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User Topic: What do ask a lawyer for to stop OW from contacting you?
changedforlife
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Default  Posted: 8:40 AM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After the most recent contact from OW, I want to get a lawyer to send a letter demanding OW stop all contact to me, WH, and any of our immediate and extended family. Is there a name for such a letter? Do I have to prove anything? Is it difficult to do?

I am in Canada and the OW lives in a different province if that makes a difference. Any advice or experience with this would be appreciated.


Me - BS/Him - WH (in our 40's)
Together 21 years/ 1 preschooler
D-day - Jan 24/13 He confessed about affair.
Broken NC -Feb 7-22,Feb 28,March 6
Continued Contact up to July 16
D-DAY 2-July 19 FALSE R!

Posts: 132 | Registered: Feb 2013
LivinginLimbo
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Default  Posted: 9:56 AM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm not in Canada, but we did have to take this step.

In our case, the MOW was constantly contacting my FWH. When we blocked her phone, she simply got another one.

The lawyer prepared a letter stating she had to stop any and all contact. He referred to the law she'd be breaking and enclosed a copy of it. It was hand delivered by a process server so she couldn't claim she didn't get it.

Since I'm not familiar with your judicial system, I don't know if there's a similar statute that your OW would be in violation of.

It cost $300. Well worth the 4 months of peace we've had since.


BS - 62
FWH - 60
Married 34 years
D-Day 2/12/12
Doing well with R

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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In the US it's called a "Cease and Desist" letter.

Not sure what it would be called in your neck of the woods.

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

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changedforlife
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Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you! Did you have to provide any proof that they were harassing you? I know it may be different in different places but I would like to be prepared. Also, did the letter just include yourself and/or WS or other family members?

ETA: Sorry about the typo in the title. I'm not sure if I was trying to say "to" or "do you".

[This message edited by changedforlife at 11:18 AM, September 20th (Friday)]


Me - BS/Him - WH (in our 40's)
Together 21 years/ 1 preschooler
D-day - Jan 24/13 He confessed about affair.
Broken NC -Feb 7-22,Feb 28,March 6
Continued Contact up to July 16
D-DAY 2-July 19 FALSE R!

Posts: 132 | Registered: Feb 2013
BW2639
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Default  Posted: 12:09 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We had a lawyer send a letter to the Ex OM. It was one visit to the lawyers office and cost about $175 if I remember correctly. He( the lawyer) referred to the state laws on stalking and such, and said if it continued, further legal action would be taken. It stopped him (OM) from calling, and leaving "gifts" on her car but he still sends an occasional message.


married 21 yr
Reconciling

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