But is it: A) You are both making efforts at R, but the WS doesn't quite fully "get it" yet? or B) You think you are both making efforts at R, but the WS is actually still deceiving you?
[This message edited by MovingUpward at 9:54 AM, September 19th (Thursday)]
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So, yeah, I equate "false R" with "pretend R".
Now we are working on A. I'm not sure he will ever fully "get it" though.
I would consider true R as both making efforts, the WS carrying the brunt, true remore and not one ounce of bullshit to be found ANYWHERE.
[This message edited by OldCow18 at 10:56 AM, September 19th (Thursday)]
I'm not sure he will ever fully "get it" though.
So very true... This disheartens me greatly.
...not one ounce of bullshit to be found ANYWHERE.
Don't I wish... (and I must add: on pondering this quote, I had to laugh out loud.... funny that the OldCow doesn't want anymore bullshit... yep, I'm losing it. Definitely looking for any reason to laugh today.) Thanks.
funny that the OldCow doesn't want anymore bullshit
Lol! Love it. From now on the word "Bullshit" will mean so much more
What if they don't get that part, and continue to rugsweep?
TBT, (truth be told), it was one of the highest levels of deceit I've witnessed in my whole life, because he knew what I wanted more than anything and messed with my head repeatedly.
And, FWIW, this is what finally led me to file papers against him, though part of me died to do so.
The questions from fightingback seem two-fold from my POV. If he honestly "doesn't get it", that may be real and not false...if he is rug sweeping, that's not cool and not the same thing as "not getting it".
If he rug sweeps I tend to think he does, in fact, get it, because otherwise, what's to put under the rug but lint do you KWIM? Rug sweeping in my experience and some friends isn't a good sign of "True R".
So, in my experience, it is more along the lines of B.
[This message edited by Ashland13 at 8:59 AM, September 20th (Friday)]
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