Hi, I've been wondering how you were getting on. Being apart makes everything take that much longer to process, questions have to wait and your mind takes flight, I know only too well, it's very hard.
As for the IC, honey, drop that one and find another, sounds like you're like me, I had to see someone who actually participated in the session. One I went to sat there like a manikin, clip board on her knee, didn't say a damn word..... suffice to say, she only got one fee from me. Email a few, interview them online, ask them questions on their views on infidelity, then choose the one that sounds like might be a good fit for you.
Hugs needadrink, thinking of you.