're right. Once your kids become teens, they'll take out some of their angst, shall we say, on her.
If she felt so secure, she'd prolly not resort to such idiotic behaviour.
I have a friend who is getting remarried to a very insecure woman. She is always posting pictures of his first son with their new baby on FB with captions like "aren't I the luckiest mommy in the world" and "our boys are so cute" most recently it was some silly meme about how step parents are better people b/c they have chosen to love someone else's child as their own.
The reason behind the behavior isn't lost on anyone. Rest assured you are not the only one who is shaking their head at OWife's pathetic actions.
That's my thought anyway.
We'll talk more tonight
Nothing hurt more to me than having some morally bankrupt whore play mommmy with my kids.
Ashley Madison is a disgusting website and anyone who participates in it is equally disgusting.
.if I was an awesome stripper whore, I would have better things to do
What I have to remember is that:
I don't want him back.
I don't envy the Owife at all-- except perhaps the time she spends with my children, which she doesn't deserve.
I have managed to brave all of this while still maintaining my dignity, and that's far more important to me than doing or saying something mean to XWH or Owife. I haven't been anything but classy.
I am the alpha parent. I don't stoop to acknowledging the betas.
You are ALL alpha parents (or people if you don't have kids). Never forget that!
[This message edited by tryingagain74 at 9:31 PM, September 15th (Sunday)]
You do not have the right to be mom, act like mom, make mom decisions or draw love hearts. Don't make me bitch slap you
ExH's gf (not the OW) made such a big deal about being there for all of DS' events, and trying to be his friend. It made the hair on the back of my neck raise up a bit and I wanted to show my teeth at her just a little..lol. I had to check myself because this poor woman is not the OW that wrecked our marriage, she is the poor poor idiot who agreed to be his GF. I guess in the end I want DS to be happy so I just smile and be polite, even through there are times I just want to be the honeybadger and shake her like a cobra.
She hast had the nerve yet to show up at pick up/drop off, but she's growing bigger balls by the day (she already has much larger ones than the Gnat) and I'm sure will show up with him soon.