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Ambergray
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Default  Posted: 6:40 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been reading your posts and the healing library for a little over two months. I had my dday in June. WH and I have been married 18 years, with two children. I found out he had an A with OW for about 18 months. It was actually over for a few months when I found out. I was completely shocked and devastated. I cannot imagine a worse betrayal. Everything I knew in this world changed that day. I now look at everyone and every situation differently. My innocence is gone. We are in MC and going to R, but it is still very new and I come here daily for support. I just thought I should finally say hello.


Me-38
WH-38
Dday June 2013

"What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson


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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 8:48 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Welcome Ambergray.


Walk away from anything or anyone who takes away your joy. Life is too short to put up with fools.

Posts: 13807 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
avicarswife
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Default  Posted: 9:00 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hi Ambergray,

I was completely shocked and devastated. I cannot imagine a worse betrayal. Everything I knew in this world changed that day. I now look at everyone and every situation differently. My innocence is gone.

I think all of us can relate to this. Suddenly your world becomes a before and after! You view the world quite differently.

I had no idea of the devastation this could wreak on you either.

Keep posting and welcome


BS: 47 (me)
WH: 51
Married 26 yrs, 3 kids (16-24)
D-Days 2012: 23 - 24 May + TT
D-Day 2013: 12 Apr OW#3
mOW #1 EA yrs PA Feb 2009-end 2011
mOW #2 EA months PA 4 months 2010
OW #3 PA single time 2010
Status: Maybe 'R'

Posts: 727 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: "down-under"
cluless
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Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well we have the 18 mos. A in common I am sorry for the pain this is causing you, I can relate!

My WH PA/EA was with his first girlfriend of 30 years ago! He wanted to see if he was still in love with her. The first time they committed adultery was 3 days after my BD. I told him that was as low as you can go, but then he had sex with her our anniversary month. So, to me our marriage ended when his heart and lust went to another woman. I'm not wearing my wedding ring anymore. We are trying to reconcile, it is a rough road.

I have had a lot of tragedies in my life. Mom died when I was 16, brother died when I was 19, I came from an alcoholic family, was molested by 4 different family members and was basically not wanted and taught to believe I'm stupid. But THIS is more painful than all of it combined.

Just keep working on you, do what you need to, but eat and drink plenty of water. Wine doesn't count!


WH 57
BS 55 -- Me!
LTA EA/PA 1-1/2 years.
D-Day 8-12, 2nd D-Day 9-13, 3rd D-Day 10-13 (stopped counting tt still coming in)
Married 17 yrs, together 20.
MC & IC has been a JOKE.

Status: In careful R. Sometimes spinning our wheels and starti


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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 11:42 AM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Welcome

I'm glad that you've found us.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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