The absolute lowest thing WH did that can still bring me to tears is when I was pregnant with DS2 I went through a pre-partum depression/anxiety ( my doc assured me it was common) It was a VERY trying dark time for me & at the time, my WH was the MOST supportive. It is something only WH, my OB, my Aunt & grandmother knew.. I didn't share it with anyone & didn't tell my kids..
One time during the A, I had OW in a state of panic ( a for real state of panic, she checked into a psych hospital after we spoke) she was worried that I was going to tell her BH.. So, she decided to call my oldest son (who was 15 at the time) & he told her to not call him again & called her a crazy homewrecking bitch & she went off on him & told him that she was crazy but I was more crazy & told him the entire story of what happened when I was pregnant with his brother..
After we R'ed I asked WH why he told her as he knew I wanted it kept private.. He said he told it to a group of people in passing at work months before the A when they were telling pregnancy stories.. I call bull - first off, who tells a story that they knew their wife had problems with, especially a story so painful. second, he told a GROUP of people????.. which is worse than only telling OW..
I think he told her the story to make me look crazy & couldn't think of anything better so he told that story.
It's been over 5 years & I'm crying as I type this.. that's how low he went!!
I edit my posts often. Improper grammar irritates me.
He also befriended her teenage daughters. All while ignoring and neglecting his own children.
DD#1 July 28, 2010 Admitted to EA. A went underground.
DD#2 August 19,2010 Admitted PA
2. He let her mail a gift to our youngest daughter from him. I hate that thing but can't get rid of it because of what it means to her that Daddy sent a gift from overseas.
3. The night he was due home for his mid-tour, his plane was delayed and she just happened to be home on leave in the area. She drove to the airport and spent the night with him in his hotel. Since she'd been on leave, he had already gotten through the withdrawal period. But that started it all over again so he acted strange for the first few weeks he was home. By the time he started acting like my husband, it was time to go back. I hadn't seen him in 8 months and they tainted the little bit of time we had together before he had to go back. That hurt more than anything and she made sure I knew about it.
1. Right after the first time they slept together, he sent me an email telling me how much he loved me, how perfect I am, and how proud he was to be my husband.
2. Again, he was away from home and although we spoke more often, he didn't answer my calls because of the affair. He doesn't dare not answer his phone now because it's such a trigger for me.
3. He made me look him in the eye so he could swear he didn't sleep with her. He never faltered. It makes it hard to believe he was ever honest.
20 yrs. old, single, naive, thoughtless, but not deliberately hurtful.
OW#2 05/2010- 07/2010
44 yrs.old, married bitch in heat who acted like a whore and got treated like one.
[This message edited by Bluebird26 at 11:59 PM, September 21st (Saturday)]
You reminded me about mother's day. How could I forget?
He fucked OW2 the night before mother's day. Then went to Walmart afterwards and bought be a bunch of crap for mothers day which he proceeded to dump on the counter and told me I could look at, while he sat at the table and ate because he was "starving". Guess fucking a whole really builds an appetite.
Then he proceeded to take a shower in front of me. He might as well have just told me for as little as he could have cared in that moment.
There are many but I will just give the highlights:
1. He suggested I travel 250 miles away for the weekend to see our adult children for Mother's Day. I now know it was really so he could screw OW3 for the first time.
2. I went to visit our children another weekend. I left Friday afternoon and came home Sunday. I later found out he screwed her on Fri and Sat and me on Sunday. Classy.
3. The hospital called my work to tell me my mother was dying and had only hours. I called him on his cell (it was his day off) and asked him to come to the hospital to be with me. He gave me an excuse about having to take his sick nephew to a specialist. I later found out he actually had a play date with his whore. So while I sat holding my dying mother's hand he was screwing her. Nice. (Two days later was dday. When I found out about the lie regarding his nephew, told him I knew and couldn't understand how he could do this he said "But I loved your mother". I slapped him...... My bad!!)
I do believe an alien race has invaded our planet. How can these people be human????
HUGS to all
These were new neighbors at the time...I didn't really get to know them until long after my husband had left me.
I think the very lowest thing he did was marry me---"because you loved me, and I didn't know if anyone else would."
That seems relatively innocuous, until you think about it. He asked me to marry him--knowing I was just an option, but never telling me.
From Day One, he was on the hunt--to SEE if "someone else would."
He did a lot of disgusting things. But it really all comes back to this.
[This message edited by fourever at 3:15 PM, September 22nd (Sunday)]
Always, tell the other BS! Always!
"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!