Nothing you do is chicken shit; this crap is hard and you didn't ask for it or deserve it. We are all proud of you for everything you have done so far.
I know many disagree with this. I did for a long time. But, given that I know (and married unknowingly) the outcome of a "secret-driven" FOO, I have to say that his advice was spot on.
[This message edited by OldCow18 at 3:52 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)]
I get nauseous knowing that WH sent cock-shots out to C/L people and who knows who else. There are photos of his freaking genitals out there somewhere for my kids to possibly find someday! Seriously?! I simply can't even fathom how to explain that to them. There IS no appropriate explanation for that! lol
OC18, keep us posted on everything. We're here for you. You're doing great.
I was 7. I already knew...
But was very glad that my mother was willing to be honest with me and treated me with respect without belittling my father or herself. She remained classy and allowed us to make our own decisions on what relationship we want to have with our father. She even said to give him a chance. Of course, years and years later, he blew up that chance anyway... And my mother remained BLAMELESS cause not one bad word about him was said and we made our own decisions as to what we would call "father"...
Just saying, just because they are children doesn't mean they don't know. It actually made me feel relief that someone finally felt they should tell me. I was able to accept the situation better.
Hope that helps.
[This message edited by Simple at 5:08 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)]
True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.
She can also lose her job, which they may also need that money so he may not go to HR. Also, consider that his threat of going to HR was told to you by the two liars. WH and OW. How much faith you put in that is up to you.
I never told my WH of my phone call with her BS. But guess who told him? Yep. She called my WH.
I would call the BS immediately. Be calm. Share the facts.
We get scared because it is so out of our realm of thinking. We know we will be a part of someone's pain, a pain we know too well.
It's not our fault.
D Day: July 27, 2012
Day of first suspicion: 6/7/11
DD#2: November 2, 2012
[This message edited by TICKED OFF at 12:04 AM, September 25th (Wednesday)]
Begin to really protect yourself and kids.
Always, tell the other BS! Always!
"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!