This is a tough one. When I met my WH he was addicted to porn, had a subscription to Playboy, visited strip clubs, and would even stare at a woman walking right in front of me!
Yes I would have broken up with him IF I wasn't pregnant with his child. I educated him on how degrading this is to women and how it makes me feel. He still looks at women inappropriately but is working on it.
I caught my WH having a sexting r'ship. For a year I believed him that it was ONLY a cyberaffair. We were rebuilding our relationship and then it all came crashing down when he was pushed into a corner and had to admit he had a PA.
My advice to you is to be guarded. I also felt "better" but still horribly betrayed since I thought there was so physical contact, and the way he described her when he met her for "coffee" was that he was disgusted with her appearance. Although he still maintains that, then why did he have sex with her 5 times over the course of 18 months?
I only found out b/c his slut's husband and I had been working on this together to get at the truth, but he was persuaded NOT to tell me about the screwing. My WH almost left me to keep from having to admit it. That was 25 days ago and I'm still reeling.
Ask him to take a lie detector's test, look for his reaction.
BS 54 -- Me!
LTA EA/PA 1-1/2 years.
D-Day 8-12, 2nd D-Day 9-13, 3rd D-Day 10-13 4th D-Day 10-14. 5th D-Day 10-31-13
Married 15 yrs, together 19.
MC & IC has been a JOKE.
Tried to reconcile for 6 months, I couldn't get past the pai