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User Topic: Just found out he's engaged
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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy Birthday Dawn!!!!!!

Do not grieve for him. He is not worth your tears. He will be her problem now and you are free from his temper tantrums. Just think that she won that great prize she wanted so bad. I bet in a few years she will want to give him back, but guess what?? No deposit, NO return!!!

I hope you have a wonderful birthday and that the future holds nothing but the best years of your life.

M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy Belated Birthday, Dawn!

And big (((hugs))) to you with this recent news you've found out. It must be so hard. I dread hearing this news myself someday, and I do believe it will happen sooner than later. I go back and forth between hoping they break up with much drama and angst, and hoping they stay together forever so that he can never inflict this kind of pain on anyone else. (Well, except maybe OW, and she deserves it! ) But how I'll actually feel when that moment comes.... *shudder.*

Applause to you for handling this news with grace and courage, the way you've handled everything else. You are one strong lady.

Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin

Posts: 912 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
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Default  Posted: 9:12 AM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you all for your kind words and encouragement.

This just hurts. I was at my divorce support group last night and the facilitator was going through the local newspaper and there was a picture of my husband and his mistress, which she cut out and shared with the group. Had lunch with a friend yesterday and she works in SB and told me the rumors were flying that my husband and mistress were married.

I need NC. Any news I get about him, at this point in time, only causes me pain and upset. I soooooo look forward to the day when I am indifferent, but I am not there yet.

My birthday wish for myself this year, was for my heart to be healed. To have freedom from my narcissistic, self absorbed, selfish and heartless husband. To be happy again, joyous and free. To surround myself with caring and loyal friends. To continue to pursue my passion at school. To continue to grow stronger, more confident and most importantly, love myself. I am a strong, beautiful, caring, loving and kind woman. I will not be defined by his selfishness, his affair or this divorce. There are moments when I want the karma bus to mow him down. There are times I don't understand why I can't speak my truth about what has happened because I will be viewed as the vengeful ex-wife. There are times that I want justice, now.

We have gone through hell. We have walked through the fires of despair, pain, self-doubt, anger, blame, shame, rage and confusion. We are stronger than we know and my prayer is to get to the other side. For as deeply as I have felt the pain and angst, is how deeply I will feel my happiness, joy and love on the other side. That is my wish for all of us.

I got into the marriage, because I loved him. I got out of the marriage, because I love me.

Posts: 479 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Southern California
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Default  Posted: 4:40 PM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are times I don't understand why I can't speak my truth about what has happened because I will be viewed as the vengeful ex-wife.

You can speak the truth, if done calmly and without rancor or bitterness. The truth does will out!

------ Some people are emotional tadpoles. Even if they mature they are just a warty toad. Catt

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