I would add a similar outlook on life as well.
That too. You both have to be on the same page about where you want to take your life.
Long story longer (and condensed version of my original post)...similar interestes are nice, but not required for me.
So I could make myself forget that my wife had an affair and be really confused about it coming to read my shit here and wonder why I was posting here. Then I'd read my own history and probably confabulate memories to replace the lost memory, at which point it kind of makes it pointless to even bother. Unless you wipe out years of your life to erase enough context, your brain is probably just gonna rebuild the missing shit anyway.
The more useful aspects of that are dissociating traumatic memories from PTSD symptoms, though. Which should be obvious in their usefulness.
I guess that means you'd be making history instead of repeating it!
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Do not back up. Severe tire damage.
Just want I want, DDay redux!
She wants answers... I'm still trying to figure out what the questions are.
You might think that. I certainly wish that were the case, but it simply isn't. I know all of the standards: It wasn't about anything lacking in me, it was about something lacking in them. It wasn't about OM being, more attractive than me, smarter than me, more alpha than me etc. I know all of those things, I can quote them by rote. But even still, even 3 plus years into a successful R, I still sometimes struggle with feeling these things. With knowing them as more than some surface level fact but rather as a bone deep, ingrained certainty.
Because if there's on thing I've learned from this whole process (and from you fine gentlemen) it's that healthy relationships and healthy male/female relationship dynamics seem to be pretty rare IRL (and in mass culture), in my experience. I hear people talk about their relationships now and all I think is "red flag, red flag, red flag"...and not even in the infidelity sense, just in the sense of unhealthy dynamics and expectations.
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We picked it up release day and I played it for a few hours until two events happened back to back that were somewhat jarring for me.
Spoilers for semi early-ish Michael stuff ahead...
The shit with his wife got to me. The mission that starts with him walking in on his wife with the tennis coach bothered the fuck out of me way too much.
End of spoilers.
After all that was done I was driving around in a van as Franklin and in an intersection I honked the horn at a dude to get out of the way, next thing I know a prostitute hops right in. Normally wouldn't phase me but after the previous incident and in light of my wife doing shit in a van with her AP... Yeah, letting that sit for a bit til I get back to it.
Otherwise, the game seems incredibly well done and I was enjoying the hell out of it. I deliberately chose not to watch any trailers or read up on any preview information before so the infidelity stuff took me off guard. Though i shouldn't have been surprised all things considered. The anti-aliasing, or lack thereof I should say, was bugging my eyes though. Tripping out and shooting aliens with a mini-gun kind of makes up for it.
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Surrender to the truth of life.
It is sad to me (cause I find myself moving through the anger stage more readily)
Anyone up for a game of chess?
I been here for a long time obviously, have been BLESSED to have avoided bein kicked off, sure it's bc I haven't worked it out yet ( do you know? what it's like? to have written my own poems?) Trust me, there are tears in my eyes s I type this, but fuck this.
I ABHOR the eroding of righteous boundaries this represents as all right.
i will speak up agaainst it at every turn, tho my nose is mrunnin
There really is research around isolating and removing specific memories. Due to the way the brain stores memories it's possible to do it with a pill. They'd be gone forever though. Not one of those reversible things, and it's not like it would wipe an entire swathe; the way it is supposed to work is you take whatever blocker they use in its pill form, then try to actively recall the memory you don't want, and since it's blocked in transit, it's dissipated and gone forever.
So I could make myself forget that my wife had an affair and be really confused about it coming to read my shit here and wonder why I was posting here.
My wife must believe she is a neurologist. Or perhaps a Jedi.
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Just please give me a break, for having to sing
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Her reality is artificially constructed & conducted in that case. Like all artificially constructed realities these are destined to fail.
Yeah I forgot the kamikaze sperm. That sounds fishy. So much that I completely forgotabout that even though the title of the book points to it,
Still, the evolutionary hypothesis for the reproductive strategies I think was pretty good. Even gays were explained. Made sense for me and I read it when it was out right after my W's affairs.
As for GTA - I am a dry gamer so I must not get close to it. The hardest one to avoid was SC2 but if Warcraft IV is ever launched I may end up divorced :)
Anyway, removing memories and affairs - what was that movie that had a place to remove people's memories? Don't want to say any spoilers though...
There are few authentic people in this world. The confusing, contradictory signals todays society gives, produces exactly that. Confused, contradictory people. Very few are willing to put forth the effort to examine what is truth. What is the deeper meaning? What does it benefit me?
Today, hell, everyday I search for people who "get it". Who believe in something so deep that they are willing to endure ridicule and scorn to achieve what they believe. That is who I aspire to be, it is who I seek in my FWW.
The young man at DQ who returned the blind man's $20 from his own pocket after an elderly woman stole it with no expectation of reward. The speech Jimmy Stewart in Mr. Smith goes to Washington. Right or wrong, he believed what he was saying.
The passion of deeply held beliefs, truths if you will, is now held in contempt. "Go with the flow", "Keep up with society". Where is what we held to be true? Trudging one step at a time down a gentle incline that eventually leads to..., well you know. But it's not so bad today is it?"
What has love become? What is commitment? Why has it become so cheap?
Like I said, sometimes I'm dense.
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