So the good news... I'm almost ready to get my own place! I'm looking at spring after I've seen how my taxes will hit.
The issues is that I will likely be moving into a 1 bedroom apartment until I can pay off the remainder of the debt at which point I will see about a larger place. xWW is good with this as the kids only have overnight visits on every third saturday due to my shift schedule. I've been trying to see what kind of sleeping arrangments I can make for them until I can get a larger place. I want them to feel at home, but everything will have to be packed up during the rest of the month. Also when I do get a larger 2 bedroom apartment has anyone seen good options for a combined boy/girls room? Or what age range a combined room would no longer be appropriate?
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I have three kids, ages 7 (boy), 6 (girl), and 4 (boy). I live in a two bedroom condo. They all share one bedroom. It has worked out fine so far. The boys are in a bunk bed and my daughter has her own bed. However, my daughter is getting very close to the age that I feel she will need her own room. I am searching for a larger place. I have them 50% of the nights, so it needs to be more permanent. If I had them less, say every other weekend, I would probably give my daughter her own room and have the boys camp out in my room when they were over. If they continue to share a room, I am going to try to give my daughter some private space somewhere in the home.
Perhaps when they sleep at your one bedroom place you can have a futon, etc that you can pull out for them. Good luck.
When my DD22 was a teenager, her mother set up a room with one of those room dividers (sort of like a cubicle) so that she had a private area. You might be able to get something like to split a room so that they each have some privacy.
I used to have a friend who did the same thing. She blocked off her dining room and set it up as a small bedroom. She didn't have to worry about putting things up/away because she used the divider to hide that space. She put a day bed with a trundle in there, so that her daughter could also have a sleepover guest spend the night.
Sometimes it's better to push someone away...not because you stopped loving them but because you can't take the pain anymore.
I figure she can take it with her when she moves out/goes to college.
Not cheap, but you get a desk that turns easily into a bed when you need it. I'm considering buying the hardware kit and doing the woodworking myself.
How about twin beds for the 1 bedroom, a divider like a Japanese screen, and the desk/bed for the living room. You move to the living room when the kids are there, and keep the bedroom when they aren't. Two twins could be pushed together to be a sort-of King bed.
You can also buy bunk beds that are twin on top and double or queen on bottom.
How about a pull out sofa bed?? You can put an egg carton foam thing to make it more comfortable, as well as some have great mattresses now...
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This could be an option to screen off the den area.
Also, most states stay that 5 or 6 years old is the limit for same sex shared rooms.
My boys and I used to live in one ROOM, that was it. They had a full size loft bed, underneath was my desk and their dresser. Then, off to the other side of the room I had a sleeper love seat I slept on. Their bed was out of the way, mine became seating.
It wasn't ideal, but it ended up working for about a year until I got a different place. Would anything like that work?
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