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User Topic: Betrayed Men - Part 14
Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

#20 He isn't here to defend himself
Then tell him to come on over to defend himself. He will have a very real opportunity.


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aesir
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Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

#20 He isn't here to defend himself

Then tell him to come on over to defend himself. He will have a very real opportunity.

I was laughing along those same lines when I read that one.

It reminds me of way way way back, in Jr. High when they went on a kick about kids fighting at school. One of the teachers made a comment about coming to see a teacher and they would help us settle out differences like gentlemen. Of course I asked if the school policy favored pistols or sabers.


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Do not back up. Severe tire damage.


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kg201
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Default  Posted: 2:07 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

#35 through my relationship with OM I finally begand to feel like an adult.

#36 I only have 2-4 year to live and I don't want to spend the rest of my life working on our M and it never improving. I deserve happiness before I die. (In other words you aren't worth the effort to R)


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
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"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

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DefiledRage
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

#32. It felt like a separate life.

Along that line...

#37 I always planned on keeping the relationships separate.


Me:35 WW:34 M:13yrs
3 young children
Dday 1 EA 7/8/2010
Dday 2 PA 3/1/2013 same OMM for 4yrs

Mister rabbit says, "A moment of realization is worth a thousand prayers."


Posts: 424 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Two blocks from south shit and west hell
RyeBread
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I deserve happiness before I die.

And so do you kg201.


Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

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damaged71
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Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

kg201

for some reason your story hit me as particularly bad and made me think about something I hadn't thought of. In my situation even if we eventually split there are always second chances.

It seems in your situation there isn't.

#36 I only have 2-4 year to live and I don't want to spend the rest of my life working on our M and it never improving. I deserve happiness before I die. (In other words you aren't worth the effort to R)

I really thought my situation was brutal. Turns out again that it could always be worse. I truly wish you the best as the burden that you were handed seems particularly heavy.

Good luck brother.


I didn't know there was this much emotional pain in the universe!
Me 42
Her 44
D-day 5.18.12
Currently in R

Posts: 305 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: damaged71
numb&dumb
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Default  Posted: 3:20 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok I can't believe it is Friday and yet no one has mentioned Friday libations.

I'll start, this Bud is for me. I am going for a little extra help from that bottle of Starka. Sunshine, burgers, potato salad.

You gotta enjoy the summer while it last up here.


Me-35 her-35

DS 1, DD 6
Dday 8/31/11. ONS that occurred 3 years earlier. Lied to for 3 years.

Every truth comes to light in a long enough timeline.


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Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

numb&dumb,

I was just getting ready to post something about that

I have an assortment of microbrews I'll be testing out. I love the "make your own 6 pack" section of the liquor store.

Soak up some rays for me numb. Supposed to be cloudy here.


Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

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Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've got the old standby - Sam Adams Summer Ale. I'll be enjoying one or two tonight.

The WW is working until 11:00. Once the kids go to bed I'll have the house to myself for a few hours. Boo-yeah!


Me: BH, 35
Her: WW, 36
Two girls 7 & 10
Married 12 years
Dday: July, 2009

She wants answers... I'm still trying to figure out what the questions are.


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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've got a couple of good ones. Still deciding which one to pop open first: Bristol Red Baron Octoberfest, or Stone Ruination Ale. It's all a matter of malt or hops...

It's already getting a bit chilly here, but I'm still enjoying the weather. Probably going to throw a couple of bison burgers on the grill later.

Leaves are turning, and the scent of fall is in the air. I dig it.


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Tred
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Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Leaves are turning, and the scent of fall is in the air.

Ahhh...last week it was warm and Red Stripe. Tonight, chilly and Bud Light. Heavy sigh.


Married: 16 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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RyeBread
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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tred, as much as I respect you I don't feel sorry for you in the least.


Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

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kg201
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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Rye, thanks. Still trying to imagine what that happiness will look like, (but I do know enough to say that the 23 year old who has been coming on to me at work is not it...or at least not yet.)

Damaged, thanks for the empathy. I have come to realize between my WWs health this past year, and then everything since dday that I am "that guy". That guy that folks turn to each other in the grocery store about and whisper, "I'm glad I'm not THAT guy."

BUT there is always someone in a worse situation. I haven't lost my kids. Even though my WW has lost her mind and destroyed our marriage, she hasn't gone psycho like some of the waywards I have read about on SI. So at minimum we are functional in our dysfunction. I am waiting for the other shoe to drop in terms of what whirlwind I will be sucked into when my wife's health deteriorates, but that is not today. So for now I go to take my nap, so that I can make dinner for the kids, watch a movie with them, and the get up in the morning to take my boys to the music conservatory for their classical and jazz classes.

Enjoy your brews gentlemen!


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
---------------------------------
"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

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numb&dumb
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Default  Posted: 3:45 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Losfer- You gotta go with Oktoberfest. That time of year.

Does anyone else find if funny that the German festival of Oktoberfest can actually occur in September ? The guy who came up with that one must have been drinking that special high octane beer that the monks who can't talk brew. Or maybe they just had/have too many and know to keep their mouths shut.


Me-35 her-35

DS 1, DD 6
Dday 8/31/11. ONS that occurred 3 years earlier. Lied to for 3 years.

Every truth comes to light in a long enough timeline.


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Tred
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Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's much easier to market Oktoberfest than Septemberfest.


Married: 16 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks, Numb. You've helped me with my decision. Bristol Octoberfest it is. Plus, it's a local brew. Gotta support the local small businesses, yeah?

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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Septemberfest

You make an excellent point, Tred.


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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sam Adams Septemberfest for me tonight bitches!


And remember...always have someone hold yer beer first.

that was this guys problem. Don't house surf without having someone hold yer beer.

Hmmm, image did not seem to load. Anyway. Dude fell and busted his head surfing the roof of his house.

[This message edited by wonderboy at 3:56 PM, September 20th (Friday)]


My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.


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Default  Posted: 3:53 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sam Adams Septemberfest for me tonight bitches!

Yep me too - I'll say a toast pointed north to ya WB.


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Tred
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Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sam Adams Septemberfest

If I was a marketer, I'd troll this thread.


Married: 16 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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