Was I wrong to do this? All I could think was that I didn't want that in my life, and that she needed to "go away" forever. Who waits a year to message and stir shit up? I'm certain he hasn't done the initial communication, so it's not him I'm worried about, I just think she needs to move the F on and leave us be. She has her pain to heal, and I have mine, I'm sorry she was dragged in and hurt by him too, but I don't have the time or energy to worry about it, and any conversation that would go on between the two would just slip me back into a dark void. I did think about testing him, to see how transparent he would be about it, but I need to concentrate on work and life right.
Why does this have to be so damn hard:(
“Change happens when the pain of holding on becomes greater than the fear of letting go.”
Come to think of it, I did respond to a FB message from my WH's FB a few years ago. She was an old girlfriend who had been private messaging him.
At the time I didn't realize the level of infidelity my WH was capable of. I'm pretty sure I intercepted an emotional affair waiting to happen, b/c she was definitely a slippery slope for him.
I laid down the law -- gained access to everything, insisted on passwords, yada, yada, yada...but then fell back into old routines, and began trusting again pretty quickly.
Almost exactly three years later to the day, I discovered a full blown EA with another old girlfriend. Then I learned of 2 ONS. And countless inappropriate texts and PMs with an unknown number of other women.
I'm not sure how long it will take for me to trust again.
Yeah. Pretty sure I would have responded, deleted, and blocked her as well.