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User Topic: Betrayed Men - Part 14
wincing_at_light
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Default  Posted: 7:07 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There's no more powerful aphrodisiac in human experience than a man whose wife has done him wrong.

I'm convinced that it's some sort of hybrid mothering/competitive instinct.

Not sure exactly the cause, but it's like having a vagnet* in your pants.
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vagnet: a magnet that only effects the zippers on women's pants.


Machiavellian idiot savant

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aesir
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Default  Posted: 7:07 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, as far as temptation and the bible goes, I remember watching a video and the guy was talking about how the bible was filled with stories of temptation and men being brought down by it. He claimed that there was only one instance in the entire bible of a man being tempted and not destroyed by it. That man ran at the first sign of it, no doubt becoming much less attractive for all the crazy he was uttering at the time.


Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.

Do not back up. Severe tire damage.


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 7:25 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hm. That would be Joseph.

Though I think it would be safe to assume guys like Enoch and Elijah fared well if they were presented with it, seeings how they were taken, and did not die.

The whole army of Israel was destroyed by it. At a time they were kicking ass and not taking names. Kingdoms would quake to hear them marching near. They were that feared.

It took a little booty-shake to defeat them. Damn we're hardwired for physical beauty.

I think I'm saying this to men who are inner-wired, bible or no (I blame Adam). Men who consult deeper voices for decisions of such magnitude.

No bets yet?
Ok - I'm taking 20% then.
I owe 20 bucks to SI.


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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I dunno man. Enchanted vagina may have fucked some shit up back in the day but when you get right down to it, that one dude who cast Summon Bears on a herd of kids, that is somebody who can bring you down hard. With bears.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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Mr. Kite
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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dang man... if I wrote those words myself they couldn't be more true.

What the hell... my wife gets to be fucked by another man and if I decide to do something about it I get the privilege of being fucked by the courts.

"Sorry big guy," says the judge. "I know you wife cheated on you, but.... she gets half your stuff and, oh yeah, you get to write checks to her for the next 10 years."

During my 30's I toyed with the idea of becoming an attorney. I came to my senses and only got as far as a paralegal degree. That whole experience gave me a little bit of insight on how screwed up the justice system really is.

True story: right after D-Day 1 I called one of my ex-professors in California, a big time divorce lawyer, for advice. He told me to stay with her unless I was ready to lose out financially and end up living in some cheap, crappy apartment while visiting my son twice a week. Scared the heck out of me.

Well, as far as temptation and the bible goes, I remember watching a video and the guy was talking about how the bible was filled with stories of temptation and men being brought down by it

Let's not forget King Solomon, supposedly the wisest man who ever lived, and ended up with 700 wives and 300 concubines. Yeah, following your wiener around never seems to end well. Ask me how I know.


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wincing_at_light
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Default  Posted: 8:13 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, following your wiener around never seems to end well. Ask me how I know.

You have a dachshund seeing-eye dog.


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, Don't ask me how I know!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CtDdke57Nes

Please. Turn UP the volume. As one who cherishes and lives in silence, i can hardly believe I'm saying this.


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 8:25 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As far as King Solomon goes...don't even tell me. He had 700 plus 300 who were ready to service him?
He's the biggest dumbass of history, yet he's thought to be wise?
No He's not.
Not in the way we are.

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Mr. Kite
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have a dachshund seeing-eye dog.

No, a lonely one-eyed monster. Which should have been my screen name damn it!

Please. Turn UP the volume. As one who cherishes and lives in silence, i can hardly believe I'm saying this.

I'll see your Bobby Pinson and raise you with Brad Paisley explaining how I got into so much trouble.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q3zkkLckeyM


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

omg kite, you have always touched me. I was blessed in my early days to have touched my precious jeweled one.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1umpe-u86rk


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Mr. Kite
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Default  Posted: 9:51 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

omg kite, you have always touched me.

Hey, you promised you wouldn't tell anyone.

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Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Getting creepy in here.


My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.


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reallyscrewedup7
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Default  Posted: 6:14 AM, September 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok gents, before we continue with the next episode of Gays of Our Lives, let's get back to the central theme of the board -

Cheating Wives Suck

If that is not an opening for discussion, I do not know what is....


Infidelity sucks shit

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 6:38 AM, September 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Let's not forget to add:
Cheating wives who own their own shit are delicious.
(so I've heard)

What is UP with the bets?
I'm taking 30% too.
30 bucks to SI.
10, 20, & 30%
Step up and represent.
Place yer bets.


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Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 7:30 AM, September 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I''m supposed to get a timeline at MC in about an hour and a half here. My expectations are ridiculously low concerning quality and/or effort.

We''ll see.

At 8 months out, I don't even feel like it's about the details that could potentially be in there, and more about the effort, or lack thereof.

[This message edited by FacePunched at 7:43 AM, September 18th, 2013 (Wednesday)]


“Anyone who has a continuous smile on his face conceals a toughness that is almost frightening.”

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atsenaotie
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Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, September 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Best Wishes FP. At 7 months out I got a timeline that rocked my world. I would never have even thought to ask about some of the things she included, and it still was not full and complete. As bad as it was initially reading what she typed up for me, a week later I was feeling more like I could begin to R with her.


LTA BS 53
FWW 60
M 1990, dday 10-5-09
Reconciled

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ontheslope
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Default  Posted: 7:56 AM, September 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Quick question for everyone in this thread who is trying to R.... how often do you question that decision? Do you ever stop and think "What the hell am I doing?" Are you R because you feel it is your 'duty' to?

I'm kind of in the boat right now that leaving seems like it would fuck me over real bad, and I do see a glimmer of hope with the WW, but man, half the time I wonder why I didn't have the balls to leave already. I just feel like I'm settling for a M that will never, ever, be the same again.


Me: BH, 35
Her: WW, 36
Two girls 7 & 10
Married 12 years
Dday: July, 2009

She wants answers... I'm still trying to figure out what the questions are.


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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 8:19 AM, September 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OTS, we share a lot of circumstantial similarities - I still sometimes question why I am here but those feelings tend to come out when everything is already feeling like shit and I am by myself. While my M will never be the same in the sense I will never completely trust her again, I don't feel that I am settling. I'm here because I want to be here, and if it comes to a day where I don't then even the NJ divorce laws will be preferable to staying in a relationship like I was in with her before.

Though it does not sound like your wife has put a lot of effort into R over the past few years.

[This message edited by StillGoing at 8:21 AM, September 18th (Wednesday)]


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fireguy87
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, September 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope you guys get the timelines with all the info you need for healing. While knowing some of the details will hurt, in the long run I believe it will help you.

Resources such as SI didn't exist 20 years ago. There was a lot of rugsweeping in our situation. Not knowing lets the imagination run wild and that sucks!

Ryebread, unfortunately, no I am not in any kind of counseling for my triggers. Mainly have relied on reading books, articles, and SI wisdom.


Me - FBH
Happened many years ago
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Maxiom
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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, September 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I question the decision every day. This is with a fully remorseful and transparent spouse. I relate to your story in that my wife really didn’t become this way until I had my own affair.

I love my wife. I am content. We are good together. However, I still have days where the need to get out is almost overpowering. I don’t see that changing any time soon.


Me: FBS/WS 41
Her FWS/BS 41
My DDay - March 10, 2007 Whole Truth - May 2007
Her DDay - March 2, 2011
True NC March 3, 2011

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