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User Topic: Trying to buy me back, not gonna work.
MissMarple
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Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH has been cheap and crappy with gifts our entire marriage. He didn't even buy me an engagement ring, I went out and bought myself one the next day. (Red flag, I know, I was young and in looovvveee) Anyways, he knows now that I want a divorce, and that I'm done with him. He's had months since D-day to show remorse, repentance, make things right. But NOW, after I tell him it's over, he buys me a Keurig coffee maker. I've wanted one for years, but he wouldn't buy one, because he doesn't drink coffee, and why would he buy something that only I would use? So, I'm going to enjoy my new coffee maker, guilt free, and I'm still going to divorce him. One coffee maker is not going to win me back. Too little, too late!


BS (me) 29
WH 29
Married for 7 years
One son age 4
D-day 4-29-13
Multiple hookers on Craigslist!!!
Getting ready to file.

Posts: 33 | Registered: May 2013
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 4:17 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LOL more pages out of the remorseless WS handbook.

XWH tried to buy me back too.
I got (cheap and ill-made) jewelry, the wine fridge that I'd been requesting for a couple of years, and a few other odds and ends. Too little, too late indeed. I kept the wine fridge and other appliances, put the cheap jewelry in a box of his stuff, and divorced his butt anyway.

I have no doubt that his OW were the recipients of the unwanted jewelry I returned to him.

ETA:
A thought struck me.
The jewelry of XWH and my current husband are in stark contrast and kind of symbolic of the relationships with each of them.
XWH bought cheap, just-to-shut-me-up jewelry and even then only when he felt he had to in order to make up or kiss up. He did not value me or the marriage and it was obvious in a lot of ways.
Every year (so far), current hubby has bought me one piece of Tiffany jewelry (squeeee). Hubby puts in a lot of time and effort selecting something he knows I will love. He even plans out unusual ways in which to present the gift (ie one year, he bought a crockpot for me and the box was stashed inside).
Current hubby treats me like a Goddess and never fails to make me smile- even when I feel like screaming.

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 4:23 PM, September 20th (Friday)]


Me - 41
My Rockstar (Hubs #2) - 46, faithful, & an absolute doll!
DD(20) and DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids (4 Dogs and 2 Cats)

The Cheater:
WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW. Undiagnosed SA?)
Married 18yrs

Note: I edit often for typos/clarity.


Posts: 5532 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: United States
kg201
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Member # 40173
Default  Posted: 4:49 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm still waiting for my buy-me back present. I hope it's something good, unlike the lack of presents I tended to get while married. Maybe she'll get me a new wife if I'm good.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
---------------------------------
"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 388 | Registered: Aug 2013
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't sell out for the multi-pack of chapstick I got for Christmas. Didn't work.

Gee, how could I resist a multi-pack of chapstick?


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 elementary school-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 8790 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

multi-pack of chapstick I got for Christmas
Seriously?!! That's what you got for Christmas?!!
NG, how were you not INSTANTLY on your back with your legs in the air?!


Me - 41
My Rockstar (Hubs #2) - 46, faithful, & an absolute doll!
DD(20) and DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids (4 Dogs and 2 Cats)

The Cheater:
WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW. Undiagnosed SA?)
Married 18yrs

Note: I edit often for typos/clarity.


Posts: 5532 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: United States
Phoenix1
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Member # 38928
Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The last gift my POS gave me was a .357 magnum laser-sighted revolver for my birthday....

How prophetic. Maybe, deep down, he really knew what I thought of him!

Nothing says romance and remorse more than a firearm!


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs, started 1994? - never stopped
Kids - 22, 20, 17
M Dissolved 2013!!!

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man, ~ Shakespeare


Posts: 828 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
sleepless34
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Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It was my birthday Wednesday and he had the kids the night before. They said, oh maybe we should get mommy a birthday present. They come with a crumpled up bag from whole foods, taped together, and it had 2 cookies in it.

gee thanks!


Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...

Posts: 406 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Hell
sleepless34
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Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It was my birthday Wednesday and he had the kids the night before. They said, oh maybe we should get mommy a birthday present. They come with a crumpled up bag from whole foods, taped together, and it had 2 cookies in it.

gee thanks!


Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...

Posts: 406 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Hell
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 5:53 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It was my birthday Wednesday and he had the kids the night before. They said, oh maybe we should get mommy a birthday present.
HE sucks, but at least you know your babies were thinking about you.


Me - 41
My Rockstar (Hubs #2) - 46, faithful, & an absolute doll!
DD(20) and DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids (4 Dogs and 2 Cats)

The Cheater:
WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW. Undiagnosed SA?)
Married 18yrs

Note: I edit often for typos/clarity.


Posts: 5532 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: United States
Housefulloflove
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Default  Posted: 6:24 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

These jackasses suck at every part of life. "Oh no, wife is leaving me. How can I win her back? A coffee maker! Yeah that's enough."

Mine got me a coffee maker (but didn't spring for a Keurig, I got a Mr Coffee k-cup maker) and he got me a ninja (the food processor). It was more of a bribe to ignore his adultery rather than a "take me back!" gift (I hadn't kicked his dumbass out yet.)

The first thing I bought myself after kicking him out was a Keurig. I never bought myself anything remotely expensive for the sake of our budget while he bought himself top-of-the-line EVERYTHING on our shoe-string budget. I can't wait to experience a relationship with a real man and not a piss poor impersonation of one!

Enjoy your coffee maker! Waking up to a fresh and hot cup of coffee is a hell of a lot better than waking up to a jackass with morning breath!


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

kg201
Bwahahahahahahaha!
Good one!
I have to say, when STBXH actually got around to buying me gifts, he did get nice and often expensive ones. Shame he couldn't give me the gift of true love and faithfulness!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB

Posts: 1787 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
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