So I open her text and it says, "where ya at? Did you get a pool?" and I'm like, huh? then open his text and it's a picture of my youngest standing on the edge of my old neighbor's pool driving his new radio controlled boat my ex just bought him...and it dawns on me that the asshole sent that picture to BOTH of us...as though that woman has ANY right to see my child or know anything about my kids.
I was seeing red. I have been over this for such a long time. I have moved on! We are past our required 1 year separation point, simply co-parent, and I'm just waiting to get the final D in the mail at this point....but his insensitive ass thrust her right back into my world once again with this. WTF?
So I couldn't help it, it texted him and told him he was an asshole for sending that to both of us, that she is not welcome around my children and I want his whore to have nothing to do with my precious boys. I texted her and told her that she was to stay away from my children while she was still sleeping around on her husband...told her to ruin her own child's home life but leave mine out of her drama.
He texts me "sorry about that, was just trying to be nice. She is my friend, u don't need to text her. she's not around our kids ever, she's not really around. kids are gonna be late, I just got them an hour ago"
FUCKING ASSHOLE...if she's not around my kids, and not ever really around...why the fuck does she need a picture of them?! do I look like an idiot? And NO...they will not be late yet again on a fucking school night like every other god damn time you have them, because YOU don't know how to be on time and picked them up an hour late for your visitation!!! Grow the fuck up and parent...
she of course gave me an attitude and asked me to leave HER alone! I replied basically telling her I have never wanted anything to do with her or inserted myself into her life...she on the other hand has no fucking morals or consideration for the three children whose lives she blew up and doesn't deserve the shit they wipe from their asses, let alone to have any tiny window into their worlds. Leave ME and MINE the fuck alone!
God damnit! Her self-absorption and entitlement is mind boggling and his insensitivity is mind boggling. I told him yet again...(he has no boundaries and continues to do whatever the hell he wants)that he is to text or email from now on. Do not call. we are not friends or even friendly and I have no interest in chatting with him about fucking life after he calls to say goodnight to his kids or any other time. I choose people who care and respect me as friends...he does neither.
He replies with.."I'm sure your still upset so I guess now isn't the time to have a reasonable conversation. I'm sorry about tonight. I hope you still get some sleep. goodnight" Reasonable conversation? what part of leave me alone, I want nothing more to do with you and we are no longer friends whatsoever is confusing???
You should have sent your response to both of them.
He needs to choose. He can be "just friend" with her, or he can be married to you. Not both.
Hard 180 with this jagoff.
ThisHell, I am furious for you! What a waste of space this guy is.
You need to go hardcore NC with this scumbag.
Accident my arse. A few weeks after S the sad clown 'accidentally' sent me a "soooo.. what are you wearing" text. It made my skin crawl.
If you haven't outed her to her BS I'd do so immediately. He deserves to know.
Unfortunately you won't be able to control who he brings around your children unless she is an actual, physical danger to them.
Stop engaging. Stop fighting. Stop the contact. NC is your friend here. It is the only way you can pull yourself out of his crazy vortex.
He is showing you who he is. Believe him.
I am that person that believes that, especially with kids, if there was a chance at reconciliation and I wanted that, then we were not separating. but he maintained contact with OW and after trying to reconcile, I just couldn't. I moved on emotionally and was DONE before I kicked him out and our official separation began for the court system. I didn't want to put my kids through all that (dad leaving, mom and dad trying, dad moving back in, that sort of thing.. ) so I was ready for divorce over a year ago. we aren't in reconciliation...just trying to coparent with an npd idiot.
I said my piece to the both of them and from here on out, I'm done trying to be cordial and polite to him. complete NC. We have a separation agreement in place, its all set to be incorporated into the divorce decree and I have nothing left to say to his sorry ass. just makes me sick. he says he doesn't have many friends and he's keeping the ones he has (HER), and that he rarely talks to her at all...she's never around the kids....yeah. ok. so wtf does she need a picture of MY child for? Didn't see any responses from family or close friends that even KNOW my kids come through so I assume it was just sent to her and I. Other wise I would have seen other "oh how cute" responses....jackass
in my opinion (since I don't believe anything he says) she is a bored woman in her marriage, immature, and selfish and a drama lover. I don't know her husbands phone number and at this point, have no idea if they are still living together.
and legally, can't he send pictures to whomever he wants? she's a great person and super nice friend ya know..
I got a text from her "nice try Christina" and a threat to file a restraining order and leave her alone
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling
Screw him and her!
DD#2: 9/28/2010 with a follow up on 1/28/2011 where he decided to come clean about the EA actually being a PA.
The OW could have been anybody and both turned out to be nobody special.