I don't even know if this is something that will affect me, but now that I've read it I can't get it out of my head. With everything I've been through lately, I don't think I could handle infertility also.
Anybody deal with this and is willing to discuss it? You can send me a PM if you'd rather not make your story public.
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1 beautiful daughter, 23m
"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."
I can follow the logic about the uterus and scarring and such, but if those were the real odds, elective ones wouldn't be so "normal" you know?
ETA: I know it's hard, because my former self did it a lot, but try not to borrow worry! You can figure out a way to cross that bridge when you come to it.
[This message edited by Mandilwen at 4:50 PM, September 14th (Saturday)]
My sister had her son via C-section. She's had 2 more pregnancies since then. Sadly she miscarried both. (There are infertility issues on both sides of our family.) Her doctor's only advice after the birth of my nephew was to wait a year before TTC so her body can heal and adjust. (But that's kind of standard advice for anyone.)
I know it's hard, because my former self did it a lot, but try not to borrow worry! You can figure out a way to cross that bridge when you come to it.
Try not to worry krazy8516.
"We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them."
If you do happen to experience infertility (though I agree that the 1/3 seems rather high, I hadn't heard that), there are many, many resources and support groups out there. It is not fun, or easy, but IF it happens, then you can deal with it. I'd say until you know one way or another, worrying about it won't help. And yes, I know being told that doesn't make the worry go away!
"Long is the way And hard, that out of Hell leads up to Light" -John Milton, Paradise Lost
I have to do positive self-talk to shake it, but it works.
"Just because it happened to someone doesn't mean it's going to happen to me/DD/someone I love"
Lots of crazy things may befall us in our lives, but we can't sit and what-if our lives away. I am great at handing out this advice and TERRIBLE at taking it. (I just looked up toddler symptoms for autism because DD3 wasn't making eye contact at dinner. Anyone who's met her will tell you I'm ridic for doing that)
Big hugs to you. You are likely going to get pregnant again when you want to, and you are likely going to have a healthy pregnancy.
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For last year's words belong to last year's language
And next year's words await another voice.
And to make an end is to make a beginning. - T.S. Eliot
I will try not to worry about it until if/ when I am faced with it. I guess just lately I am feeling like the whole world is against me, and it wouldn't surprise me if my uterus was too.
That statistic sounds a little far out there to me.
I was thinking the same thing. Did you fall upon this statistic from a Wurn technique ad? If so...there ya go.
There is always a slight risk with subsequent post C-section pregnancies. I had infertility issues with #1, my C-section baby, then got pregnant with #2 two and 1/2 years later and birthed her vaginally (VBAC)...no issues whatsoever.
try not to buy trouble though
That's what I tell myself when I start freaking out. If you do have trouble conceiving when the time comes, you can look into options. Until then, it does you no good to stress out. ((HUGS))
Did you fall upon this statistic from a Wurn technique ad?
Actually, initially I did not. And I read it again on a different site after I started doing some research. I believe the accurate statistic was "1 in 3 women who've had a C-section do not conceive another child." But out of that 1/3, 60% of those women choose not to have another baby.
I'll have to see if I can find a link.
I'm trying to relax, per everyone's advise. It does me no good to worry about it before it's a problem. Thanks.
In fact, one friend in particular has only to get within a 5 foot range of her husband and she seems to get pregnant instantly.
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This is where I first read the statistic. It prompted me to do more research, and I saw it at least 2 more times.
Re-reading the article throws me into panic again. Someone needs to disable my Google...
Someone needs to disable my Google
I know, right? I guilty of using Dr. Google on occasion too.
Try not to worry about what the future holds, there are all kinds of ways to make sure you have another baby. I have heard the opposite thing too. That people that had trouble getting pregnant the first time were "Surprised" by the second pregnancy, after having Csections.
It felt like it took forever to conceive DD; however, all it seemed to take was a sly look from my H for me to find myself pregnant again just as I felt like I was getting everything back in control (body, schedule, life...).
Never ever ever research health stuff on the web. One of my favorite cartoons is one of those e-cards (someone posted it here on SI quite a while ago). It shows a guy....Oh, heck, might as well just share the thing here: