If they are close, his mother will almost certainly ask him about your conversation with her. He either will or will not begin the process of revealing his infidelity.
Whether you understand it or not, you showed both great strength and grace when many would have chosen another path. Please understand how admirable that Is and the good things this says about you, especially in such awful circumstances.
[This message edited by Merlin at 6:39 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)]
Her: WW/57 Me: BS/63 24yrs M
3 great kids, now 22, 20, 17 b,b,g
D-Day 8/14/08, D 1/13/11
I was there when my WH told his parents the first half of his story. I was still the supportive wife giving the gift of R. It was a difficult conversation for everyone, and I can't imagine the pain and disappointment his parents must have felt. My MIL told WH "We will always love you, even if we don't love your behavior."
When D-Day #2 came around, and I found my deal breaker, I felt the need to explain my changed attitude to my ILs. It was a hard and awkward conversation and I only outlined the broad strokes of what happened. It's my now STBXH's responsibility to fill in the rest, unless they ask me questions directly.
This whole situation is painful for everyone involved. The truth will get back to your ILs eventually. It is best if your WS tells them sooner rather than later.
Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.
I IM her just bits and pieces but when I called her and told her what REALLY happened, I heard her crying and all she could say is "I'm sorry dear." She was in shock, she was so ashamed of his behavior and just made herself available to me at any time.
My family is all gone, I talk to a couple of people about this, but I think our whole circle of friends know. Such a tough situation to be in, and I'm really sorry you are going through this
Status: In careful R. Sometimes spinning our wheels and starti
[This message edited by dawnmarie at 8:43 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)]
Absolutely. I feel she has been trying to rug sweep this. Blaming me for being in a bad mood yesterday when I triggered pretty hard.
The kicker to all this is my MIL met her current husband (Father of my WGF) while she was married. I told the MIL that because she told this to her daughter, it made it OK to cheat if you're going through a tough spot in a relationship.
We've been butting heads all week and this was the final straw.
She was thinking of coming here for THREE months in Jan. I told her about 30min ago that she was not welcome in my apartment. I used to get along so wonderfully with her mother too, better than my mom at times. But, this ruined it.