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User Topic: In house separation coming to an end
hopeandchange
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Evil  Posted: 8:49 PM, September 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

stbxww found a place and is putting in an offer to purchase. So our sharing our home will soon be coming to an end.

It is nearby so it will be easy for me to see the kids often.

I gave her time to find the right place in a tough (scarce) housing market and it has been difficult for me emotionally but I am glad that I have been able to look past the betrayal for her and our kids to have the right place.

Another transition for me and looking forward to it.

h&c


BH (me, 50)
WS (her, 48)
Divorced!
3 wonderful teens
Heading for Happiness

Posts: 401 | Registered: Sep 2011
kg201
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Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, September 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats H&C. That sounds really good about the closeness for your kids.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
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"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 376 | Registered: Aug 2013
dbellanon
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Default  Posted: 9:50 PM, September 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As someone who went through an in-house separation, let me add a few more of those smiley faces to celebrate your liberation.


ME: BH, 28
Her: WW, 27
DD: 4
Married 6 Years.
DDay: Early May, 2013
Divorced

Posts: 188 | Registered: May 2013
JamieMc
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Default  Posted: 10:49 PM, September 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Unbelievably unselfish, your love for your kiddos while you and WW sorted things out, I applaud you for taking the high road Jamie


BS early 50's Wh also early 50's. I am Jamie, Mom to 3 great teens/young adults. My WH and I have been together more than half of our lives and married 25+. We are in MC & going to give R our best shot, hoping and praying for a better 2013!

Posts: 109 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: USA
mandan66
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Default  Posted: 11:03 PM, September 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes---let me echo dbellanon. Nothing worse than in-house separation, but man, when its over and the WS moves out, it really allows you to take that deep breath and exhale. I also took the high road, and it was so hellish doing it for these months, it has made our divorce (finished this Friday) much easier to survive (for me, anyhow)
H&C, your kids will thank you for this someday.


Me: 47; WW: 48
2 DS: 9, 14
M:18--T:19
DDay: Jan/13
Divorced and Done!--7/13

Posts: 121 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: KS
newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 11:51 PM, September 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, good for you. I can't imagine the hell of in house separation. It would have been difficult for me to not have suffocated the Gnat in his sleep.

I'm glad that your kids will be close by. The Gnat only lives about a mile from me and it is really nice for the kids. I don't like having to worry about running into he and Hello Kitty in the neighborhood though.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 713 | Registered: Mar 2013
AussieMum
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Default  Posted: 12:30 AM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In house separation was horrific for me. It was a huge relief when he moved out - I hope you feel that relief too.

That's great that you'll be close to your kids


Me 46
STBXH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS11 & DD7)
Separated Jan 13. He's now living with OW3.

Posts: 179 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 9:09 AM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The end of in-house S means detachment on turboboost! HandC, welcome to the next chapter. Still lots of ups and downs but the ups last way longer and the downs dimish further over time.


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
STBXWW = Her
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Separated 6/2013, D official around 6/2014

Posts: 1566 | Registered: May 2011
laney57
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Default  Posted: 6:02 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

YAY!!!! You're an inspiration H&C and a great father! I'm still behind, but love to hear this!


Me - BS, 43
Him - WH, 45
Married - 22 years
D-Day - 05/12/2012
Trying to find me.
Gotta do this, but I'm broken - headed for divorce - 02/20
Hell if I know - 02/24
INS 07/2013 Divorcing

Posts: 226 | Registered: May 2012 | From: KY
gypsybird87
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Default  Posted: 6:16 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What great news!

My in-house separation lasted only eight days, and every moment of it was HELL.

I am in complete awe of anyone who can endure an extended period of time like you have done. Good job in doing the right thing for your kids!


Me: BS, 45 Him: XWH, 45
Together 8 yrs, married for 5
DDay 04.10.13 Divorced 05.14.13
Two furbabies

Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. ~ JK Rowling


Posts: 566 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As someone who went through an in-house separation, let me add a few more of those smiley faces to celebrate your liberation.

Me too. It was such a relief when xWW finally left and limbo was over. Your selflessness in looking out for the kids best interest is admirable.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3065 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:55 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Kudos to you. I couldn't take the separation- I finally just moved his crap out.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 6987 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So happy for you. I was on the other end of the situation-- the BW who was looking desperately to move out-- but either way, it was SUCH a relief to end that stage.

It was decent of you to let her stay. Here's hoping that her move will be very soon!


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3387 | Registered: Oct 2011
Celticlass
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((H&C))) Mega hugs.....you can do this last bit! Hang in there! It will be over soon, now think about how you'd like to reclaim the space. Those thoughts should take you through the rest of the process.

You have arrived, kiddo! Your new beginning is on the horizon....Aim high


BGF - 46

One, two, three like a bird I sing because you have given me the most beautiful set of wings----Tim McGraw


Posts: 72 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Lone Star State
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