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User Topic: First post here! Hello!
Fooled Me Twice
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok so first time posting in this forum. I guess I feel ok to move on to here now. My divorce is final and I am feeling for the most part pretty good about life in general.

So this is where my NB starts – I’ve been “talking?” to a guy from work. We sit near each other and never really spoken before aside from normal passing in the hall pleasantries but we happened to leave at the same time a few weeks ago – started chatting – which lead to a HH drink – and then to IM’ing and now texting.

I like him, he seems nice. There is of course a catch. 1) He’s younger than me. 11 years to be exact. I feel like a hypocrite considering that I’ve made fun of my EXWH gf’s age for the past 2 years. So it makes me think of all the things I’ve said about them and why their relationship is ridiculous and won’t work and here I’m “talking” to a guy the same age. And 2) he’s of a different religious background then me. He is non-believing/practicing as am I, however, he comes from a family that is old school and therefore, I cannot possibly imagine would approve. Not that there’s anything to approve of but I fully know how much a family’s influence can have in a relationship if it were to get serious.

So I don’t know where I’m going with this, but maybe some insight. This is my first foray into dating or whatever it is that we’re doing since my split and D. Man I feel old and don’t know what I’m doing!!


ME: BS 33 (now 34)
HIM: WS 33 (now 35)
OW: 22, howorker (now 24)
July 2007: Porn found on computer along with profiles on dating websites.
DDay: January 16, 2012 - suspicious since Dec 2011
Divorced: June 11, 2013

Posts: 209 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Here and There
inhishands55
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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is all new to you..Go out with him if you want to and just enjoy yourself...Just because you are dating doesn't mean you will end up with him...

So what if you are a little bit of a cougar...It isn't a bad thing...I have been seeing someone younger than me for over 8 months now...Doesn't mean we will get married or anything...But it is good to have someone to spend time with and go places with...

Enjoy your new friend....


Posts: 408 | Registered: Jan 2006 | From: The Tarheel State, in the mts.
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is a *bit* dangerous dating someone from work, but if you think you can manage the consequences if things don't work out, then go for it.

How much do you value your job?


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17488 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You work with him and he's only 23. I'd say it's a bad idea.


Walk away from anything or anyone who takes away your joy. Life is too short to put up with fools.

Posts: 13806 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
traicionada
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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How does your company see inter office flings? My company has zero tolerance for them


Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...

Posts: 3325 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Dallas, Texas
Fooled Me Twice
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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My company doesn't have a policy against dating with the exception of boss/employee situations. Which we are not. It's nothing serious - we've only just been talking and I feel like I could easily walk away at this point. It just nice to kind of feel back out there so to speak.


ME: BS 33 (now 34)
HIM: WS 33 (now 35)
OW: 22, howorker (now 24)
July 2007: Porn found on computer along with profiles on dating websites.
DDay: January 16, 2012 - suspicious since Dec 2011
Divorced: June 11, 2013

Posts: 209 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Here and There
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