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User Topic: sometimes I feel there's just too much baggage to continue
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Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

every time stuff gets uncomfortable in life, he shuts down. Doesn't matter if it's this or my A or problems with his FOO or work. If it's uncomfortable, he's out (mentally & emotionally).

When this happens, how do you deal with it? How do you feel about him when he reacts this way?

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Default  Posted: 7:49 PM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel extremely frustrated with him when he reacts this way. I do feel less frustrated than I used to, though (pre-A). I've come a long way in accepting that it's his personality and even though it's the polar opposite of mine, I didn't get into a relationship with a clone of myself, I got into one with him. At the end of the day, I need to accept him for who he is. He's not likely to change after 40+ years of it.

I deal with it mostly by dropping the subject, whichever one it may be at the time.

Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10


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